We are all fine

Letitia 2021-11-27 08:01:18

"The children are all well" takes the eldest daughter Alice and the son Reiser as the starting point, and kicks off a wonderful journey to regain the traditional family. After the two women gave birth to the pair of children through Paul's sperm, they have been working hard to bring them up to adulthood. It is jaw-dropping in the oriental world. A family that has lost paternal love and patriarchy can survive to this day. It can be said that this non-traditional family hides a huge "secret to maintain stability." It is precisely because many viewers are curious, including the possibility that even the director and screenwriter have doubts about such a family, so they pull in the normal or traditional family view, and then let the two emotional world views collide with each other and wipe out spark. The film seems to have created a lot of contradictions and problems after the sperm donor Paul intervened in this "no problem" family, but I think it was Paul who turned the invisible problems that the family should have into explicit problems. This is first of all a question of women's desires. My desire here refers to controlling desire and sexual desire. Nicole is the attacker of lesbians. She is the core role of the whole family, the pillar supporting the stable and harmonious development of the family, that is, the head of the family. Usually, in a traditional complete family, the father can become the head of the family, and the father should have the desire to control. If the desire for control is lost, it is difficult to form a family center, which may cause the family relationship to become disorganized, split, and disintegrated. Nicole represents the symbol of the head of the family, and she also has such a desire to control. The film has repeatedly shown her control over the children's daily life-personal control. As a retired doctor, she understands the importance of safety, and at the same time, because of her previous occupation, she has become more sensitive, and thus has a stronger desire to control than the average family, and even dominate everything. She wants her children to recognize her core status, and she wants to show the core strength that the family nucleus should have, so she must control everything, in essence, to gain a sense of psychological identity. In this feminine family, the loss of father’s love is an indisputable fact, and the development of the child will be laughed at by others. Therefore, in order to make the children good, Nicole does not allow Paul to invade her family as a "father". Nicole's sensitivity and strength almost ruined the whole family. As the recipient of lesbians, Jules is reverting to the image of a mother, at the core of the auxiliary role at home, helping the children to solve problems. But after all, she is a woman with normal sexual recognition. She has only found a small amount of sexual pleasure from sex videos for a long time, and soon reveals her nature, and it is difficult to suppress the long-term accumulation of depression. Therefore, when they meet Paul, a real man, and the two work together, it is also the moment when they can use their pseudo-identities as "parents" to obtain physical pleasure. If the children admit that the donor Paul is their father , Then the sexual relationship between Paul and Jules is really nothing extraordinary, but because the child is used to living in such a non-traditional family, Nicole is dominated by a long-established concept-only Nicole Is the head of their family. Therefore, just as one mountain cannot hide two tigers, a family cannot hide two masters. As a result, Paul became the object of rejection and attack by Nicole, a dangerous figure in the family. However, Jules is limited by the family's invisible rules and ethics and the care for the children, so he can only distinguish his relationship with Paul. The directors and screenwriters have clear ideas. When analyzing the psychology of the characters, the creators grasped not the view of adults but the view of children. This is why the title of the film is "The Children Are Very Good." They examine the meaning of a non-traditional family from the perspective of children's psychology, and explore whether they recognize the family relationship that survives in the abnormal family ethics system. In order to ensure the normal development of children who have been "domesticated", their living environment has not been damaged by this accident. This also reflects the open family concept of Westerners represented by the United States that is not bound by reason. "The Kids Are All Well" was nominated for the 83rd Oscar for Best Film. Its rare alternative interpretation of family ethics is indeed impressive, but no matter how good it is, it is just a light comedy of family ethics, civilians. The narratives and images of the film did not reach the height enough to influence the concept of most people. Besides, the film really doesn't feel any joy.

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The Kids Are All Right quotes

  • Paul: Just making an ob... observation.

    Nic: Yeah? Well, I need your observations like I need a dick in my ass!

  • Paul: Hey, it's already hard enough to open your heart in this world. Don't make it any harder.