hey my man

Emery 2022-07-12 17:27:35

What are the characteristics of a man?

Men are afraid of marriage.

Men are addicted to sex.

Maggie and Julianne, as female spokespersons, confronted men who represented these two characteristics.

Elaine played by Maggie has a boyfriend Tobey who has been dating for seven years (also the younger brother of Rebecca played by Julianne in the play). Why do you need to imprison yourself in the shackles of marriage early on?

I have lived with Elaine for a long time, and I am so familiar that I can fart in front of Elaine without being embarrassed. When talking, I just stare at the TV without looking at my girlfriend. After seven years, my relationship has become very natural. A girlfriend's hand is like his left hand holding his right hand, marriage is really superfluous.

And Elaine is more than a big boy's unrestrained boyfriend playing the world. At such an age, she naturally has a desire for marriage and children. When she hinted that Tobey, she loves that kind of Big Spanish Family, there are many children around her knees, Tobey sees it as a vice that led to a population explosion, and that those parents are also responsible for depleting natural resources. When Elaine left in anger, Tobey was at a loss, so he had to go to the flower shop the next day to buy a bunch of flowers to coax his girlfriend back, but he thought the flowers were too expensive, anyway, it was already past the love period, so he bought some discount flowers on sale Rather, it is more practical.

Since Tobey is Rebecca's younger brother, Elaine and Rebecca also naturally became close friends. They often interacted with Rebecca and his wife. Once the four of them had dinner together, Rebecca asked Elaine and her younger brother what stage they had reached while Tobey was going to the toilet. He forced a smile and followed her boyfriend Tobey's tone and said: It's just our life style, many people are bound by old-fashioned sentimental views, and they can't help but doubt when they look at them. I really don't know if they understand, living in a gray area ( How exciting and interesting it is, outside of marriage, isn't it that people live to be happy?

After dinner, Tobey's car parked on the side of the road to avoid the parking fee was towed away, Elaine shivered on the side of the road hoping to stop a taxi, and Tobey kept complaining that the police should not tow his car, Elaine, who pretended to be happy in front of others, finally could no longer pretend, and told Tobey to shut up. The heartless Tobey thought he was angry that his girlfriend offered a taxi and he ignored it, but Elaine shouted in despair: I want to get married and have a baby, and you don't! Tobey was still in the clouds at this time Here, he made up his mind to compromise and decided to stop complaining about the police, saying, OK, let's just get a tab! This made Elaine completely devastated and left in despair after saying that he couldn't believe that he had wasted 7 years on Tobey. go.

When I saw this part, I wanted to cry and laugh at the same time.

On the other hand, Tobey's sister Rebecca and her husband Tom (David Duchovny) have two children. On the surface, they seem warm and happy, but they are also facing problems. Tom is addicted to sex, likes pornography sites, and watches bestiality. Madden erotic pictures, wife Rebecca is a frigid. Tom can be said to be both hard and soft to seek pleasure, and he even comes up with strange tricks. For example, if his wife doesn't like actual combat, he prepares pornographic videos and tells his wife to watch and describe. He closes his eyes and listens while masturbating. Tom originally thought this was a very aphrodisiac and eclectic approach, but Rebecca didn't understand the style, and exclaimed while watching, "It's disgusting", or "the male protagonist's dick is bigger than you", which made Tom lose his sexual interest. .

After repeated attempts to get married, Tom finally couldn't resist the temptation and made a "mistake that all men make". After several happy moments, the affair was not easy. Tom, who was in a dilemma, decided to stop, but his wife Rebecca realized the truth at this time and separated from Tom.

The plot is introduced here, and there is no need to repeat it at the end. Of course, it is a clichéd reunion. After Elaine left, Tobey hangs out with his former college girlfriend who is already married. The ex-girlfriend who is more "optimistic" than him wants to have a relationship with Tobey, Tobey said, but you already have a husband. The ex-girlfriend said that when life is alive, isn't it necessary to have fun in time? Tobey had an epiphany, this kind of "happiness" might not be what he wanted. And Tom, wrote on the note to his wife Rebecca: I am a husband. I am a father. I am in love with you.

I like these three sentences, Husband, father, with you. Compared with "I love you so much" in "Painted Skin", the "love" defined by "Believe in Men" is more real.


Many magazines and newspapers have cited scientific research, saying that the passionate love brought by purely chemical reactions in the face of the same partner can only last for a short period of three months. Similarly, after having sex with the same partner for 300 times, the subsequent sex is completely boring and even psychological resistance from a purely physiological point of view. This is human animality and cannot be changed. If you want to experience passionate love, the only way is to change to a new and different partner. But the replacement is not done once and for all, because the experience period of novelty and excitement will be shortened, that is to say, the threshold of excitement will continue to increase, and the frequency of changing partners needs to be increased. It's a bit like taking drugs that require increasing doses to feel high, and it's a bit like the overuse of antibiotics resulting in antibodies to the drug. And constantly changing partners, whether for men or women, can actually bring frustration to oneself after experiencing novelty (this is a bit unexpected).

That's why I said that Zhao Wei in "Painted Skin" is really a bit reluctant. If love is really like what is shown in "Painted Skin", it is greedy for a good skin, anyway, if you can't ask for it, you will love deeply. Then she ignores it, then all she needs to do is to let her husband and the demon "have a good time" and "have a lot of fun", so that the threshold rises, and the once taboo object of sexual fantasy becomes an easy-to-reach institutionalization. A prostitute (Marx said that marriage is institutionalized prostitution), the husband will no longer have any passion for demons, and everyone can live in peace, harmony and beauty, and more peace of mind.

But Tom, he did not deny that he has long been passionate about his wife (saying "only you can fascinate me" while having a different dream in the same bed is really disgusting), but the roles of husband and father have shared too much with his wife. Much has already become a part of love.

Before the age of 22, I, like many girls, believed that love was absolute between two people, with me and without her. Now, I am beginning to understand that this absolute is too idealistic. I began to focus on cherishing what we've been through more than whether today's level of love has faded from yesterday's.

There is a saying that "you will know how to cherish it when you have lost it". I am afraid it has nothing to do with passion. It is not difficult to find someone to re-experience passion. What is lost and cannot be relived is actually related to the person's experience. growth and everything that has been shared.

If love is the beauty of the moment in "Painted Skin" in "If life is only as first seen", then love has nothing to do with longevity. The more "first seen", the richer the love.

In reality, the love that makes people happy and tender is actually an accumulation, not a "happy time" like Tobey once thought. You have witnessed every change in my role, I have witnessed your growth from a boy to a man, every time we have Quarrel, after many years will be a knowing smile, this kind of love will be enduring. Trust the Man, probably not only asks women to believe in men, but also in human nature. Both men and women have a desire for such love.

Trust the Man Keyword Summary--About Love:

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Trust the Man quotes

  • Tobey: What kind of porn are you looking at?

    Tom: Good old fashioned man-woman woman-horse stuff.

    Tobey: Oh, you're a purist.

  • [first lines]

    David: I need help!

    Tom: I'll go.