Is there a pure friendship between men and women?

Guy 2021-10-22 14:31:18

When we first met, Harry said bluntly, I found you very attractive. This was regarded by Sally as a hanger, and solemnly declared: You are my friend's boyfriend! Although Sally couldn't even remember the name of this friend after many years. Then they talked about friendship, and Harry said categorically: Men and women can never be friends, because sex is always in it. Sally said, of course, I have friends of the opposite sex who are not involved in sex. Harry said, you can't have it. Sally said, are you saying that I have a sexual relationship with my friend and I don't know it? Harry said, no, I mean they still want to have sex with you in their hearts. Sally said, no. Harry said, yes, the truth is that men cannot be friends with a woman they find attractive, because the sexual element is always there, whether it happens or not. Sally gave Harry a big eye. She must be thinking that this man is so disgusting that he is arrogant and arrogant. When we met for the second time, Sally was at the best age in her life. Harry couldn't open her eyes with the thorny and graceful sting. He said, were you so beautiful when you were in college? Sally rolled his eyes again. Harry asked to be friends with Sally, Sally said, you said that there is no pure friendship between men and women. Harry said, did I? Oh yes. impossible. Unless they all have a partner, just like we do now. Then Harry denies himself again, even if this is not possible, because then your partner will ask you why you still need to find a friend of the opposite sex, do you feel any regrets in our relationship, so that you want a friendship of the opposite sex To add? You will say that is not the case, but your partner will say that you are really interesting to her from the bottom of my heart! -And this is often true. Sally said arrogantly, oh, it seems we can't be friends anymore. Harry said, as if so. When they met for the third time, Sally broke up with her boyfriend of five years, and Harry divorced his ex-wife. The way they lose love seems absurd, which just reveals a fact-love always seems to be unprepared suddenly, but think about it, in fact, the moment you start to love each other, why not? Two lonely people approached. They accompany each other, go shopping together, buy things for friends, spend Christmas together, walk and chat together, watch the same movie and call and chat before going to bed. They became best friends. They even introduced each other to their best single friends. There is a very interesting section here. There are too many interesting sections in this movie. When Harry introduced Sally to his friends, the friend asked, is Sally attractive? Harry said, very charming. My friend said, but you also said she was very nice. Harry said that she was very nice. My friend said, look, you know, when a woman is unattractive, we always say that she is very nice. Harry said, if you ask me if she is attractive, and I say she is very nice, it means she is not attractive. But I just mentioned that she is kind, so she may have two situations. She may be nice and attractive, or she may be nice but not attractive. My friend said, what kind of Sally? Harry said that people are nice and attractive. My friend said, but it's not pretty, right? Harry rolled his eyes angrily and walked away. The reason why my friend couldn't believe that Sally was an attractive woman before was obviously because of the friendship between Sally and Harry. If she is nice and beautiful, how can you introduce me to me without chasing her? Harry said to his friend, would you please encourage me? For the first time in my life I befriend a woman and don't want to have a relationship with her. I am growing up! It's interesting. Harry grew up from not believing in the development of pure friendship between men and women to trying a pure friendship, while Sally did the opposite. Maybe in her heart she had already shaken the faith that she had been obsessed with, because she had fallen in love with Harry. I am the same as Sally. From a young age, I believed in pure friendship between men and women until I no longer believed it. This is mostly what the facts tell me. Are you sorry for this? Not really. I have seen many people who say they don’t like same-sex friendships, claiming that they are more accustomed to making friends with the opposite sex—mostly women—most of the time I feel that these people probably don’t know what friendship is. You think that "friendship with boys is more comfortable than girls" is because of the intermixing of sexual factors that make them can't help but please you, please you, and let you, so you feel extra comfortable. Girls don't treat you like this. This is where friendship is good-complete equality. But if a boy really treats you completely as the same sex, and no longer unconsciously pleases you-you need a very broad mind to accept this, and they also lose the fun of getting along with the opposite sex. I once talked about it with a friend of the opposite sex. We were sitting face to face in the dining room. He said, I like to get along with the same sex more and more, because getting along with girls is very tiring, and we always have to cater to and please you. I said you can not do this. He said we can't. This is instinct. I said you are pleasing me even now? He thought for a moment, nodded and said yes, but it was less than what needs to be done in front of other women. I say In fact, I also don’t like getting along with the opposite sex. I feel more relaxed and happy to get along with the same sex. He said, don’t you enjoy our men’s courtesy? I said that not everyone's favor can make me feel enjoyable. And we girls actually need to wrong ourselves to cater to you. I am getting more and more impatient about it. He said, that means you may be smarter than most women. (To answer a question here, why do I have friends of the opposite sex and say that there is no pure friendship between men and women. Because the purity of the friendship between me and my friend is also untestable, I mean, it is pure at the moment. But I dare not say that we can still be absolutely pure after breaking away from some objective factors. And we all have sober restraint. This is based on our not overly convinced of pure friendship between men and women) Back to the movie. Sally and Harry finally proved that there is no pure friendship between men and women. They rolled the sheets and headed for embarrassment. Why didn't they fall in love directly? This is also one of the places where the movie touches me very much. How to heal a wounded soul. "It turns out that he didn't want to get married, but just didn't want to marry me." "She said she didn't even know if she loved me." These are all harms that can cause devastating blows to human souls. How do we recover from injury, rebuild confidence and the ability to love others. "I am OK now just me and my work", Everyone has thought about it before, but maybe only when you meet the next sincere love, will you really heal. They undoubtedly loved each other a long time ago. Appreciate each other, care, and understand in all directions. Talk about anything. Can do the most naive things together. Because the other party is so nice, I dare not love each other when I am uncertain. Only introduce him to my best friend, so that I will not lose him when they are together. I know I depend on you, I trust you, I care about you, I care about you, I know you, and even I like you, but do I love you? Because the other party is too important, so if you are not sure that it is a deep love, you dare not be with him. The last Harry's confession on Christmas Eve was a period of how many times he cried. We are all struggling to find the way to be loved, what will we be satisfied when the other party loves us? Love our looks, or love our soul. Harry gave the best answer, love this you, love all of you, love all your strange little things, love the way the smell speaks on you. Every day I open my eyes and I want to see you, and you are the last person who wants to talk before going to bed. Because I am clearly aware that I want to spend the rest of my life with you, I hope the sooner I start the rest of my life, the better. Ah, I'm going to cry again when I hit here. I watched the movie ten times.

