Son: you don't choose a life, Dad, you live one. You don't choose a life, you live one.
Immediately, I was very touched. During college, every time my father came to pick me up, we would have heated discussions on the way. I've always felt that there are a lot of things I want to do, and if you don't do it now, you may really never get the chance to do it later. Parents always expect you to live a stable and peaceful life. They will be surprised and inconceivable that you are thinking of doing the things you have always wanted to do after graduation instead of looking for a job. You should find a stable job, have a certain accumulation and experience, and then go on the road and do what you want to do. But when I ask them again if they regret not doing what you wanted to do before, the answer is: yes. We are not captive birds, didn't you come to this world to see the wonderful things in this world, or have you lived the life you thought? But let someone else show you the way? Tell you: child, it's too dangerous outside, and you'll run into bad people when you go out. It's better to stay safe and secure with your parents. Or the people around you tell you: wow. This one is better, that one is so boring. What is your best. .
Life is the decades between life and death. People often regret what they have not done. Everyone has their own right to choose, how to live, and the right to choose is up to you. I often feel that most of us are very confused and don’t know what we want. Just seeing what others are fighting for, we rush to fight for it. It’s like going to a hypermarket, and the people in front are frantically grabbing discounted items. You don’t know what it is, but you just feel that everyone is flocking to them. So you rush over and try to grab a share from the crowd. If it’s just what you need, it’s fine, but most of them are useless things. It’s a waste of money, time and energy, and you may miss what you really want. .
In the past two years, whether on the Internet or on the road, I have seen many people who started to choose their own lives. The initiative in their lives is in their own hands. Whether it is a person who starts a gap year, or a part-time worker in a youth hostel, or a volunteer teaching in a remote area, or a person walking on the road, I want to cheer for them, because I see a lot of wonderful Life. It's not that people who talk about ordinary life are not living a wonderful life. Everyone has the right to choose their own way of life. Everyone faces different situations. It just feels that the world is starting to become more and more colorful.
Too many people live a life of just talking. You say you like traveling, you say you like literature, you say you like music, but it's always just talk, without any actual action. Always give yourself plenty of reasons. There is an interesting joke on Weibo: When you are
18 years old and go to college, I ask you, what is your dream? You say travel around the world. When you finished college at the age of 22, you said you would go after you found a job. At the age of 26, you have a stable job. You said that you will talk about it after you buy a house. At the age of 30, you have a car and a house. You said that you will take your wife with you after you get married. If you have a child at the age of 35, you say that the child will be older. The 40-year-old child is old, and you say that you can take care of the old man before you go. In the end you didn't go anywhere.
I hope we can all live the life we want, not just talk about it.
Episode 2: Tom hits the road, first alone. Later joined Dutch lads who wanted to lose weight, Canadian women who wanted to quit smoking and English writers who couldn't find inspiration. From the beginning of being strangers, to the beginning of quarrels when they don't know each other, to the end of mutual dependence, they cherish them very much. The pictures of the four people laughing in Tom's room in the hotel, and the pictures accompanying them along the way all moved me quite a bit.
Everyone's life is like a pilgrimage, one person is born and one person dies. Along the way, we will meet a lot of people, those who have fate and those who have no fate. As I grew up, I began to understand that everything should not be too demanding. It is impossible for everyone in this world to like you, and not everyone likes you. Some people can only walk with you for a short distance, and few people walk with you a long way, but no one can accompany you through the whole process of life.
Like it, like it, don't like it, don't like it. There is no need to force yourself. Besides sincerity and respect, the most important thing between people is communication. Intense quarrels are inevitable. If you separate because of quarrels, it is impossible for such a person to accompany you for a long time. Sooner or later, they will get out of your life. If you are dissatisfied, you can say that if you are unhappy, you have to scold you, so why bother yourself. Moreover, as long as you pass on your thoughts to others, others will know how to adjust, otherwise, the relationship between the two will not last for a long time.
So, I want to say, if you like loneliness, it is your own world, and you can get along with yourself very easily. Then, treat the people around you as best you can. Do your best in everything first. If you do what you can, that person, whether it is a friend or a lover, leaves, there is not much regret. Because you worked hard. Something will occur if it belongs to your life, if not, do not push it. Finally, I hope we all cherish the people around us. If there is any gap between two people, please communicate in time, that is to cherish their actions.
Episode 3: Standing on the beach at the end, the writer said: All writers look forward to the end of the novel. but. . . . . (Yes, he found his direction, although he said before that he started writing articles for magazines after graduation, hoping to write a novel after making money, but 20 years later he is still writing articles for magazines, which is somewhat regrettable The meaning. Tom said, what you write is your personal experience, what you see, what you feel, what you are writing. Yes, the writer feels, why must write a novel to look forward to the article At the end of the end, he can keep writing, because he has been feeling it all the time.)
The woman who quit smoking is not quitting smoking, and the guy who loses weight is going to change his clothes again and not lose weight. Because smoking and eating delicious food are already part of their lives, there is no reason to quit this habit.
The final shot is of Tom starting to travel around the world, continuing his journey. While helping his son fulfill his dream, he also found his own direction, and although he was in his 60s, he finally began to choose life instead of living.
Life is a process of constantly finding what you want. The maturity of a person is not more and more inclusive and accepting everything. On the contrary, it is a process of gradually eliminating, knowing what is most important to you and what is not important. Then, be a pure and simple person.
I hope that everyone can find the life they want and can balance a happy life in all. The real pursuit is not a life that is just talking about.
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