Regarding the controversy, as a personal point of view, let me analyze it rationally. The movie is a story about the survival status of fast-food love in the popular dating app, right-slip pairing. There are similar apps in China, which is indeed a hot topic.
Spectators are divided into open and conservative. Some conservatives feel that the open-ended relationship between the hero and the heroine in the film is just a good-sounding reason for not wanting to be held accountable. Eating the bowl and thinking about the pot is a great blasphemy of love. In fact, I can't accept open-ended relationships either. If it is true love in the personal consciousness, it should not be a "shared" emotional model. You can accept mutual frankness, but the flesh cannot be shared. The original intention of love in the film is fundamentally different from the model of love we are talking about. What we are talking about is love for the purpose of dating, while the original intention of the hero and the heroine in this film is to have sex.
In the film, when the male and female protagonists met through the dating app, the label is "make a gun", which is different from the mentality that we said before that the original intention was to have a relationship. Their original intention is only for the physiology and pleasure, and for the purpose None of them deceived each other, they were all voluntary, so there was no moral topic. It’s just that everything has variables. I didn’t expect the male and female leaders to feel good after they met, and they were in good harmony. They had feelings before they had a relationship, but the time of acquaintance was too short. They had a relationship with this kind of sentiment, which was definitely different from the feeling of pure dating, and then naturally they developed more feelings over time.
The relationship between the two of them warmed up. The male lead led the female lead to meet his parents. In the process, the female lead discovered many previous stories of the male lead from the family photos, but the male lead never mentioned it to her. The female lead complained that the male lead did not Frankly, I think that if you are a girlfriend, you have the right to know. The male protagonist thinks that privacy is unnecessary. There are quarrels and disagreements between each other. People become more concerned and afraid of deception because they are invested in feelings. In fact, it is to express that once people move their emotions, they will care too much, leading to too many thoughts and conflicts, conflicts and incomprehensions. Love is sweet but also accompanied by pain. It's not like the story of the leading female and male protagonist who have an appointment with others and no one knows anyone, let alone care about those people.
The film is not meant to promote open-ended relationships, but it actually denies it. It’s because they don’t have a certain time basis to understand each other, and they don’t have a basis for friendship. It is difficult for two people who had no intersection in their previous lives to understand each other in a short period of time, so so many conflicts erupted in a short time. And contradiction. Fast-food love is passionate and fleeting. Of course, there are some cases, but most fast-food loves are hard to last.
In the cold war after the quarrel, the male and female leaders went to the party and had relationships with other people that night. They confessed to each other the next morning. In fact, they wanted to stay. They were reluctant, so the two reached an agreement to enter into an open relationship. Many people can't accept it, and when I watch it, I can't accept it either. But think about it, the main purpose of sex is the purpose of dating. The love process is an unexpected development at night, and the feelings that start earnestly, what is preconceived thinking, and the mentality will really be very different.
In fact, at this moment, the male and female protagonist must be very confused. They have betrayed each other. If they continue to be afraid of grievances, they may also be afraid that their feelings will perish in quarrels and incomprehension. If they do not possess each other, they may not care about certain things. , In my opinion, it is actually escape, not daring to love, fearing that one-on-one engagement in all the relationship will eventually be partial and brutal. Both of them are too idealistic about the relationship. It is assumed that the male protagonist is someone who has had a short marriage, the female protagonist People who don't want to get married, this kind of people are a little afraid of falling in love, it's not surprising that there is such a development.
If you imagine that the occasion and purpose of the male and female lords meet are not that, but have a foundation of friendship, through understanding the beginning of love, will they still choose that? On the other hand, when we were young when we talked about relationships, several people had the same mentality when they were in love. Maybe sometimes you want to be serious, but the other party just wants to have fun. The opposite is the same. It can be seen that the male and female protagonists like each other, but the way it is not good at the beginning, at least the bottom line for the kind of relationship that wants to be together for a long time is too low at the beginning.
The most beautiful thing about love is that each other is initially tempted, tempting each other, but not sure whether the other person likes you at that moment. Deep love must have a process, and time is also the witness of true love. So why the male protagonist misses his ex-wife, not because he still loves her, what he misses is that they have experienced each other, shared stories, and a child who had a miscarriage. The male lead loves the female lead more. Otherwise, when you think of your ex-wife having a child with someone else, you will not want the hostess to accompany you, saying that you miss the hostess very much, but the text message has been changed by him. In fact, people are animals with complex emotions, and it is impossible to say that they have no memories. But in comparison, the process of trying to tell the heroine of oneself secret really requires courage. It also trusts and likes the heroine, although the heroine did not listen to him and continued to sleep.
In fact, the female protagonist is also, if you don’t love, you won’t be jealous countless times. The first time she discovered the secret and buried her wronged man without confession, she would feel that she had no sense of existence and was missing, and the second time it was the male protagonist. The story of the ex-wife told the friend of the hostess’s best friend, but the hostess knew it through a third party. She was even more annoyed and sad. The more she cared, the more angry, although there was a misunderstanding. Many people always don't want to be too caring and appear cheap, and performance doesn't matter. I accidentally saw the email written to the ex-wife on the host's computer, and the hostess collapsed. After breaking up, it was the self-indulgence of the heroine. She went to escape from the old man and uttered loudly in the bar. Her expression was flustered and sad, and she kept kissing with strange men, but fantasizing about the face of the hero, and then again. They pushed away and stumbled out of the bar. At that moment, they were undoubtedly sad, and realized that they actually love the male protagonist.
The film does not declare open-ended relationships at all, and it is even a bit repulsive. Open relationship is a false proposition. After the male lead and the female lead broke up, find a good buddy to talk about it. The buddy said that his grandfather's 57-year marriage secret, the secret is not to give up each other, don't think about anything, just love it bravely Okay, it tells the true meaning of a long-term marriage. There is also a reconciliation between the protagonist and heroine at the end of the film. The heroine said, "I thought I didn't want that long-term relationship. Actually, I didn't. I don't know if I was worth it, but I want to live with you.", the hero "But I can't be like before..." It means that you can no longer accept open-ended relationships. Both people are aware of what a true relationship is like. In fact, this is the true meaning of love and marriage, although it is only love. It may not be perfect, but it is so precious, it may be boring, it may be bored, and quarrel if there are differences, but if you want to have it you must keep telling yourself to persevere and not to give up. True love is not easy, do it and cherish it.
It can be seen that a long-term love and marriage is not easy, and it takes energy to manage it, but it will give you a sense of belonging, happiness and long-term spiritual satisfaction. It does not need to be operated or responsible. It can give you novel pleasure and stimulation of change, but after a long time you will lose yourself and your spirit will be empty. If you don't withdraw, there will be a continuous vicious circle. The film ultimately expresses that what you want to change is not the problematic level, but your attitude towards love. "Serious", "sincere" and "sincere" are the things that are most lacking in this fast-developing era. The proliferation of social apps means that the "real" things in this era are slowly missing.
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