Woman spends her life learning to overcome physical pain and psychological fear

Israel 2022-04-11 09:01:07

I was initially attracted to this film because of the title, "Never, Rarely, Sometimes, Always," which is so weird. Looking at the difficult abortion journey of the two little girls, the heartfelt feeling of empathy poured out from the bottom of my heart. Although people inevitably face difficulties in life, the physical pain and psychological fear that a woman will endure in her life is probably unimaginable to most men.

At the beginning of the film, my cousin saw that the heroine was uncomfortable and asked her what was wrong. I didn't know that the other party was pregnant and thought it was just the pain caused by menstruation. My cousin muttered to herself that I would like to take a whole bottle of painkillers every month. Recalling that my best girlfriends in high school were almost pale in pain every time they had menstrual periods and even couldn't walk or go to class normally, and I myself have hardly stopped the pain since I was a little girl. It will be even more worrying.

The 17-year-old heroine in the film is repeatedly asked why she wants an abortion. She replies over and over again cause I'm not ready to be a mom (because I'm not ready to be a mom), this abortion journey is difficult , but fortunately in the end, she was able to dominate her body according to her will.

The best thing about the movie is probably the paragraph that clicks on the title of the movie. The heroine finally arrived at a clinic that can help her perform an abortion. The doctor needs to ask a series of questions, each of which must be described as never, rarely, sometimes, always. The question basically revolved around whether someone forced her to do something she didn't want to do or was bullied. The doctor asked one after another, and the girl answered calmly, but she couldn't help crying. She may not have experienced serious atrocities, but she must have been uncomfortable and unhappy. Before being asked these questions, she may not have realized whether those behaviors were problematic. More likely, she felt uncomfortable at the moment, but Think about it or forget it. There are also many small plots echoing here in the movie. In the supermarket where the two girls work part-time, they are forced to kiss their hands fiercely every time they hand over money to the little supervisor, and they encounter unscrupulous exhibitionists in the late-night subway. etc.

Now there are some voices on the Internet advocating how boys can make girls less afraid. For example, boys should not walk behind girls alone. If there is only one girl in the elevator, it is best not to follow. Maybe some people will dismiss this and think that these things are also It's too small, but women can understand that some seemingly ordinary details in daily life often make us nervous. Recently, I was followed by a middle-aged man on the subway on my way home from get off work. Even though I have grown into a 30-year-old adult, I still have a great sense of fear and insecurity in my heart. Not far away from me, when I sat in the opposite direction and couldn’t get rid of it, I thought I was brave and didn’t dare to do anything at the moment. I went home that night and cried for a long time and lost sleep for a long time. , There are so many issues that I have to face to be born as a woman. When I feel powerless, I really don't know how to protect myself.

There are many scenes in the film of two little girls holding hands tightly, such as when the heroine's cousin is reluctantly kissing the boy when depicting the heroine's abortion operation. In many painful and overwhelmed times, when they don't know how to help each other, they can only hold each other's hands. My first thought when I was being stalked was to call my best girlfriends, why do we feel that women's mutual aid is so important at a critical moment and gives us the most sense of strength? Because we have encountered the same problem more or less, I believe that we can truly understand each other.

Growing up, I was often told that girls would be more mature than boys of the same age, and I never understood why, but then I came to understand that the unavoidable physical pain and the fear of this vulnerability really make me We grow faster.

The heroine in the film did not dare to tell her mother that she was pregnant and had an abortion. I remembered that when I had my first period, I thought I was sick, and for two or three nights, I silently washed my pants by myself, and did not dare to tell my family for fear that they would be sad. I don't know if I should say that my mother was incompetent or too conservative. For many years, I didn't realize how much this matter affected me. I have always been very proud of myself. I have grown into a confident and brave big girl. Later when I chatted with my mother about this, she frankly said that because her mother didn't tell her this, she didn't even know that she should teach me this earlier, and at that moment I thought she and I both had regrets in my heart.

In recent years, there have been more and more discussions about women's equality in society, but I think the foundation of equality is respect and understanding. If we really can't understand, I hope we can all maintain respect for ourselves and each other. Equal rights means that before we become men or women, we are all human beings, please treat each other as independent people, which is a concept I most agree with. There is still a long way to go on this road, both as a family and as a society, but we can really change from ourselves. We must become brave and competent adults before we can tell our children how to truly love themselves. I hope boys and girls can know themselves more clearly, understand themselves, and love themselves.

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Extended Reading
  • Wilbert 2022-04-12 09:01:10

    Very light, but too light, so light that the pain point is almost understated and flashed; very close, but so close that it reveals that there is not enough solid event-driven. It is not as urgent as "Little Guy", not as delicate as "Girl", and not as delicate as "Dog Thirteen", which presents a silent beast waiting for girls. A lot of designed details are like Squibs, and for the audience, mediocrity must be a sin. Fortunately, the mood is still relevant, and the image under low pressure at least did not slide to greasy. The nearly ten-minute question-and-answer scene is the essence, rarely divided, trusting the actors, which actually reflects the director's determination, and finally makes the play shine. The last time I saw a good show similar to repeated dialogue, it was from the phrase "clear, understand" in Du sir's "Deadly Gold".

  • Cleora 2022-04-13 09:01:06

    3.5 / Never free, rarely hopeful, sometimes run away, always hurt.

Never Rarely Sometimes Always quotes

  • Social Worker #2: Whatever your decision is is totally fine, as long as it's yours.

  • Social Worker #2: Your partner has threatened or frightened you. Never? Rarely? Sometimes? Always?

    Autumn: Why are you asking me this?

    Social Worker #2: I want to make sure that you're safe.