Betrayal, if you do it well, it is called insisting on love

Harmon 2022-03-03 08:01:54

There are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people. "If You Are the One", like many commercial films, is inevitably mixed with praise and criticism. Those who hold it dig out the hidden story of the lines and analyze the moral, ethical, and humanistic concerns. Some people angrily criticize the large number of placed advertisements and plagiarize the shadow of "AV" and "Marriage Enlightenment". What I want to say is that it is rare for someone to make Xiaosan so lovable. People who think about usurping power are not necessarily bad people. Cheating is not necessarily shameful.
I have been very busy, so I missed the movies released during this time. For this Lunar New Year drama, after the schedule, I had no idea to watch it. It was completely recommended by someone, and I regretted watching it after watching it. This kind of film should make people laugh from the beginning to the end, but I am only happy until Qin Fen and Liang Xiaoxiao meet. Before that, it was quite an orthodox Feng's comedy line, and Uncle Ge's Beijing accent and embedded advertisements were not at all. Disgusting, good. If you are moved by the film and resonate emotionally, you won't care about the unreasonableness and contradictions in the details. Basically, there are two types of people who will find resonance, one is in the identity of Liang Xiaoxiao, who naturally empathizes with it, and the other is a middle-aged man who has experienced changes in the world and remains idealistic in his heart, and will see himself in Qin Fen. The shadow of Wu Sang will give birth to indescribable sorrow for Wu Sang's cry at the end of the film.
Liang Xiaoxiao drank Jian Nanchun in the restaurant and said, "It's love at first sight, it's not that you fell in love with me at first sight, or I fell in love with you at first sight, not the look, but the taste, they were attracted to each other by the smell of each other, fascinated, ... If the smell is the same, you don't need to get close to it. You can smell the same smell from a distance of eight feet. This attraction is two-way, not just an attraction, but an infatuation, and everything else is repelling. ... infatuated and unable to stay together. Struggling with infatuation, every minute is heart-wrenching, and every night I can't get through without drinking. ...I can't tell anyone, it's so painful and aggrieved.
In this passage, Shu Qi said it over and over again, depressed and choked up, which has made countless women trapped in this kind of emotion heartbroken. A wife is not as good as a concubine, a concubine is not as good as stealing, and stealing is not as good as not stealing. For thousands of years, the contradictions and primitive nature of human nature have always existed. It's a man's wish, but, I think, if there is such a day, there will still be such a thing, but the title of junior three will be changed to junior four, this is just a matter of numbers. Betrayal is addictive. No woman is willing to maintain such a painful and happy relationship. However, Liang Xiaoxiao's words explain a part of the mentality of these women, knowing that there are many ways around, If you walk over, you will see the beautiful scenery. If you turn around, you can see the sunshine, but you can't take that step. That kind of entanglement will drain all your emotions. It's not that I haven't thought about saving myself, but a woman in love will become stupid, like a blind fly in front of a glass window. And in my heart, there is no room for another person.
Liang Xiaoxiao pulled Qin Fen to the man and said, "Mr. Qin and I have known each other before, but we were just ordinary friends. We met again on the plane this time. I don't know why we liked it so much. It was love at second sight. , After getting off the plane, Mr. Qin called me and hoped that I would stay in Hangzhou for two more days to deepen our understanding of each other, so we have been together these two days, and we both felt that we were lucky and did not miss each other. ...You always wanted me to find a good home. She said the word "always" very seriously, thinking that she would be able to perform the scene well, and that she would be able to free herself. This sentence sounds dry on the surface, because these seemingly beautiful things are just excuses, the smile is far-fetched, and the heart is full of unbearable pain. However, looking at the person in their eyes, there is still a slight questioning expectation, very subtle, hoping for a miracle to appear, hoping for a turning point, even if they know in their hearts that it is impossible, they continue to be disappointed by things that were originally hopeless. The women who are still unable to leave the scene in this emotion are only supported by the slightest hope.
The man said: I am not as lucky as you, I entrusted Xiaoxiao to my dear friend, you have to treat her kindly, she is willful and spoiled by me, I hope you can bear with me, if she is unhappy, I will be sad too.
Hearing this, I couldn't help crying. Because someone has said something similar. This kind of explanation was first heard in a savage girlfriend. If it was a romantic touch at that time, it can only be a heart-wrenching grief here. Everyone understands that it's not that there is no emotion in this, it's just: love, but you can't love deeply. Men have the pain of men, and women will never understand. They think that love is mutual affection and mutual dependence.
I will do what you regret with my body, spirit, and all. Some people say that this is a foreshadowing of Liang Xiaoxiao jumping into the sea, but in fact, women who say such things viciously usually do not necessarily mean anything. A determination is a decision made in the heart. And she couldn't get rid of this emotion, so she was naturally reluctant to punish him.
I thought I could love you for a lifetime, but I didn't expect the remaining days to be numbered.
Did you know that I am conflicted about time, sometimes too fast and sometimes too slow. Every time we meet, I feel that it is too short, and there are many, many things that are too late to do with you, such as a movie, a trip, or going to the supermarket together, walking on the road, cooking together, and wanting to have our children together. Who is more like between them... . . . In fact, you don't have to accommodate me, even if it is a small wish, because I will become more and more greedy, and I will always want more and more.
Liang Xiaoxiao and that person have very little foreshadowing. It may be that the director is not good at setting up such plots, and he is afraid that he will miss out if he talks too much. The three-year entanglement stemmed from an impossible promise. In fact, in life, many men and women, knowing that there is no result, are silently attracted by each other's scent, infatuated, lingering, unable to withdraw. Emotions without commitment, like castles in the air, like mirages, are more illusory, more fragile, and more difficult to capture and dispel.

