Autism, also known as autism, is a subtype of pervasive developmental disorder. It is more common in males and begins in infancy and childhood. It is mainly manifested in different degrees of speech developmental disorders, interpersonal barriers, narrow interests and Stereotyped behavior. About 3/4 of the patients are accompanied by obvious mental retardation, and some children have better abilities in some aspects under the background of general mental retardation. (Baidu Encyclopedia)
It is unscientific to say that autism is mental retardation or neurosis. However, our country has only begun to pay attention to and scientifically treat autism in recent years. In 2015, "Sanlian Life Weekly" also made an in-depth special issue on this topic. There are now some institutions in China that are paying attention and helping to treat such children, but the results are very limited and they are struggling.
In the final analysis, paying attention to autism is only a small branch of social phenomenon, but when it falls on individual families, it is a big problem that cannot be taken lightly.
Black Balloon is one such family. The movie is very warm, but it is just a movie. In the real family life, there is a child with autism. The moment of warmth and touching is very small, and the ability to walk down depends on the mutual support and understanding of family members, and the mutual care of a child who will never be. It may be impossible to give the child you want to interact with without any one person.
Many people say that Thomas' parents were selfish. Adding two more members to a family that already has an autistic child puts the teenage Thomas on the shoulders of caring for his older brother -- something he shouldn't be doing as a child. That is probably just treating individuals as individuals. As mentioned above, if a family really accepts and cares for an autistic child, it is a single person, or it is just something that both parents cannot afford, it needs a family to come together. effort.
For Thomas' parents, it was selfish and selfless. In "Sister's Guardian", the mother's original intention for the second child is to provide the first child with a steady stream of supplies. In this sense, both the mother and the eldest daughter are selfish, but the problem is You can't just look at one side. In a family, the flesh and blood are connected, and the bones and blood are connected, which makes the problem very complicated and difficult to solve. No decision is made without love, and no decision is made without hurt in the name of love. In the end, no one can really decompose this question and give a yes and no answer in a binary opposition. Yes, this is family.
The selfishness of Thomas's parents may be that they want more people to take care of Charlie. After all, after realizing that Charlie's abnormality, they will instinctively realize that they have little time to live, even if there are still long years, their parents are always there. This kind of awakening——I will definitely die before the child. At that time, who will take care of Charlie? Having a third child is selfless. Even though he has responsibilities and obligations as a parent, he wants to find another pair of hands to share Thomas' burden. Likewise, as a normal parent, who wouldn't have a single thought of wanting a normal child? Therefore, it is their parents who cannot and cannot be blamed the most. Raising a child with autism is too difficult. Without Thomas and little sister, who interacts with them in the lengthy family life, who can make them experience the happiness of being a parent?
In a family, there may be no standard answer to any question.
At the beginning of the film, Charlie smashes an egg and Thomas sits at the table for breakfast when the house is a mess. Mom was close to giving birth and had difficulty squatting, but she didn't call Thomas to help. There are many small details that show that the parents are working hard to protect their son's adolescence, and want to strip away the responsibility of caring for Charlie and give Thomas more of a normal life.
Over the years, because Charlie and Thomas needed to keep moving, and were ridiculed by their peers, he was more sensitive and self-respecting than the average child. Jackie's understanding and acceptance did not come overnight. At first, accepting kindness was a little difficult for Thomas.
The girl Jackie is like an angel, as a 16-year-old girl, she is not born to understand everything about Charlie. This is so because Jackie herself is a missing child. Jackie, who has no mother, may be "because she understands, so she is compassionate", but most adolescent children can't do it.
The world of black balloons and the world of colorful balloons are very different. People in one world cannot understand people in the other world, but in the final analysis, they are all people, or they are all balloons.
Despite Thomas' parents wanting to be the best, mother Maggie's maternal hypertension is a new condition that cannot be ignored. Under such circumstances, Thomas, as a member of the family, could only passively accept the responsibility of taking care of his brother. Almost all the family members in the film have broken down, except for the mother. Mom, it's probably another species in this world. She is female, but not all female. Once a mother, the power that erupts is unimaginable. It is difficult for many men to understand and out of reach. Of course, it's not all about the power of science. As a dad, I accept Charlie to take care of Charlie because "he's my son", while the mother has an obsession with "Charlie's going to be okay".
Knowing that there is no hope, at this time, my mother is like an underage Thomas.
Girl who lost her mother Jackie says you have to stop fantasizing about him getting better. The adult world is cruel, there is no fantasy there, it will never be better without mom and Charlie is a cruel reality, and people can only go on better if they face this reality.
At the end of the film, Thomas not only performed together with his brother, but also took a bath in the bathtub together. He said a lot to himself, knowing that Charlie was just listening, but he couldn't enter his world at all. He suddenly laughed: did you pee on my leg?
Thomas accepts Charlie, accepts the reality that summer will be over and the kids will grow up. In a sense, this is also a film about the growth of teenage boys.
At any time, the first lesson that growth teaches us is: face reality.
The warm wind is blowing outside, and the world is warm. Sad and cruel things seem far away from this warm world, but yes, they are happening right here, they are happening. Growing up has come as scheduled, and growing up is also good, because it will tell us immediately that after facing the reality, even if there are many incomprehensible and unacceptable realities in the world, we can still be true to ourselves and still be able to live. better.
Only love is the answer to all unanswered questions.
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