There is no right or wrong parting, and there is not much explanation to leave. The modern saying is always silly.
Frances Ha (2012) was the earliest in the trilogy and was also the screenwriter debut of Greta Gerwig (co-wrote the screenplay with her boyfriend and director Noah Baumbach). But the life stage of the heroine of the storyis closer to the creatorthan the other two movies Mistress America (2015) and Lady Bird (2017)-Frances, 27-year-old and an apprentice dancer, more or less and 29-year-old star Gerwig, who was tepid and tepid, looked a bit like.
Frances has been living in New York since graduating from university. She has a great dream to become a famous modern dance dancer. However, the New York art market is fiercely competitive. For so many years, she has been working as an apprentice in a poorly managed performance company. In order to make ends meet, she often teaches children dance classes. Although her career hasn't improved much, she is happy because she has an enviable friendship. Roommate Sophie is her best friend in college. The two live together, play childish games together, and share interesting life stories with each other. They talk about everything and tolerate each other's fragility and craziness. Accompanied by many years of acquaintance, cultivate a tacit understanding that is hard to match. Frances thinks Sophie is another self. "We are the same person, but our hair color is different."
This caused Frances to form an illusion that his thoughts were the same as Sophie's thoughts. Frances put Sophie first in her life and refused to live with her boyfriend because she guessed "Sophie might want to live with me". However, Sophie has other things more eager to pursue, such as a better-located apartment. Frances considers friendship more important than love, and considers Sophie's feelings everywhere in her relationship with her boyfriend. Her feelings for Sophie are more profound than her feelings for her boyfriend, and she assumes that Sophie will do the same to herself. When Frances discovered that Sophie was putting more and more energy into running a love life, she collapsed: "When you think of something funny you see on the street, you will tell your boyfriend first, and I may always I don’t even know, I feel sad."
All kinds of people and things, different relationships, everyone will sort them in their hearts. At this time, Frances's understanding of the ideal relationship is that the ranking list of the two parties in the relationship should be the same or the same. This wish is relatively easy to achieve when the life trajectories of two people are very similar, and it is also a relationship that people often experience in their student days. Students learn together and live together. Due to the constraints of the curriculum and school calendar, everyone's time arrangement and energy allocation are relatively easy to reach consensus, and the worldview is therefore relatively similar. The friendship between Frances and Sophie can continue outside the campus. It is not inevitable. It is more fortunate. There are more choices in society. They just made similar choices accidentally and temporarily (in the same city, they also have independence. , Survival and development needs). After Sophie left, Frances also experienced two co-renting lives. Each time she tried to replicate the mode of getting along with Sophie, but failed. Together, it demonstrated that an "absolute fit" relationship is difficult to develop in modern society.
Many people will regret this. Some people will choose to give up. As the circle of friends grows and changes, old friends will be alienated and new friends will appear. Just accept the change. Some people will choose to persevere and find ways to continue to pave the similar life track forward. These are also the two choices that people often make in love in different places. But in the movie, if Frances decides to maintain the friendship with Sophie, she can't make the second choice, because they are both straight daughters, and one partner has a stable boyfriend. Sooner or later, the cohabitation life will end.
The mutual friends of Frances and Sophie commented that although the two are about the same age, Frances does not seem to be as mature as Sophie. I think this kind of immaturity does not mean that she is not free and easy in the face of separation. Not free and easy is good, willing to care is brave. It means that her original understanding of relationships cannot adapt to the basic situation of human mobility and differentiation in modern society. The relationship between Sophie and her boyfriend is becoming more stable, and he will soon move to Japan with him. The angle of the two people's life trajectory is getting bigger and bigger, and it has become an unchangeable reality. Frances realizes that his understanding of friendship needs to be broadened.
I think the relationship between two people should be like this, maybe this can also explain why I am still single now, haha. There are moments like this when you are with someone. They know you love them, and you know they love you too. But at the party, you are all talking to different other people, all smiling happily. At this time, you look at the other side of the room, and the eyes of the two people meet... It is not the meaning of possession, nor the squinting eyes, just because that is the person in your life. This is funny and sad, because life will always end, but the mysterious world in front of you appears right in front of you, openly and without warning, no one else knows. It's like they said that there is another dimension in the universe, it's around us, but we don't feel it... this is what I want from the relationship.
