When she was born, she was covered with fluff. The doctor said it was an ancestral phenomenon, but her mother thought she was a monster. Later, that layer of fluff faded, and her mother discovered that she was a beauty and began to love her very much. Mother is very energetic, but emotionally unstable. When Pippa was a teenager, she unexpectedly learned that her mother had been taking stimulants, and she understood why she had not been able to contact her real mother for a long time. She hoped that her mother would quit stimulants, and even tried to persuade her by taking stimulants herself. However, the mother was very happy for her daughter's common fall, which made Pippa realize that her mother did not really love herself, and thus escaped from this family that could only pull herself into the abyss. She hid in her understanding aunt's house and became fascinated by her aunt's gay partner. However, her aunt's partner asked her to participate in the shooting of homosexual art photos. After being hit by her aunt, she left her aunt's home again. Since then, she has led an extremely degenerate life, taking drugs, having casual sex, and spending time with a bunch of gangsters. Until by chance, she met Mr. Li, who later became her husband. At that time, she was still a little sister, but Mr. Li discovered the "beauty" in her body, thinking that she was "smart and beautiful, but she never showed up." As a girl with a pure heart, she was attracted to such a mature gentleman who admired herself, just as she said, "I want to be sheltered at last.". Although Mr. Li was married at the time, the two came together naturally. Once, when Mr. Li took her to lunch with his wife at the time, the latter committed suicide in front of everyone and said this intriguing sentence before his death: "Men always want to marry women who are easy to control until the end. It’s very interesting to live with an idiot, right?” Later, Pippa married Mr. Li and finally grew into the elegant and beautiful middle-class white wife that appeared at the beginning of the movie. Although Pippa’s explanation in the movie is "I willingly give myself to him, like a penitent...I behave well every day, in order to wash the past." However, my understanding is not the case. I think Pippa will follow the same path with or without Mr. Lee’s ex-wife played by Monica Bellucci.
Her past life activities were turbulent and insecure. When she discovered that a mature man could bring her a life that seemed "promising", she did not hesitate to throw herself into his arms. However, she missed the opportunity to grow independently. And Mr. Li, although he admired Pippa's innocence as a girl, when she became his wife, he still needed her to play the role of a "good wife and mother", and Pippa also did a good job of her husband's own role. The role expectation-to complete the tasks of caring for men and having children internally, and maintain a beautiful and elegant image externally.
The desire to cover up is always inadvertently presented from other places. Because of self-deception in the past, Pippa's performance has always been "normal". And her repressed desire for many years finally showed through the gluttony during sleepwalking. An old "boy" in the neighbor's house helped her complete the process of finding herself. The boy was 35 years old, had a failed marriage, had no job, and lived in a RV, which made his mother deeply worried and sad. My mother once trusted the amiable Pippa and asked her to persuade him, but she never expected that in the subsequent encounters, the two would gradually touch each other's true selves. Pippa was impressed by the boy's frankness. He refuses to accept a life approved by adults, and he also refuses hypocrisy. The boy told her that she had been living a life of "self-deception".
The next turning point in the story is when Pippa discovers her husband's affair. In order to refuse to admit his aging and near death, the husband has an extramarital affair with his friend's young wife who is not yet sensible and who blindly trusts "passion". Upon discovering this, Pippa finally let go of his psychological baggage. It turns out that the unquestionable husband who seems to be successful and mature over the years is just a child who refuses to "aging", and he has grown up inadvertently, can face the real life and himself, and finally can no longer be a vassal. wife. She decided to divorce her husband. But her husband suffered a heart attack when she was about to leave and fell to the ground.
After her husband was diagnosed with brain death, Pippa's relationship with her children changed. The daughter has always been rebellious, in Pippa's opinion she dislikes herself very much, while the son has always been very easy to get along with. In fragile moments, the distance between family members is shortened. Pippa learned of her daughter's refusal, in fact, because she never touched her true self. Just like back then, she couldn't touch her real mother. Back then, my mother tried to maintain a perfect image by "drugging", but she tried to be a good wife and a good mother, but she didn't dare to be who she was. At the end of the film, Pippa chose the latter between obeying his children, moving to live with his children and grandchildren, and living his own life. She chose to take a trip with the old boy from the neighbor's house. The son was puzzled by this, but the daughter agreed with the mother’s liberation: "She has spent most of her life for us, don’t you think she should take a vacation?"
In my opinion, this is a film that runs through feminist thinking. . In the past, I always envied that the West was ahead of the East in terms of women's liberation. However, this movie tells the story: a woman chooses a man who has already formed when she is immature. She had hoped to grow up to be herself, but she delayed the life of being a "good wife and mother" for more than two decades of good time. She took a dream given to her by others as her own. In front of the opinions of others, she chose to obey. Fortunately, when she was in her fifties, she finally woke up. It's not too late.
Lu Xun asked: What happened after Nora left? And I want to say: every woman, isn't it Nora? Among husbands, parents, children, and yourself, who do you often listen to? Do you often ignore your inner voice and pursue the security that others give you? If you are ready to leave, the important thing is not to smash the door behind you, but to smash the door in your heart. This requires the courage to face yourself sincerely and challenge your life alone.
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