Tell me about my mental journey.

Elissa 2022-10-03 15:46:58

I have watched a lot of gay movies, but this movie still made me cry several times. After reading everyone's comments, many people said that the plot was too plain. This is indeed the case. There is no complicated love affair, no shocking entanglement, and no fragrant scenes. It is just a story of the growth of a boy and a family change. But it really hits my heart. Maybe it's my own sake. I can understand some of the feelings better. So I want to talk about the places that touched me and the places that normal people don't understand. At the same time, record the changes that this movie brought to me.

The first tear point was in the doctor's conversation. My sexual orientation awakened earlier, and I knew my identity as a homosexual when I was in the third year of junior high. But just like my personality, I have been in a state of "slow heat" about this matter. At first, I didn't care about it. I even thought that I might meet a girl I like in high school? So I had the same idea as the hero, maybe I can change it. After high school, I will deliberately pay attention to this circle, and will listen carefully when encountering a topic about homosexuality, and slowly discover that the people around me have an attitude of tolerance. I also gradually realized that sexual orientation is not a problem. Later, I also came out with a few friends, and everyone was very tolerant and even supportive. But no one told me that you are normal. (PS is not to encourage the homosexual group to say that you are normal, but it is a bit strange. On the contrary, it is best to behave normally.) So, when I saw the doctor's words in the film, I cried for the first time.

"And I know that everybody would like for me to say otherwise and send you down to the pharmacy for a pill that would magically fix you, but that's not gonna happen. But I'm gonna take your blood, and I know, I know what it's gonna show me. That you are a perfectly normal, very healthy teenage boy"/"I know that everyone wants me to come to other conclusions, giving you some medicine will cure you miraculously, but that's not It may happen. I will give you blood, but I know what the result will be. The result is that you are a perfectly normal, healthy young man."

When I saw "You are a completely normal and healthy young man", the tears couldn't stop. Am I missing this kind of self-identification? Don’t I think I’m normal? neither. Homosexuality is normal, and homosexuality is not a mental illness. These words can often be heard after I contact this circle, not to mention that I am happy to be an old gay now. But I still cried because no one had ever told me about it. The first time I came out was also plain and plain. The other party quickly changed the subject after I finished speaking, and behaved normally and even didn't care, but this first time did not bring me any feedback and did not cry happily. After a game of identification with my own identity, it made me feel as if we were talking about something shameful, and then I learned from him that he felt that I was only temporary and would change (smile. I can say My first coming out was a failure, so after coming out a few times later, I would deliberately change the subject to avoid them asking me, how about being gay? So today, when I saw the doctor saying this , It's like going back to the anxiety and anxiety when I first found out that I liked the same sex, so I shed tears because she said to me that I was completely normal.

It's completely normal. I suddenly found that in the past few years, after knowing that I was gay, I had been walking abnormally. About three years ago, I used the same-sex dating software Molan for the first time, but so far I have not made an appointment. The closest one I also escaped at the end. I really can't accept sleeping with a stranger or doing too intimate behavior. But I'm still talking, in the appointment, hormonal troubles? After so many years of trouble, why have there been thoughts of making appointments in the past few years? Isn't it good for left and right hands? Because I was subconsciously instilled in the idea that homosexuality needs to be hidden and not visible. It is best to make an appointment if you want sex, and appointment in this circle is a "normal" behavior. So I also learned to talk, learn to make appointments, but this is not what I want. The two people I like in my life have only been together for a year or two. I am a slow-hot person, so fast-food sex is not my thing. Because I didn't treat my homosexuality as normal! I still did not correctly realize that I was a normal, ordinary, boy! Some of my actions seem to cater to my gay identity! It's weird! Just when the doctor said that paragraph, I suddenly realized that I didn't regard myself as normal, I fell into the hidden darkness, and was still content with the darkness.

Phew, back to normal life, I am who I am. I should not be labeled, nor should I be labeled.

The biography of the end of the PS film confirms the last tear point

Finally ps: is npy missing? :) hhhhhhhh

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Boy Erased quotes

  • Nancy Eamons: [to her son Jared] I love God. God loves me. I love my son. That's it. I think for your father it's a little bit more complicated.

  • Jared Eamons: [to his father] I'm gay, and I'm your son. And neither of those things are going to change. Okay? So let's deal with that!