Abusive Relationship Brings Out the Worst in People

Peter 2022-10-20 17:24:15

As the title. In many short comments, people think that the female lead's IQ is offline. This kind of accusation is understandable but unreasonable. In fact, the most frequently mentioned point in exploring abusive relationships is that it is difficult for people who have not experienced abuse. Experience why survivors of abuse do not leave such a toxic relationship. In fact, an abusive relationship is like boiling a frog in warm water. If you are inexperienced, it will be too late by the time the victim realizes it. Therefore, many countries in Europe and the United States have specifically listed this as one of the topics that must be discussed in sex education.

Many viewers can't understand the very lengthy prison scene, but this is where the whole show shines - because although it revolves around a single line of murder, the themes of the show are diverse, and one of the most important themes is to reflect the heroine from The good girl gradually degenerates and regains her strength in the psychological construction process, and the latter is mainly completed through her experience in prison.

Before the shooting, we knew that the heroine had regressed in performance and alienated friends, but in fact, due to spending a lot of time with Sebastian, a violent madman, we also saw that the heroine also showed an extreme side, which was reflected in her words ( Repeatedly emphasizing that he loves S, longing for his father's death), behavior (taking drugs), etc. In such a high-pressure environment for a long time, the heroine has long isolated herself from her real emotions, so at the beginning of the trial, she gave up on herself, confessed to the crime, behaved arrogantly, and even pointed fingers at the legal assistant of immigration status. But the two roles of the lawyer and the prison guard are really well created. They repeatedly warned the heroine to be strong and win the lawsuit.

The heroine's psychological reconstruction mainly has two huge turning points.

One is to open her emotional floodgates to others by facing her bestie's death. At the beginning of the heroine's imprisonment, she rarely mentioned her best friend, and she ignored the staff who came into contact with her. But subtly, she has developed a similar attachment relationship to the prison guard in charge of her, so before her crying scene, there is a long shot of waiting for the little sister she likes to appear when the prison guard changes her shift. During this process, she met the prison priest by accident and gave her active counseling. So when I finally saw Miss Prison Guard at three o'clock, she broke down. She realizes that she still loves and misses her best friend and is willing to share her feelings with others. This is the first step.

The second step is the awakening of the heroine's self-awareness. This episode happened around Christmas. The heroine received gifts from her family and the prison guard's sister, which added a touch of light to the dark prison life. But the direct fuse was the death of a cellmate Doris, who rarely appeared in the camera, and the heroine suddenly realized that she could not follow her footsteps. Therefore, she decided to participate in the hesitant on-site restoration process. Although this process will be very painful, she hopes to face this memory and work hard to get rid of her guilt. Before that, her self-esteem had basically dropped to the lowest level, but she was able to realize that she still had herself and her family when she left her boyfriend and girlfriend, which was a big step.

But after she is released from prison, the process of psychotherapy will still be very long. In particular, society and the media always seem to be full of malice towards women. In the absence of evidence, when the two committed the crime, everyone often infers that the woman is a snake and scorpion, inducing and instigating the man to commit crimes, while ignoring the emotional abuse, the ultimate injury. Most are women.

Also provide your own insights on a few common doubts:

1. Why is the heroine not responsible for the murder?

Legally, Sweden implements the presumption of innocence. The lawyer has already mentioned in the last episode of the review that the heroine intentionally killed Amanda and S with insufficient evidence, that is, it cannot be sentenced. As for S's father, it does not constitute a condition for instigating a crime.

From the moral point of view of God, the heroine kills S is a legitimate defense (S has already pointed a gun at her at this time), of course, it is not necessary to directly kill someone who can shoot a leg or something, but the heroine’s marksmanship is average, and the reaction time is too short , it was too late to think of this. A's death is more difficult to accept, because killing S missed and hit A; but in fact, if S didn't die, she would continue to kill A. The heroine's original motive was to save A, but unfortunately she didn't succeed. But the one with the gun is S, and the one who wants to commit the shooting is also S. The heroine doesn't know about it, so she doesn't need to be responsible.

2. Is the heroine sleeping Samir worthy of condemnation?

no. It is true that there is a better way to deal with this matter, but under the circumstances at the time, the heroine's behavior was not a stress response to self-help rather than hurting others. She has been dragged down by Sebastian to the point of being a chicken feather, and her heart is dead, but no one around supports her to break up, so cheating is the easiest and rude way to find herself. And we see that it was Samir who gave her the courage to leave Sebastian for the first time, and could fail again with Sebastian's attempted suicide. This self-help approach is really common among young inexperienced victims of emotionally abusive relationships, and we can disagree but understand it.

3. Is Samir's court action reprehensible?

I think it's forgivable. After all, deliberate perjury is to pursue legal responsibility and he did not. In fact, compared to what everyone said, he was directly turning against the water and killing the heroine. In my opinion, it was just a post-traumatic stress reaction + being misled by the media influence, because he himself probably couldn't remember what happened at that time. Therefore, under repeated cross-examination, he still shook his head and said "I don't know". In fact, compared to Rabe's excesses, he has already acted very calmly. To be honest, what kind of child can calmly analyze the facts and make reasonable judgments that are not influenced by emotions after being killed and almost killed? I think it is more like he deliberately tampered with his memory of those few seconds based on sporadic information orientation, because he is still in the process of not accepting the reality and is easily misled by the plaintiff's remarks. And it has nothing to do with immigration status, just the dark side of basic human nature. Samir also feels like a silly and sweet character who can easily be dragged in by quicksand, as can be seen from his act of sending a video to Sebastian's father, because he didn't realize that his father was also a violent maniac. His starting point was good, but the methods and methods were not considered, and because of this, he was indirectly involved in this mess and became one of the victims.

The direct culprit of the whole thing is Sebastian, and the richest dad is the one who started it. Roughly domestic violence forced the mother away + continued violent treatment of the child, which led to Sebastian's eventual psychopathology - of course, sociopathic personality has a genetic factor. Many of Sebastian's behaviors are already textbook-level narcissistic personality disorders. It can only be said that the farther away from this family, the better, no matter how rich they are.

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