I know what's wrong with Kiewen.

Edyth 2021-11-28 08:01:20

First of all, although the film is adapted from a novel, it is not just a restoration of the novel. The original novel has a more distinctive feature: the mother is more helpless towards the arrival of her son, and her impatient psychology is filled with too much. In the details. The film’s attitude towards mothers is more vague and closer to ordinary people, which makes her look more forgivable and brings her closer to what you would behave if you were a mother to face such a son, even better than you.

The film did not exaggerate Kevin’s experience on campus, nor did it exaggerate the internal conflicts of Kevin’s family. Instead, it focused on the relationship between Kaiwen and his mother. I dare say that there will not be many people who can fully feel the conflict. What is going on with Wen, but I can almost 100% understand the closed (plus his own autistic) psychology of Wen, his mother undoubtedly loves him, but her wrong way of expressing The accident deepened Kewen's heart disease.
Psychologically, it seems to say that her mother created a projected image for the son, making the child feel her existence all the time, what does she think of herself, what attitude does she hold towards herself, etc., Invisibly let her become another self (or a particularly important role), he will have complicated emotions such as loving this person, disgusting and wanting to get rid of this person, etc.
In the process of establishing this morbid relationship, Kewen can realize from the details of his mother’s dealings that his mother also has some complex emotions towards him, impatient, and both love him and annoy him and want to get rid of him but also He had to maintain his mother’s role to take care of him, which means that he always believed that his mother didn’t really love him, she was only upholding the principle of mother’s role, so he had to expose the true face of his mother (just like in a desperate housewife, The behavior of Bree's son Andrew).
At the last moment, Kevin said that he originally knew why he Did it. Originally, it was to give his mother's kind of complex a paragraph. Now that so many people have died, even the family members are all dead. He thinks his mother is this. Time to hate him vigorously and spit on him! Isn't this exactly what she wants? Both liberated myself and liberated her.
But in the end, his mother actually stood up. She visited him for two consecutive years without cursing him and still treating him as a son. (In fact, in the past two years, it was the mother who reflected on herself and wrote a book to recall previous episodes. The days of the movie, that is, the process of the movie). Only then did he realize that if he kills his family and still cannot make my mother hate me, then what reason do I have to suspect that this mother loves me that way? So he has the answer Now I'm not sure why I did it.

Some viewers said that this mother was at fault, and the movie was showing that this mother was at fault. I said that this is really a bit superficial. Kiewen is a child with special characteristics. I can’t say that this mother is great and doing well, but sometimes Some impatience is understandable. Sometimes it’s really hard to explain why a son hates his mother (it seems that many normal sons hate mother or father from the bottom of their hearts during a certain period of adolescence). As I mentioned above, this The mother established a certain psychological projection object and became the main focus of the other’s psychological activities, so her every move would be extremely magnified in the patient’s heart, producing unpredictable effects (plus she did wrongly show a lot of unpredictable effects). Patient mental action and substantive behavior).
It can't be said who is at fault. Some things happen as soon as they happen. Speaking of this, I remembered that when I was young, my father once said behind my back and in front of other family members, how can my son be so stupid? This sentence is really incredible. I guess he was not malicious at the time, but this sentence brought it. The effect is that I can no longer establish an intimate relationship with him for life. Some things are not caused by a single factor, but a combination of multiple factors. Until one night, whose child ate more candy, or accidentally heard their parents say that they would send themselves to the army, this happened. . .

I have to admire such a movie in 40 days, especially the selection of roles is very good, the performance of several essays of mother and autism is first-rate.

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Added: Some people say that Kelly is not the text of autism, that's not the point, I emphasize the original non-text Kelly was a strict autism, but At least his character has this tendency (or defined by severity).
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  • Theron 2021-11-28 08:01:20

    It's so heart-wrenching. I thought it was an addendum to "Elephant" from the opposite angle, but it was an upgraded version of "Joshua". This film has not been so magical as some people believe that it must be explained by God, the devil, and the rebirth of karma. I just want to say: If you don’t really love him, don’t give birth to a child; don’t give birth if you are not prepared. The other few pipas in ambush are very dramatic.

  • Abigayle 2022-03-25 09:01:08

    8.0 Lynn Ramsey's handling is too good. The fragmented narrative and extremely depressing atmosphere made this supposedly bloody, boring story very interesting, but doing so caused the movie to fall into another dead end. : Why on earth did Kevin do this? How did he become like this? The movie can't give the answer, maybe even Kevin himself doesn't know, which also led to a decline in my perception, so let's praise Tilda and Miller for their superb acting skills, Miller really feels like a devil .

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