"Mother-relationship"

Makayla 2022-10-22 15:11:42

First of all, let's spit out the translation: the title itself is very good. Motherhood has been removed to become Otherhood, but the translation of the title is too bad. I almost didn't want to click on it. . The Hong Kong version of the translation is very good: "mother-relationship". In Cantonese, "mother" and "nothing" mean "no relationship", and the mother has changed from a mother to a person who has no relationship.

This story is very simple, it's a commonplace, and the ending can be seen at the beginning of the plot. Some people in the short comment also said that "mother-in-law and mother's parents are short", but I still cried very hopelessly. For me, whether a story is good or not is not determined by whether there is a plot that makes me unexpectedly applauded, but whether it can resonate/related emotions with me. This story depicts the relationship between three different mothers and children, and I think we can more or less see ourselves as mothers (fathers)/sons (daughters) in them. The mother of a decadent writer is the most common type. She has a strong desire to control and likes to interfere in her son's life. The girlfriend of her son who doesn't like her will interfere with it, let him have a blind date with the girl he likes, and even turn in through the window. The son's apartment was like a deserted place. The mother of a gay son is just the opposite. She is too self-centered and only cares about her own feelings in everything, without considering the negative impact of her words and deeds on her son and friends. Relatively speaking, the black mother has the best balance among the three, but she is the most repressed, putting her son and husband first in everything, and herself behind. Her son can't remember Mother's Day, can't even remember ten things about her, doesn't know she likes dancing, can't accept seeing her new look, for him, he only sees his mother as his "mom" "This identity, without treating her as a complete and independent person.

I think this is a mistake we often make. We are used to treating people close to us as one identity: "father", "mother", "boyfriend", and then we forget to put ourselves in their shoes When we think about things from an angle, we will forget that they are also a complete and independent person, and they also have their own life and feelings of joy, sorrow and joy, and then we will do things like not returning calls or text messages to our parents and not contacting them for a long time, or It is to make some willful demands on them, because we think they are "father", "mother", "boyfriend", so it is ok to do this, we give them their love for us and their dedication to us Take it for granted because they love us and they have a strong relationship with us, so we don't have to go to great lengths to maintain that relationship. In fact, think about it if you treat other people with this attitude, such as your colleagues, your boss, your first date, is it too much? But because they are our parents, we feel okay with it, but we are not so mean to strangers, do our close people deserve us to be nicer to them?

This film review thinks of where to write, just some messy thoughts, so the writing is very jumpy, please forgive me.

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Otherhood quotes

  • Carol Walker: The key to a clean house? Dead husband.

  • Gillian Lieberman: If everyone was just here for themselves, life would be pointless.