Let's talk about the plot of "The Furnace" first: In a school for the deaf in a remote area of South Korea, the principal and teachers took advantage of the physical weakness of the students, who could not hear or speak, and sexually assaulted and sexually abused the students for a long time. Until the newly appointed teacher Jiang Renhao, unintentionally rescued the student Jin Yandou who was being raped by the life teacher, and then accompanied the students in the treatment process, slowly uncovered the shocking secrets behind the school, thus unfolding a battle of justice and evil. The struggle of...
"The Hunt" is a Spanish film. In the film, there is a cute little girl Carrara, because she fell in love with her father's good friend and also served as their kindergarten male teacher Lucas. After she bravely confessed, she was rejected by Lucas and held a grudge, so she complained to the kindergarten. The principal lied that Lucas showed her his genitals. After that, although Lucas defended in every possible way, the people in the town labelled him child molester. No matter where he went, he was spurned and violent by people... After
watching these two movies, I felt bored. Not angry. There is deep sympathy for those deaf children, and there is sympathy for Carus. These two films reflect many social problems, such as social darkness, dehumanization and so on. But today, I just want to talk about one of the sex education issues lurking in it.
First, let's talk about The Furnace.
One: Personal consciousness.
Perhaps influenced by traditional culture, when it comes to sexuality, eastern countries have always placed it in a position of personal privacy, which is inconvenient to expose to the public. The deaf children in the film are more likely to have not received systematic sex education because of the breakdown of their families and the special circumstances they were in at the time. When their own body is violated, the child just suffers silently and does not know how to protect himself in an effective way.
Two: the attitude of society.
When the incident came to light, most of the people in the society did not investigate the whole story, but instead held up banners to show solidarity with the principals and teachers with good reputations. It can be seen that public opinion in eastern countries is still guided by a person's status in society, because the principal is a family of charity and education, and has cared for the disadvantaged since the father's generation. A benevolent heart will carry forward philanthropy. Therefore, the masses believe that there is absolutely no possibility of sexual abuse of children.
On the other hand, "Hunting" is also the issue of sexual abuse of children.
One: personal perception.
It may be due to differences in cultural backgrounds. Western countries have always held a positive attitude towards sex education. So much so that Carrara in the kindergarten knew that it was a very bad behavior if an adult man showed her genitals, so she used it as an excuse for revenge and reported Lucas to the principal (although it was a framed accusation).
Two: After Carrara reported to the principal, what was the community's reaction?
Instead of covering up for the kindergarten's so-called reputation or fear of taking responsibility, the principal took a very positive attitude.
First, she explained the situation and sincerely apologized to Carrara's parents, and then mentioned it again at the parent-teacher meeting of the whole kindergarten. Because she was not sure whether any other children were hurt, she reminded parents to go home and observe their babies. No abnormal performance.
In the eyes of everyone, Lucas used to be a friendly and amiable neighbor, a lively and loving teacher, and a close colleague. But when this happened, in the eyes of the public, he became a pervert who sexually abused children. Everyone accused him, kept away from him, looked at him with all kinds of colored eyes, and even went to the supermarket to buy things and was violently kicked out by the staff.
Because we saw the "truth" in the movie and knew that Lucas was wronged, we were full of sympathy for Lucas, and thus resented the people who echoed what they said and lacked discernment.
But think about it from another angle, if the story of "The Furnace" took place in the environment of "Hunting", under the legal system that values and protects children's rights and interests, and in a social environment where the people are jealous of evil, I'm afraid those perverted principals and teachers would have long ago Swallowed alive.
In contrast to the issue of sex education, Carrara is like a flower that grows in the sun, surrounded by warmth and safety; and those poor deaf children are like being trampled in a dark corner Grass, lack of dignity, no protection.
As I write this, I recall something that happened to me.
During a holiday in elementary school, my parents went to work and had nothing to do, so I drew with chalk on the open space in front of the door. At this time, our eldest brother next door came back from outside. He was about sixteen or seventeen years old at that time. When he passed me, he stopped and asked me, do you have any screwdrivers at home?
I said yes.
He said, let me borrow it, can you bring it to my house?
So I went home and got a screwdriver and walked to his door. The door of his house was open, and he was the only one at home who was sitting beside the bed watching TV. He invited me in, and I went to the table, put things down, and was about to turn around and go out. He grabbed me and let me watch TV together.
Because I don't usually communicate or interact with him, I was reluctant to refuse his invitation, so I sat down and watched TV with him. Soon, he carried me over and sat on his lap. This sudden intimate gesture made me feel uncomfortable, but I didn't know how to deal with it, so I had to try my best to keep my body froze and keep a distance from him.
Next, while chatting with me, he slowly leaned back, lay flat on the bed, and placed me on top of him. I felt more and more panic, so I tried to support my upper body with my arms, not willing With my body lying on top of him, I pretended to be interested in chatting with him, and at the same time my mind quickly turned: How to leave? How to leave?
In desperation, I thought of an excuse, so I pretended to realize it: Oops! I didn't close the door when I came out just now, I'm going back to close the door. He was really fooled and said, then you can go and close the door and come back. I hurriedly promised: OK, OK, I'll come when I close it.
I ran into the house quickly, locked the door, and never took another step out of the door before my parents came home.
At my age at the time, I couldn't guess what he would do to me next, but I vaguely felt that it should be a bad thing, so I ran away instinctively. That afternoon when I was hiding at home, I was like a frightened rabbit. I was in a state of confusion and panic.
Because I haven't received any sex education, I couldn't accurately define the nature of this matter at the time, and I wasn't even sure if I could get comfort and maintenance from my parents after I told it about it? Or will there be a scolding in exchange? When Mom and Dad came home, I chose to swallow it in the mix of shyness, confusion, and fear.
Sex was a difficult topic to talk about in my childhood.
When my gender awareness began to sprout, I often asked my mother, where did I come from? Mom scolded me with a sullen face, what did the child ask for? In the end, I answered vaguely after I was chasing it, picking it up from the garbage heap. At that time this answer almost became the standard answer, covering my peers.
Thinking about it now, it was the attitude of adults towards the issue of "sex" and the atmosphere of social secrecy that made me not know how to deal with it after that incident, and I have been carrying a sense of shame in my heart for many years.
Now that my daughter is in kindergarten, it's her turn to ask me: Where did I come from? Why are the male students in the class different from the female students when they go to the toilet? ...
Unlike my mother, every time I blend scientific knowledge of sexuality into her language and input it to her little by little, I slowly teach her how to protect herself and stay away from harm. Also let her know that no matter how terrible things happen, mom and dad are the most willing to protect you in the world.
Because I hope my daughter can also be a flower that grows in the sunshine.
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