The other half, is it you or me?

Bryon 2021-12-17 08:01:17

I didn't want to get up in the morning, so the cat watched the movie in bed.
The style is rather funny, and the meaning is actually very deep. I feel that I am more like an author like this. According to the evaluation of other people in the film, I am living in my own world, not contacting other people, or even willing to contact other people.
There are a few points in the movie that resonate with me:
1. The idea of ​​"dreams come true". This is actually very old-fashioned, as mentioned in the introduction. Everyone has imagined that their dreams will come true, but some people dream of some material things, such as beautiful scenery, spacious rooms, and a leisurely and prosperous life; and the protagonist only dreams of a love object-even just At the beginning, it was just an object of communication. People who are alone tend to fall into fantasy, almost without exception. They need to use these intangible things to bring him a sense of security, a kind of happiness. Some people think that people who are alone are always lonely, which is inaccurate.
2. About "self". We often say, "treat others as yourself", this is almost a good principle, but in fact it is very difficult to achieve. On the one hand, it is difficult to be "be nice to yourself". Because people are very lazy and only care about their own health and seldom pay attention to thinking, it doesn't matter if they care about themselves. Some people are very sensitive to external stimuli, but this is not a concern for themselves, but a concern for that boundary. On the other hand, others are always others, and we should communicate and approach each other on the basis of respecting each other's uniqueness. And if you "treat others as yourself," sometimes it seems less respectful and a little self-centered.
This is precisely where the profound contradiction and charm of the film lies. On the one hand, the protagonist always treats the people around him with the same harshness he treats himself, and he only cares about his own feelings, that is, whether I like it, whether I am happy or not, whether I am happy or not, and so on. When he finds that he can control the characters in the book, he only thinks of his own feelings, such as confusion, joy, jealousy and so on. In this way, no one will associate with him sincerely, or even trust him. The protagonist didn't realize until the end that what was needed was trust, and then he understood the reason to go with the flow. On the other hand, since it is one's own creation, even dreams, and even history, if it is simply repaying guilt, regret, and other emotions without love. I am afraid there will be no so-called trust, or future. Therefore, falling in love with your own work is a plot we all have. Someone said that love requires tolerance and so on. I can't deny it, but I am more in favor of love as art, and there is not so much truth and science at all. Therefore, in the final almost perfect ending, we finally understand the memory, which is the deja vu in "love."
3. About the protagonist's "personality defect". This seems to be of course, because the ex-girlfriend said, "Do you think I care about your fame?" Wait, and the protagonist's argument at the time was also very weak. . . However, this does not need to be argued. If you don’t love you don’t love anymore, what is the truth? When you are in love, anything you say casually can be sweet and sweet, and can be a reason for love. When not in love, no matter how realistic the reason is, it is just an excuse. And, did the two arguing people really go to their hearts? Who care?
4. About "ideal". I just discussed this issue with my friend yesterday afternoon. My friend said, "Do you like that person or do you like the person you like?" This is indeed not emphasized in the film, but it can obviously arouse our feelings. Does the protagonist like the plump character in the pen, or the series of virtues attached to this character. This is called art holism in philosophy. Our obvious answer is that I love such a whole, not the shit virtues of breaking it apart. Therefore, in the ideal of love, I love the whole whole, including her past, present, and future. Yes, she was the one who made her in the past, but now she has made her the future because of my love. If she doesn't arouse my love now, what is she doing? Now that you love her, and keep saying that you can't accept her past, and even jealous of her past, is this still "love"?
The friend’s question is actually reduced to, do you love her or yourself.
What the film said earlier is, love yourself. At the end, I said plainly, loving her, and therefore accepting her.
5. About "Ability". In a sense, memory is constructed or even manufactured by us. When the male protagonist finally meets the female protagonist, we can still think that this is a dream. It is even proceeding according to a script that seems to exist in the dark. Has no one had this experience in life? When doing something, I suddenly realized that this thing and the surrounding environment have appeared somewhere, some people even saw it in the dream last night. This isn't even a power at all. It doesn't matter to be fantasy.
Psychologically speaking, this also makes sense. When the mentally anticipated things suddenly appear in front of you, the first reaction of people is untrue-or we are writing novels, and the material is life?

I am still me, and the other half I am looking for is you. No matter how much you meet my expectations, or even the ideal half of my love ideal, you are you. When you really become "me", it is of course possible to hate yourself occasionally. If I were a normal person, then I would always love you.
Wait, didn't someone say "I love you better than myself?" Then let him daydream, I still believe in life. Believe that life will push a crippled, "personality defect" to another you who is also "personality defect", and then, as long as you don't refuse, we are complete. Happy life? Yes, it seems to be in a dream.

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Extended Reading
  • Garry 2022-03-28 09:01:04

    When Ruby left, she was freed from her past, and she was free.

  • Justyn 2021-12-17 08:01:17

    The heroes and heroines are all types I hate, and a kind of nausea arises spontaneously...

Ruby Sparks quotes

  • Calvin Weir-Fields: She's a person.

    Harry: You haven't written a person, okay? You've written a girl.

  • Ruby Sparks: Were you disappointed when you got to know me?

    Calvin Weir-Fields: How can you ask that?

    Ruby Sparks: I'm such a mess.

    Calvin Weir-Fields: I love your mess.