I envy them

I'm a star dad, and the pain I've been in for me and my kids is far greater than what's mentioned in the movie. I have tried to explain that it was not family education that caused my child to get sick, it was congenital, but my relatives and friends gave me the label of "shirk the responsibility". I tried to explain that my child was not aggressive, he It's just that I don't know how to play with your children, but in exchange, I have a "lack of public morality" of "Is it ill and brought it out?" I have tried to explain that what the child can teach is not a fool, but in exchange for the expulsion order "We are not a special institution". I've tried to explain that my kids didn't mess up on purpose, I'd clean it up, in exchange for "no tutoring" and forcibly buying the bunch of strawberries.

Now I don't explain.

In addition to these "outsiders", my poor baby has not been respected by some relatives, even my cousins, uncles and aunts, so family gatherings have become my most hated activity, where my children are a Plague, no one plays with him, and he can't participate. His existence at most adds a little bit of conversation to some of my elders. "Hey, you see that xx is so big and still wears diapers. It's over." "He Can I get married when I grow up? Is this disease hereditary?"

I say to my children: No one will like you except Mom and Dad. He didn't understand, but he could feel my helplessness and stared at me rarely.

I envy that self-mutilating child to have a black brother. There is a clip in the movie where the little black brother took the self-mutilating child to touch the horse outdoors. I couldn't help crying when I saw this. Once I took my son to his grandfather's house, he timidly touched his grandfather's dog, smiled contentedly, but was still a little shy, at the age of four, for the first time he touched another living thing with his hands, And not disliked. Although just a dog.

Most people think that autistic people don’t like to be in contact with people, but it’s not true. They also want to have their own friends. However, they have different consciousness and limited IQ. It is difficult for them to make friends. , comparable to their lives. Although the little black brother is just doing his job, he doesn't know what his simple act means to the self-harming child.

I am even more envious that they have such a non-governmental organization that can accommodate these children. Taking care of autism, it is difficult to persevere without excellent patience and tolerance, not to mention the severe patients in the film. Where I live, some organizations lie besides cheating money. I don't understand why an autistic child insists on sedatives and a belt to lie there and let your old doctor pierce the skull? It is said that acupuncture and moxibustion can cure it. "Can this be cured?" A star mother asked timidly, "There is no cure anyway, so try everything." The person in charge of the agency said (well, it was a hospital doctor).

The two male pig feet in the movie are middle-aged people who are too ordinary to be ordinary. What they do is not great, but they are worthy of praise and respect from the world. I am envious of their presence.

I appreciate all the people on the internet who are clamoring for understanding and tolerance of "children from Mars", but tm when you started talking about how you came out of autism, I was. . . I really hope what you said is true, then my child is saved.

There are many research institutions on autism in the world, but in their data, there are very few records of middle-aged autistic patients.

Any idea why?

In the second half of the movie, Little Fatty was fired as expected. His mother said to the male protagonist, "What will happen to him if I die in the future, I want to take him with me when I think of him being locked up." This isn't a line, it's a real worry for families with autism. Dear parents and mothers, feel your conscience and ask yourself, do you dare to say that you have never had such an idea? I have, more than once.

What is a middle-aged person with autism like? Right next to you, those unkempt homeless, those lunatics rummaging through rubbish heaps to find food, every time I think this will be my child's future, the idea of ​​"taking him out of this world" gets stronger .

However, when you see him struggling to shout "Mom and Dad" and want to beat eggs like you, you will give up this terrible thought.

At the end of the movie, everyone watched those autistic children dancing together. The little fat man's mother cried, and the male protagonist cried. It was joy or excitement, seeing that their efforts paid off, and seeing hope.

I envy them, and I may find hope too, but at least not now.

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Some of the details in the movie are in place, and it takes some knowledge of autism to understand, so let me mention it.

1. The cause of autism is still unknown, but it is definitely related to genetic variation. The child is born, not acquired. Their consciousness is completely different from that of ordinary people. More than half of autistic patients have an IQ of less than 60, and the rest are normal, and high-functioning patients like Yuren are even rarer. Therefore, almost all the children in the movie have intellectual disabilities, and the little fat man who is the closest to a normal person is no exception.

2. Patients with autism suffer from poor pain. So the self-inflicted brother was wearing a headgear, he didn't feel much pain, but he knew that a bump on the head would attract attention. 3. Autism likes to repeat some mechanical actions, and some things have some fixed "rituals", so you see the little fat man who has to press the alarm until the end.

4. People with autism like to watch some fixed programs repeatedly, especially commercials. When the little fat man got home, he just sat there watching the advertisement of the washing machine and learned the words of the advertisement. It is worth noting that the advertisement should be quite old, I don't know how many times he has watched it.

5. Autism is completely different from normal people's consciousness and perception, so it is not afraid of our danger. At the beginning of the movie, the little girl runs wildly, and at the end, the self-mutilating boy walks in the traffic, which are its manifestations.

6. As above, for this reason, they do not make much distinction between "people" and "things". (Some people with autism have no emotions except for their own life caregivers, because they feel that they are no different from their toys). Perhaps this is the main reason why autism cannot integrate into society.

7. The vast majority of families with autism are single parents. It is mentioned more or less in the movie, and in fact it is also the case. The divorce rate of autistic families is extremely high. Some choose to divorce to avoid responsibility, and some are to take the initiative to undertake the divorce so that the other party will not be dragged down. The other thing is that they can't bear the pressure and commit suicide.

8. The most effective treatment for autism at present is ABA, which intervenes in behavioral analysis. In the movie, the little nurse taught the self-harming boy to use stickers to indicate his intentions is a kind of ABA, just like teaching kittens and dogs, hey.

9. Many children with autism remain silent for life. In the movie, except for the little fat man, you hear a few children talking normally.