The problem that miracle boy brought me

Luciano 2021-12-31 08:01:42

Text|Chen Qiao

Ask a question: If you have a child a few years later, but you show huge differences in psychology, physiology, or appearance from other children, such as strange appearance, lack of intelligence, autism and depression, you will still do your best Can he grow up?

There was a couple who gave birth to a child with a lack of intelligence and kept raising him. The child didn't speak much until he was eight years old. They called "Dad, Mom, and Brother" when they met, three of his closest relatives. Just like many mentally impaired children, his many behaviors, such as urinating and defecating without taking off his pants, and shouting and yelling, are very puzzling and of course even more unbearable.

On the day when he was eight years old, his parents took him on a train. Before the train departed, his parents got off. Then the whistle sounded and the train whimpered and ran to the distance. "He" was no longer heard.

This incident happened in my hometown, and it should have been twenty years since it came. "He" is a few years older than me. I was just born during the time when the two of us had an intersection in this world, so I didn't have any impression of him. My family told me these things later, but even if they were only spoken in the tone and language of others casually, "he" left a unique impression on me.

The story of "Miracle Boy" is exactly the opposite. In order to help the strange-looking children integrate into the society, the mother gave up her master degree and took the children at home and acted as a tutor until the fifth grade; the father’s funny words and deeds hide a deep love. The heart of the son; the sister is also experiencing the distress of youth, but she still maintains kindness to her younger brother.

When Augie took the school medal at the end of the movie, he accepted the applause of the teachers and students of the school. Just as the United States began to accept blacks fifty years ago, the strange-looking Augie was also accepted in the movie.

As a movie, "Miracle Boy" still contains a lot of dramatic scenes, such as good children and bad children that are so clearly distinguished, such as the intelligence of Augie who is on the hook, such as good children defeating bad children. "Miracle Boy" is like a beautiful fairy tale, trying to keep the softest part of people's heart, but after all, it is only a fairy tale, which makes us yearn for, but it cannot be the criterion of actual life.

There is a documentary called "The Horse Boy" (English name "the horse boy"), which is about a couple who gave birth to a child with autism. They took many modern treatment methods for the child, but none of them worked. Later, they took the children to Outer Mongolia, looking for shamans (similar to priests) on the grasslands, hoping to treat the children through surreal methods. Was the child cured in the end? The film did not give a clear answer, but his parents seemed to have become more transparent after several years of modern treatment and months of trips to Mongolia, as his mother said, "Regardless of whether he is cured or not, Regardless of whether he can become like a normal child, at least we can change our mind, that is, no longer thinking about changing him, but embracing his uniqueness and weirdness. I love him."

Don't want to change, but try to embrace uniqueness, difference, and diversity.

Although my life experience cannot support the understanding of this sentence, I still like it very much. No matter how difficult it is to execute this sentence in the real world, I will still see my eyes in these words.

Going back to the story I told earlier, I don't want to blame anyone. In the face of a child with a lack of intelligence, all family affection will be wiped out by unreasonable behavior. In the torment and entanglement day and night, as the child gets older, the last straw that crushes the camel will always be unexpected. And to.

Returning to the previous question, if I really encounter such a thing, after the birth of the child, I will help him grow as much as possible and help him gain recognition from the world. This will require additional manpower, material and financial resources. So if one day I realize that my financial ability and level of knowledge cannot help him gain the dignity of life in this world, maybe I will give up, and I will also watch the train whimper and run away from the platform. In the night afterwards, I was soaked by tears, longing for that face to come into my dream.

But since you want to give up, why do you insist on it? In other words, if you can't see the hope and the result, why insist on it?

I don't know, I have been looking for answers. When I was in middle school, I thought these answers could be explained clearly in words, so I wrote articles desperately to convince myself that I was pursuing transparency and enlightenment. But until now, I still have no answer.

Nowadays, I think many things have to be persisted before I know the answer, but it is often difficult to persevere without knowing the answer. This is a paradox, and I cannot solve this dead knot.

I said before: insist on going to bed early and getting up early, keep exercising, keep playing less mobile phones, read more books, go out more, learn to make plans, and take the work in front of you seriously. These behaviors and habits are not because I have any ambitious goals that I insist on, but because only by insisting on these can my life have a foundation and I can have the confidence to face life, and I have nowhere to put pride. The sustenance.

Yes, I'm persisting for the sake of persistence. It sounds very hard, indeed, dealing with myself is very helpless, whether it is right or wrong, happy or painful, all in my heart, I need to chew and digest slowly. But in the process, I have seen the campus in the early morning, the relieved smiling face, the sweat dripping from the forehead, and the flipped pages and writings.

At a certain point in time, these concrete appearances alone are enough to infect me. At this moment, through the floor-to-ceiling windows of the dormitory, I saw snowflakes flying, and the white campus was particularly moving.

"You are beautiful", I said with a smile.

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