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  • Lolita 2022-04-23 07:01:27

    From misfit to friend, from friend to lover. More tortuous, more tossing, not just the two protagonists, a little bit of a trick, a little less romantic, but also quite realistic, and basically it is a dialogue but the story is finished. Sunrise + sunset. Thank you for your recommendation.

  • Christop 2021-10-22 14:40:35

    Movies are used to create dreams, because they can always promise us too much fulfillment.

When Harry Met Sally... quotes

  • Harry Burns: You know how a year to a person is like seven years to a dog?

    Sally Albright: Is one of us supposed to be a DOG in this scenario?

    Harry Burns: Yes.

    Sally Albright: Who is the dog?

    Harry Burns: You are.

    Sally Albright: I am? I am the dog? I am the dog?

  • Harry Burns: [about Sally] I can say anything to her.

    Jess: Are you saying you can say things to her you can't say to me?

    Harry Burns: No, it's just different. It's a whole different perspective. I get the woman's point of view on things. She tells me about the men she desires and I can talk to her about the women that I see.

    Jess: You tell her about other women?

    Harry Burns: Yeah, like the other night, I made love to this woman. It was so incredible, I took her to a place that wasn't human. She actually meowed.

    Jess: [surprised] You made a woman meow?

    Harry Burns: Yeah, that's the point. I can say these things to her. And the great thing is, I don't have to lie, because I am not always thinking about how to get her into bed. I can just be myself.

    Jess: You made a woman meow?