Life is like a cup of coffee

Annie 2021-12-15 08:01:08

I remember when I was 22 years old, I always said that my love is an open schoolbag. The less I care, the more I cherish it.

Uncle Wayne said something almost the same. In a love relationship, the one who cares less often has the initiative.

At that time, I was just like Uncle Wayne, smug, like a fish in water, very chic and very happy.

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I am 26 years old now, and I will be 27 years old soon. I just know that I am the least chic in the world. I am afraid of too many things, so I always don't care.

At first, I was just afraid of being hurt. I was afraid that one day I would send a text message, and the person on the other side would not be able to read it back, and there was no news. So I don’t take the initiative to send text messages, so I put my love aside and threw the head and heart on the dance floor like GAGA. Then I became the one I couldn't read back, and the various between two people became more of a bondage rather than sweetness.

I find that I can love someone with all my heart, but I cannot follow that person willingly. It may only be a moment when I was dazzled by love. After that, I was afraid of too many things. I was afraid of being deprived of my freedom, of being deprived of space, of being restrained by another individual, of being afraid of loving what I love. I am afraid that I will regret choosing this person after my life. I am afraid to find that he can’t give me what I want most. I am afraid that he will fall in love with others, and I am afraid that I will fall in love with others. I am afraid that our love cannot overcome our conflicts, and I am afraid of all the responsibilities and troubles brought about by life-long restraint.

So maybe I never thought about who I would spend my whole life with. It was too scary for me, too long, too much risk, too much uncertainty, and too much unwillingness.

So I always go first. I always think I will meet other people, different people, someone who can let me throw away all my worries. I persuaded myself for many reasons, and I will not look back when I leave.

The scary thing about life is that it takes many things as habit. So when I finally found the ideal candidate I wanted, I was accustomed to coming and going freely, unfettered, irresponsible, and not wanting consequences. I also habitually regarded him as someone who would not go down together, even Too lazy to see what he was thinking.

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Uncle Wayne said that life is like a cup of coffee. If you don’t have the courage to take on the risks and pains that come from loving someone, you can only take care of it yourself. Finished a cup of coffee.

I have almost passed the crazy age. When I found that I never had enough experience to mess around, when I understood that maybe I shouldn’t pursue a relationship that can only be achieved without paying, I found myself fundamental. Will not fall in love. The way I don’t care about you and you care about me can’t manage a stable, long-term, healthy relationship.

There is always someone who needs you to give up part of your freedom, part of your space, part of your superiority, part of your own rhythm, and all your possibilities, and be with him wholeheartedly. No one will ever let you give up all these things willingly, you need to weigh, you need to decide. Because if you don’t decide this way, you have to finish the coffee yourself.

I am a coward in love, I don't have the courage to give up all that, nor do I have the courage to finish the coffee by myself.

So I think Conner is lucky. He has Jennifer.

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  • Alysson 2022-04-20 09:01:44

    2010.3.4 In your new home, try to clarify the true meaning of love in a simple way? ? It's too obvious

  • Summer 2022-04-20 09:01:44

    Stylized + silly movies...Why are there always such movies recently that persuade people to fall in love and get married? I don't know that the Chinese people have started the Year of the Widow? Hey...but his female secretary is very cute, I like it, haha~~~

Ghosts of Girlfriends Past quotes

  • Connor Mead: Love is magic comfort food for the weak and uneducated!

  • Melanie: There's apple, bubble gum, and Tandoori. I know it sounds gross, but have two of them and you won't feel your face.