The beginning of the story is Nicole and Charlie's statement about "Why I love him/her". The two listed each other's beautiful things about their love. Both of them honestly wrote a lot of things in detail. Many may only be written by the other party in this world. Until the scene cuts two people on the couch of the consultant, this section can probably be regarded as two people who love each other narrating their affection. The feelings between them are sincere, just like their viciousness from the heart.
When the consultant asked the two to share what they wrote down, Nicole refused. Things turned quickly: Nicole was a second-generation star who grew up in Hollywood, and she played a role in a comedy and became famous. Charlie was an up-and-coming young pioneer theater director. Nicole gave up his film and television career and went to New York with Charlie. , As the female number one in his troupe. In the eyes of outsiders, there are many contradictions between the two people. Nicole is eager to develop her own acting career instead of under Charlie's wings. The relationship between the two fades. Charlie also cheated with another woman in the troupe. The marriage was already shaky. , Finally ushered in the last straw-Nicole, who had been taking pictures for a long time, received a filming opportunity to take her son back to Los Angeles, and decided to divorce and move out of New York. Although Charlie knew that his marriage was difficult, he was not ready for the divorce and was ordered by Nicole's lawyers, and had to passively initiate legal proceedings.
In the film, the scene where lawyers take turns to show their magical powers may be able to persuade many people who want to get married. Many comments even have the style of the rising masses, thinking that if the lawyers stabbed the two people in the middle, the two people would not be completely divorced. However, the job of a divorce lawyer is to strive for the best interests of the client, not to be a peacemaker to reconcile the family. If you don't want to get a divorce, there are many people who persuade you, from the neighbours' seven aunts and eight aunts to marriage counselors, why hire expensive divorce lawyers. The court book is of course hurting feelings, but the legal process has been entered. The focus is on how to guarantee the rights and interests in the marriage as a legal contract, not the feelings. Therefore, no one has the need or responsibility to care for the relationship between the two parties during this process. Yu Wen. As a legal contract, marriage does not guarantee that two people will love each other forever, nor does it guarantee loyalty. It has nothing to do with sensibility.
Nicole and Charlie, who were led away by the lawyer, were exhausted and went back to the initial idea of "This is between the two of us, and no lawyer is needed". One day a couple of days of grace, we all hate that people who have been in love with us will enter the round of competition, hoping to turn things into "this is between us", but it is impossible to solve rational problems with sensibility. of. As Charlie’s lawyers said, they started from madness, we started from rationality, and finally settled between rationality and madness. Half of the madness is still madness, but at least it can be somewhat rational, although this rationality is only half.
Charlie and Nicole once again tried to talk frankly and openly, which led to the climax of the quarrel. Nicole asked Charlie, do you understand why I want to go to Los Angeles. Charlie didn't understand that Nicole's desire to go to Los Angeles seemed to him to be similar to her wanting to buy a cabinet. It was one of the many indispensable threads in the life of a couple.
Doesn't Charlie appreciate Nicole? Not necessarily, Charlie said at the beginning, "She is my favorite actress." However, at the same time, he also laughed at Nicole's desire to be a screenwriter and director. It may be out of jealousy and repression, as Nicole said, or it may be that from Charlie's point of view, he did not think that Nicole had this talent. Nicole said "He can't see me"-many times two people can't go down, not because they can't see each other, but because they can't see what the other person wants you to see, whether it's true or not. Self-realization often requires external gaze to complete, and it is especially important in intimate relationships-the first step to become a successful director is for someone to start looking at me with the eyes of a talented director. If others don’t When it comes to my talents, then you should support me even more; if others can appreciate me, then why can't you do it?
Everyone in the film mentions Los Angeles and repeatedly mentions space. For every New Yorker who lives in a shoe box and works hard by himself, "space" is probably a painful word. For Nicole, space means more than a big house and Sunset Boulevard, space is a metaphor for her own future. Nicole complained that Charlie's strong desire for control suppressed her growth, "I became very small", but in fact, from the first meeting with Charlie, Nicole knew that Charlie was an arrogant person, she accepted, and At that time, the fiance broke up and followed Charlie because she was attracted by Charlie’s talent and arbitrariness. , I found that the dead part was not dead, just dormant.” Nicole admires Charlie. She felt very proud when she contributed to Charlie's drama. She unconditionally supported and followed him. Nicole has nothing to do with her. She has always lived in the world of others, and her choice is less important than Charlie's decision. With everyone, Nicole is saying that Cha Ideal wants this, that he wants to do this, wants that, what I want to do, but he doesn't want to. Until Nora interrupted her: "I want to know, you, what you want to do. What we have to do is tell your story."
It’s not that Nicole is so dedicated to Charlie that he compromises everywhere. It’s not so much that Charlie is tyrannical, but that Nicole does not have a firm opinion on many things. It feels very much to let Charlie take the lead. Good and comfortable suppression. As long as there is dogmatic Charlie, Nicole can have an excuse for stagnation. Charlie said, "This life is always what you want, until you don't want it anymore" is not wrong.
She is not special. In many two-person relationships, if one party always has a firm intention, and the other party has no clear ideas, generally things will be decided by the party with clear preferences. In the short term, many disputes can be resolved, and some people may even think that it is a tacit understanding: "Look at these things in our family, my wife has the final say and I will follow along." However, it may not be a good thing for a long time. If there is no objection It's okay for that party to really follow the good, but most of the time the silent party has a long reflex arc and cannot give immediate feedback, or presses down on his own thoughts and forbearance, forbearance is inevitable in the long run.
The reason why Nicole wanted to leave Charlie was the same as the reason why she resolutely left her fiance to follow Charlie at the time-in this relationship, she felt that she did not live like herself, and in order to find herself, she decided to leave.
Of course, finding oneself may not always be achieved by abandoning marriage. If only marriage gets in the way, then life is simply wonderful.
You think that your end is a confrontation between the two sides. You use the absolute superiority of reason and eloquence to argue with the other side and regret it. Suddenly looking back, you find that you are not easy.
Then you waved your hand coolly and left the scumbag to live a new life.
That's not the case.
How can one wake up. If people know to regret, if they can realize their selfishness, then the relationship between two people will not come to this point. The reason why we have come to this point is because people cannot introspect or realize their own mistakes. He won't beg you for forgiveness, because in his story, you are clearly at fault. Nicole's conclusion to Charlie can be described as a scumbag: "You and your selfishness are so integrated, you don't even know it is selfishness."
In Charlie's opinion, although I cheated, I am happy with her. Although I cheated, I only slept with one person. It was obvious that I had the opportunity to sleep so many people before, but I gave up for loving you. Isn't this a sacrifice?
The moment Nicole collapsed said "I can't believe that I have known you forever".
Was the woman who married you me? Why is she so strange.
There is a vicious side in every intimate relationship. It is always there. Malice is a tumor of love, but it has been suppressed all the time-from sitting on the toilet without closing the door, to speaking with mother-in-law's tone, even hope The other party simply went out and had a car accident-the more you understand this person, the more evidence to hate this person, because you know the ins and outs of all her/his shortcomings, and you know all the misfortunes under the iceberg. Once this malice is released, it will never go back. The relationship between people is so fragile and can't stand the test, and the torn skin will never fight back. If you still want to be friends like adults, you can resist the implosion.
At the end of the story, Nicole and Charlie lived a happy life, each happy, each happy. The last paragraph of "Why do I love him" that Nicole refused to pronounce at the time was-"I will continue to love him, but it doesn't make any sense anymore."
It really doesn't make much sense, as the title says, this is a story about marriage, not about love.
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