Do you often feel that your parents seldom care about what you are thinking? Whenever you have a new idea and want to try to do something, basically They will always be ruthlessly suppressed and criticized by them. They almost never praise your merits. Once you don’t follow the path they gave you, even a little bit off, they may not just say no, they will scare you. , Saying that if you do this you will definitely fail, or mocking you, saying that you have too little experience, you will definitely fail, but they have not thought about the result that this will lead to, the result is that you will not do anything, no Will make decisions for themselves, will not judge things correctly, fear the first and last, follow the rules, obliterate dreams, and embark on the path of mediocrity; I know, they are afraid of you being hurt, but they can’t protect you forever. They never thought about it, they always replaced You make decisions. When they are not by your side, you do not have the ability to make decisions for yourself! ! !
How many parents have taught you to "be an honest child", but actually? Sometimes white lies can improve interpersonal relationships. Lying when in danger can even save your life. If I become a father, I will teach my children "You can lie, you can lie to anyone, but you should never lie to yourself "If I become a father, if my child has any ideas, I will fully support him, even if it really can’t be realized, I will definitely try my best to understand his inner world, understand his inner needs, and help him realize everything. Ideas, of course I will encourage him, and he will have to do it himself for the specific implementation.
Another point is that "parents are always right",,,, really? Do you really think so? Then you are too stupid! For thousands of years, we have traditionally taught us to be filial to our parents. This includes "filial piety" and "shun". Shun is to listen to the parents for everything, otherwise it would be rebellious. How many children have been misled by this sentence! ! That's how the child's own thoughts are obliterated! ! !
Of course, you can’t say that you have to confront your parents. I suggest, try to communicate with them, because I really can’t communicate, but please believe me, communication is better than no communication! Let them understand what you think in your heart. You will definitely feel uncomfortable when they refute you. After all, the people closest to you do not support you. Who else do you expect to support you? ! But it's no use being sad! ! No one supports you, you have to learn to support yourself! ! ! We can no longer count on our parents. They are getting old. In 2012, a new era has arrived. This era does not belong to them, it belongs to us! ! ! Be strong, no matter how cruel the reality is, how corrupt the world is, we must stick to the dream in our hearts, the original dream, and never give up! ! ! Come on~
Finally, I promise that if I have a child, he will be on the same level as me.
YF
January 13, 2012, USA
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