The Tenth Commandment: Do not covet a man's house; nor covet his wife, servants, ox and donkey, and all that he has.
(Marius is greedy for Roman's wife Anka. Violating the commandment)
The male protagonist is Roman, a doctor, who changed his impotence in middle age and was barren for life. Unfortunately, before this, he and his wife did not have a relationship. give birth to a child. The heroine is Anka, an airplane conductor. When her husband told her that she was impotent, Anka was not upset. She said to her husband: Love is not just moaning in bed for five minutes a week. True love is deeply rooted in the heart and not in the legs. between. The husband said: But you will have needs. Anka replied: I can solve it myself.
Every reply from Anka expresses her love. But for a man, impotence is a great irony. Although sex is not the whole of marriage, a man who loses sex will feel that his position in the marriage needs to be redefined, and he will be unconfident and insecure. . Roman's sensitivity to impotence runs through the film. Finally, one day, Roman accidentally discovered that Anka was having an affair, and the other party was a child-like Marius.
Roman seems to have naturally become a voyeur, and he wants to know everything about Anka and Marius without expressing his emotions. He eavesdropped on the phone, eavesdropped on the sound of his wife making love outside the door, and hid in the closet expecting what would happen at home.
And we can see the tears in Anka's eyes when she has sex with Marius. Are these tears of repentance, I believe she has a strong sense of guilt in her heart. Marius satisfies her carnal desires, and Roman is her spiritual support.
Finally, Anka decides to end everything with Marius. Almost at the same time, Anka found her husband peeping in the closet. Roman told Anka everything. Anka was angry at first, then repented, and finally swore that she needed Roman so much, and she hoped Roman would not abandon her because of this. Should Roman trust Anka? Soon their trust was put to the test.
Anka wants to go to Ziben for a ski tour, and needs to stay in a hotel there. Before getting on the train, she kept saying I love you to Roman, hoping that he could trust him. Unfortunately, for some reason, Marius knew of Anka's plan, so he prepared everything to find Anka. What's more unfortunate is that when Roman was driving home, he saw Marius holding a sled and was about to drive away. Roman was silent. To be on the safe side, Roman pretended to be Marius's college classmate and called his home to ask him. The whereabouts, as expected, Marius went to Ziben.
Roman collapsed, he didn't expect his wife to deceive him again. He has been looking for the meaning of marriage. At first, he believed that the meaning lies in the union of spirit and flesh. Later, he believed that the meaning lies in the child, so the couple decided to adopt a child. Just when they decided to adopt the child when they came back from the Anka tour, Roman discovered this scene, what should he do? It seems that the meaning that has been sought so hard is instantly shattered. The trust built up with the greatest courage collapsed in an instant. Roman, chose death. He rode his bicycle frantically and drove towards the cliff.
He wasn't dead. When he woke up in the hospital, he heard a word from the nurse: Your wife is no longer in the Ziben Hotel, he is at home.
Anka accidentally meets Marius in Ziben. Of course she didn't know that in advance. Perhaps she felt a strong sense of guilt just by seeing this young lover. She called her husband's unit immediately. The nurse said that Roman was not there. Anka said to the nurse, please tell her when she comes back. I will go back to Warsaw right away, and I will be there before tonight. Of course Roman would not hear Anka's message, because before he was ready to go back to the hospital, he had already decided to die. When Anka returned home, there was no one there. He saw a letter on the phone. The content on it did not indicate that it was Roman's suicide note to her. Anka was in pain.
As the nurse said, "Your wife is not at the Ziben Hotel, she is at home." Roman's eyes gradually opened. He slowly told the nurse his home phone number, and the nurse knowingly called. Anka took it, Roman said to Anka: Dear Anka...
Anka said: God, you are still alive. . . .
This is the end. Roman confirmed that Anka did not lie to himself, so he expressed his love. Anka confirmed that Roman was not hurt by his actions, and in addition to a sense of relief, he was in a happy mood.
What this movie mentions is whether the flesh and love are inseparable and cannot be separated at all? In other words, is there no love without physical negotiation? Because from the film, Anka undoubtedly loves Roman, but when Roman lost his sexual ability, Anka physically betrayed her husband.
To answer this question, we must first consider another question, does Anka love Marius? From any point of view, no. This at least proves that love does not originate from making love. That is, having sex cannot lead to love. But there is no doubt that love can lead to sex.
So, making love is not a necessary condition for love. Sadly, Roman believes that without sex, there is a crisis in love. Why does he think so? In fact, Roman doesn't really think that she can't live without sex, but what she worries about is her wife's feelings. She is afraid that her wife will take sex as a necessary part of marriage. The beginning of the film states that Roman also had extramarital sex, with about fifteen people. It was his endless sexual promiscuity that caused impotence, so when it came to sex life, he felt guilty about his wife. If he didn't have sex, he wouldn't be impotent and he wouldn't make his wife suffer. Therefore, when his wife cheats physically, his mood is complicated, and the same is true when he commits suicide.
Back to the original question, why did Anka love Roman, but cheated physically? This is equivalent to asking why Roman loves Anka, but has sex with fifteen women in their marriage?
Human desires are divided into physical desires and love desires. Human love desires are directional. It can be said that a person can only love one person at a time; It can help us put out the fire of lust. But love desires can only be solved by those we love.
Love can have sex, but sex does not determine love.
When a person's physical desire is burning, it is actually not related to love. At this time, he felt more lonely.
Of course, there are many people with mental cleanliness who require that they and the other's body and love must be loyal to the same person at the same time. But I want to say that when a person's love betrays you, the body must betray you; but when a person's body betrays you, he may still love you deeply.
We all speak of a crisis of trust in marriage. This crisis of trust is often not manifested in the distrust of love in daily life, but manifested in the distrust of the flesh. Because in people's hearts, if the other party betrays them physically, the value of marriage does not exist. If the other party betrays them emotionally, at least the family can be maintained. There is a question of dignity here. Everyone knows that cuckolds are laughed at. But no one has ever thought carefully about the relationship between the flesh and love.
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