Everyone has their own ruler in their hearts, and we can't force it where the other party puts us. The only thing we can decide is whether we are satisfied with the other party's contribution. If you are not satisfied, then find a way to change or leave; if you are satisfied, even if the other party does not give 100%, then you should be full of joy and enjoy the whole thing. It is not inevitable to be wholehearted, it requires hard work and honing skills, and also needs to be psychologically prepared that may not be able to get all of it in the end. In fact, there are one hundred friendship/love scripts in one hundred people's hearts. They have different understandings of relationships and different ways of expressing feelings. Rigid understanding of relationships and too persistent pursuit of "essential friendship/love" will only increase troubles. Friendship is like this, love is like this, and all interpersonal relationships are roughly like this.
Some other impressive details.
1. "I won't sleep with you just because you pay the bill."
Frances, who is struggling to live, is very happy to get the tax refund. After a long time, she had an appointment with a boy who had a good opinion of herself for dinner, but she couldn't use the credit card when she checked out, and she had no cash on her. She insisted on a treat, so she ran out to find an ATM to withdraw money. After running N streets, I finally found a house, but with a fee of 3 dollars to withdraw cash, Frances hesitated. Her finger moved between Yes and No on the screen, and finally reluctantly chose Yes. The sound of counting the money was clattering, and Frances sighed while holding the ATM in his hand.
I like this plot because it is very real. I believe that many people have had the experience of entangled in handling fees, but we will not show it publicly and feel that this is not decent. But the movie tells you through such a story that there are many struggles behind a decent life. Decentness is not natural, and struggle is the normal state of life.
It's also fun for Frances to insist on a treat. The boy offered to check her bill twice, but was rejected. In order to be an independent and equal woman, Frances paid for this meal + 3 dollars in handling fees + several kilometers of running. In fact, this boy is quite rich, he may not care who pays, and he may find her stubbornness a bit funny. When Frances really checked out, he imitated the feminist tone and joked: "I won't go to bed with you just because you pay the bill." The screenwriter perfectly captures the daily awkwardness of contemporary life.
2. "Artists in New York are rich in their homes."
Frances' roommate Sophie decided to move to Dream Apartment instead of renewing the contract with Frances in the original house. The new house is located in Tribeca in Lower Manhattan. The location and rent are much higher than the current residence. She said: "That's the kind of house I have always wanted. The apartment is on my favorite street." Sophie needs to pay: the house 2 months before the contract expires + the rent of the new house + the house Intermediary fees. She herself cannot afford such a large expenditure, so she asks her parents for help to pay the housing agency fee.
No young man in this movie can take root in New York completely without the financial support of his parents. Sophie asked his parents to pay the housing agency fee, and Frances waited until Christmas to go home before seeing the dentist. After Frances ended his cohabitation with Sophie, he shared the rent with two boys who were engaged in art. Sophie kindly reminded that "people who can engage in art in New York are rich in their homes." The living expenses with them will be very high. One of the male roommates, Benji, also confessed that he had asked his stepfather for living expenses in a low voice.
But these young people in the movie all have jobs, but the money they make is not enough to maintain the style of the New Yorker in their minds. These young people are not satisfied with survival. They want to go to different parties, to see different exhibitions, to live in a historical and cultural community, and to sing and travel every night. They live for their spiritual world and want to make their lives rich and colorful. If you doubt it, it is likely that they will say, if it is just to survive, why bother to come to New York?
Frances is also obsessed with this state. Literature, friendship, and art are all heroic dreams in her exhausted life, which support her to live untiringly in a life with no future in sight. On the other hand, spiritual life also has a price. She chose to escape in literature and art due to the difficulties of reality, and the consumption of literature and art further led to her poverty. Instead, her new roommate said sharply: "You are not poor at all. You are calling poor to offend those who are really poor."
Haha, I want to copy this sentence to those friends who drink hi tea and cry poor, you should drink water.
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