Beth, who has the status of a princess, loves Jack, who is brave and straightforward, and was a slave. With a longing for freedom, they both escaped from the indigenous tribe of Maori and formed a family. With five children, they sing and dance when they are happy and drink all night.
However, the joyful happiness will be smashed into pieces by Jack's family in an instant. Beth couldn't bear to let the child see the swollen and deformed face, sobbing in the bathroom alone, the frightened child curled up and shivered under the bed. The eldest daughter Grace, who was originally full of hope in life, after being raped by her father's friend, did not dare to expect the protection of her parents at all, and ended her life in despair. After Jack violently killed the thug who raped his daughter, he raised his axe and slashed the tree with the hanging rope in anger. It made people feel heartbroken for the father's love that wanted to cry without tears and filled with remorse.
Domestic violence is a social problem. When it comes to domestic violence, most people will condemn the perpetrators and sympathize with the victims. However, in my opinion there is no winner. The perpetrator may have gained temporary control, but he still cannot get rid of his inner inferiority. Violence is a coping mode that is weak and painful because of a lack of recognition and respect. Too much anger is hidden and suppressed. But violence cannot solve it, it can only backfire. Just like Beth looked down on Jack, his fist didn't earn the respect it wanted. Of course, from the perspective of life script, perhaps he has always needed this painful cycle to establish a sense of existence.
When it comes to scripting, look at how it's written. When we were children, we longed for unconditional acceptance from our parents, but there are no "perfect" parents in reality, so injuries are inevitable. The child can't understand why I am your child, I am so loyal to you, you can't accept me as I am? Always ask me this, ask me that. Then start planning, how to change your parents and achieve your goals. I racked my brains to develop some coping strategies, which were temporarily exchanged for praise and rewards from my parents, and they continued to strengthen. However, the parents still haven't changed completely and are still demanding us according to their expectations, and the frustration becomes the end of the script.
The script was developed using all the ingenuity of our "Little Doctor", so once the script is written, it will automatically play out, especially when under pressure. In life, we will constantly search for suitable candidates (lover, etc.) to play the role in the script, and implement the script in the way of games. All of this happens in an unconscious state, so you can't live in the present moment. It is personality that is displayed, which is why people sigh: "It is difficult to change the nature of the country." With the original intention of reforming our parents, we embarked on the journey of life. In the face of various relationships, especially intimate relationships, we are infatuated. Every time our expectations fail, it will arouse our children's dissatisfaction. They will always judge and criticize the people and things around them from their own perspective. They don't want to and don't want to face the reality. What needs to be seen is that no one is living for you, because they all, like you, expect you to live for him. Maturity means seeing and accepting all of this, no longer living in the fantasy of children, and truly learning to be responsible for yourself, including your own expectations. Learn to pay for the disappointment of expectations, rather than complaining and accusing, as ridiculous as a wayward child rolling on the ground.
It can be seen that domestic violence is nothing more than a coping mode of children's disobedience, hoping to control others out of childish fantasy. It's just that there is no strength to face the pain of losing control, which is a kind of escape. When you are a mature person, through the appearance of the abuser, you can see that he is helpless, pitiful, and needs to be recognized by his parents. Maybe those raised fists can be put down by themselves. It's a pity that the victims in reality, like Princess Beth, often have their own stubborn scripts, directing scenes of abuse, and then have reasons to criticize, with only one purpose - to change the parents of the year. The partner in reality may be just the best person you are looking for to play the role of your parents, otherwise how will the script play out? !
To be free, one needs to see the script first, and then have the opportunity to break the repeating pattern. In the face of any environment, you can be responsible for yourself and truly enjoy your own life.
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