Liang Xiaoxiao finally decided to leave the field first in this fruitless and no sunshine relationship, because three years are up, and Qin Fen is the only straw she can grab at the moment. Outside the church, she told Wu Sang that getting married depends on fate, and no matter how good it is, you can't get together without fate. I think, this is called deep relationship, I finally believe in fate. The more desperate a person is, the easier it is to believe in so-called superstition and fate. Perhaps, thinking that putting everything in the void and the unknown will make you feel better. It doesn't seem to be my fault.
Liang Xiaoxiao said, if you have to get married, and you can't be with the person you love, you have to find a confidant. This should be the motto of older young women like me. Of course, it is not good to have a dark relationship. Qin Fen is not a confidant, but he can't choose what to eat. It's a long road, and he has to find someone who can talk.
I remember this sentence: when love violates the private nature of philosophy, love is no longer love in the traditional sense. It looks more selfless and noble on the surface, but in fact it is more humble and fragile. Therefore, no matter how clean and beautiful Hokkaido is, and no matter how sincere and reliable Qin Fen is, the more Liang Xiaoxiao realizes that he is helpless and wretched, he originally wanted to get back something beautiful, but he went the opposite way and had nowhere to go.
Betrayal, a behavior condemned by the guards in life, is so beautiful and upright in the movie, and the sadness of Liang Xiaoxiao is so natural. People can only look at it from a distance. Once it happens around, it is destined to be a talk after a meal, soaked in spittle stars and trampled by stinky feet. Therefore, in today's era when mistresses are everywhere, but they are shouted and beaten everywhere, this film is particularly valuable. And people's beginnings, farewells, conflicts, and turning points are all so unreliable, unrelated to interests, and unrelated to money. Hangzhou, Beijing, Haikou, and Hokkaido are picturesque, and they can travel freely. Let us, who are drenched in real life, busy with firewood, rice, oil and salt every day, what position should we place our feelings on? I thought it was perfect for Shu Qi to play Liang Xiaoxiao. It was so natural to steal an affair, which attracted countless sympathy.
The conflict between ideal and reality is everywhere, Qin Fen represents reality, Liang Xiaoxiao represents ideal, their dialogue is like a child who believes in fairy tales and an adult who exposes reality:
Do you know what love at first sight is? I fell in love with you when I saw you. Let's see each other in love.
Animals can smell odors from dozens of meters away. Animals don't just stare at one.
The premise of my willingness to marry you is that I can't find anyone who is stupider than you. I won't be so stupid anymore. You, you don't have the ability to think half-heartedly, and you don't even know how to act on the scene. It's all written on your face. I put my words here, you haven't turned the page on him yet, once you turn to a new page, you will still be single-minded. I just saw this one before I tolerated your present performance. You are stupid, I am not stupid.
You are lucky to see a bear. That's the luck of the bear.
Liang smiled and jumped into the sea. Really fucking stupid.
Qin Fen rubbed Liang Xiaoxiao's fingers and said, "You are so naughty, even if I don't worry about it, you are more worry-free than me. Liang Xiaoxiao's red and swollen eyes shed tears, Qin Fen leaned up and gently wiped away the tears, saying that my brother knew that you were wronged, and there was nothing that could not be done with your brother by your side.

On the boat, Liang Xiaoxiao took Qin Fen's mobile phone, called the man, and said goodbye. Then throw the phone into the sea. Tell Qin Fen that you don't need to contact others anymore. It means that you have to live with me wholeheartedly from now on. Neither the mind nor the body can desert.
Seems like a perfect decision. I felt a little uneasy in my heart, because if I really let go, I don’t need any form of farewell. Only when I’m not sure, will I need some form to prove myself, remind myself, and strengthen my belief. And in Liang Xiaoxiao's heart, what if he threw the phone away, that number was familiar to him all his life. In that relationship, there is no real "thank you for loving me". Some feelings belong to fate and are part of life.

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