Like a warm novel, the film has no vigorous plot turning points and dazzling pictures, no big conflicts, or even fierce quarrels. . . Small incidents reflected in ordinary people. A couple, surrounding friends, relatives, father with autism, hobbies to collect misprinted coins, little communication, and little-known life trivia.
A romantic encounter on the beach, followed by a logical preparation, a chasing game in love, perfect for sheltering from the summer rainstorm under the unrenovated roof, and the emotional sublimation gathered in the kiss of two people. Then came the slight deviation of the clues. The seemingly silent father was called "Quiet one" in his son's mouth. Even when he faced the person closest to him, he only had a few words.
When the son returned home , Told him "I made lasagna." Even when the son took his girlfriend home, he only had a shy handshake. After the other party showed interest in coins, he spoke actively and communicated with his son. After adolescence, there are very few topics left, silent, always silent, and occasionally want to try to communicate with his son, but he interrupts the conversation angrily and returns with "You spend all our savings on coins," Why not buy a refrigerator!", sitting there like an innocent child, eyes full of hope and helplessness. . Silently opened the refrigerator door, put the milk that his son had stuffed in angrily on the side, and put it back upright, and then closed the door gently. .
All the love for my son, the food taken out of the oven repeatedly, and doing my own things quietly, after accepting my son’s girlfriend, the food is naturally made into double portions, and then Knowing that she would not come, he quietly put away a set of tableware and carefully placed it in the glass window cabinet. There is no more language to express concern.
That's it, every day exists by your side, but at the same time it is not valued by you. It's like breathing the air you're used to, because it's too close, so it's easier to ignore its existence. . .
That beautiful "lovely" girlfriend has been integrated into the family's life. Compared with the hard character of a man, she is more like gentle sunshine, which shines on everyone warmly without glare. Not strong. . When the man’s father wore a suit and went to the car to meet the woman’s parents, his autistic personality made his father decide to get off the car halfway and go home. The man looked at his father and showed more anger and helplessness, while the woman was gentle. He said to him "He tried, at least he tried." Gentle and virtuous, but also tolerant. . Two weeks of getting along, in just two weeks, they experienced first acquaintance, passionate love, occasional disagreement, and more romantic enough to not bother to think about tomorrow and the future, just enjoy the good time now. After two weeks of so closeness, the man was sent to the army stationed in Iraq to complete the last year of military service, and the woman returned to school to continue the rest of her studies. A short letter of separation expressing each other’s Reluctant. A man gives a woman a promise, a promise that only people in love are willing to believe, stick to, and guard. . . When they didn't see each other, they used letters to tell each other all the things that happened around them, so that even if they couldn't be together, they seemed to be cuddling with each other. . . Arrange the numbers one by one, and keep them properly like protecting the most important tokens. Looking forward to the day when the letter arrives, when I look forward to seeing the words, I look forward to the day when we meet again. . . And the father’s life, at this time, did not give too much explanation, only when he said goodbye to his son and got in the car, he stood silently, as usual, standing aside, feeling at a loss and not knowing how to express the love in his heart, watching The son got in the car and left. . . Not even an intimate parting hug.
In the second half of the film, there is still no major plot turning point. The girlfriend can't insist on waiting for the man to return indefinitely. A "breakup letter" hastily ended the relationship between each other, and the man burns all the letters while angry and sad. . . Later, the man was unfortunately shot while on duty. After he recovered, he tried to vent his lost love. Later, the man was sent home by the army and saw his father who had been admitted to the hospital because of a stroke without any expectation. When he returned home, he was playing with the wrong coin he had accidentally obtained when he was seven years old, and he had been cherishing it in his father's collection. He picked up the pen and wrote the only letter to his father. It is this kind of father-son relationship. There is not much verbal communication on weekdays. Even if you want to express your love and love, you are still ashamed to let your father open the letter and read it in front of you. In response to a question from his father many years ago, the son finally told his father that when he was in a coma after being shot that year, the first thing that came to his mind was: coins. The words that followed began to run through the memories of the man visiting the American Mint when he was eight years old. . . . The only topic that has a common language with my father. The only thing that connects their father and son. . After the son shed tears and said the phrase "I'm sorry", the father's hand slowly touched his head, his face, and the son slowly buried his head in his father's arms. The most intimate moment is when my father is about to leave. . .
Goodbye to my lover, after sending away his father, the man came to the farm, and the woman slowly walked out of the silhouette, seeing each other's expressions clearly. Smiling, don't need to talk much, but also understand each other's hearts. As if for the first time, he whispered the man's name softly. . Slowly telling about their respective experiences and lives after separation.
"Actually, she has always loved you."
When the "bystander" talked about everything, the woman's current husband said to the man: "Everything that happened in my life before, it's gone now. It's been wiped clean. I wanted to tell you that. And I' m sorry.I'm sorry for how it happened with you so far away.But I know now that Alan will always have someone to take care of him.He will always be in good hands."
It's another father-son relationship. The father who was seriously ill and was about to die found a life-long trust for his autistic son. And the woman, in the time when the man returned without expectation, resolutely chose the short-term gratitude. He didn't give the man any chance to listen to what was unspeakable, nor did he give him any hope to start again. . It is difficult to make a decision and finally face the reality. .
"Because I hear your voice, I will change my mind."
Going around, the sacrifice of love was meant to accomplish more.
But in the end, the woman is still willing to be loyal to her heart, wanting to get even a little bit of comfort from the man's mouth, so that she believes that each other may start again.
No matter how close we are, we will eventually be unable to speak frankly to each other.
Those that are important are things that I didn’t say right now and that I don’t need to say in the future. It slowly weathered and became a secret.
I don’t know, and I don’t know.
"I will see you soon."
Eventually, time will pass, no matter how young I am, I know one thing is true, and I will see you again soon .
Seeing the end of the film, it is no longer possible to define whether this is a romance or a family movie.
Anyway, anyway, you just need to know that there are always some people in this world who love you consistently in their own way. . .
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