First, Tom loves
the deliberately arranged encounters, voyeurism from a specific angle, and unrealistic fantasies, all of which constitute the ignorant but strong love in the heart of the nineteen-year-old boy Tom. Shortly at the beginning of the film, all the lives of the boys are told in a few simple shots: working in the post office, meeting the encounter with the female painter Magda; the alarm clock rings, starting to steal life; taking milk delivery as an opportunity to create a little more. Contact opportunities. These three items are the only "bridge" between Tom and Magda, and also the basis of Tom's love.
Tom's love for Magda stemmed from a friend's recommendation. A telescope left by a friend becomes an angel of his love, bringing Magda into his life. He had no real contact with Magda and knew almost nothing about her. Hiding behind the little telescope, he peeped into Magda's life, spied on her painting; spied on her having sex with other men. He can often see this Magda's sexy body and sultry movements, so he gradually developed an unusual feeling in adolescence, he longed to see her, could not peep at her for a day, and occasionally masturbated for her . He thought it was love.
He invades Magda's privacy, steals letters, and disturbs her to have sex with other men. That's all he did to this woman. But his love demands nothing. When Magda confronted him and asked what he wanted, he was asked ignorantly. He didn't want to kiss her, let alone have sex with her. Even he himself doesn't know why he loves this woman. So, he naively invited Magda to eat ice cream, and because the female artist agreed to the invitation, he happily dragged the milk cart across the open space between the buildings. At this point, no one doubted that he was a full-blown kid, and the joy was as simple as any boy's excitement about getting a new model airplane. Of course, this satisfaction and happiness made him believe in his love even more. After being scolded by Magda and punched in the face, the satisfaction was all the more precious.
But Magda did everything she could to destroy this innocent feeling. She told Tom that there is no love in this world. Tom doesn't believe it. So Magda took Tom away and used her body to prove her point of view, proving that making love does not mean love. Although she doesn't love Tom, she can still get excited for him. She instigated Tom to touch his private parts, which made Tom suffer a great blow when he found out the truth. Although Magda had sex with other men many times, in Tom's heart, she was still a holy goddess because he thought she was in love. But when he finally found out that the sex was all from a disgusting desire, Magda's image completely collapsed in his heart. The destruction of the landslide made Tom so miserable that he cut his wrists to find relief.
Tom's love is strong, he can endure the scolding from a woman, the heavy punch of a man, and the silent enduring behind a telescope for more than a year; but his love is extremely fragile and cannot bear the trauma from the real world , the fall of a goddess-like woman, the disillusionment of a platonic love.
However, such love is doomed to be destroyed because it has no basis in reality. It is like a white feather floating in the wind, and it is like a flower in the water and the moon in the mirror. It is just a love fairy tale woven in the heart of a boy, but it is a psychological impulse brought about by the physical development of adolescence. They gradually took away the passion and the hallucination as the restless blood gurgled from Tom's wrists. While the medication was treating his wounds, his dream was awakened. At the end of the film, Tom's calm and indifferent face to Magda's face shows that this teenage love has become fleeting. All that was left was the ugly scar under the gauze on the wrist.
Two, Magda loves
that she is the representative of adults in this world. Her nonchalant appearance and casual sex life is the epitome of many adults. Her view of love is also the attitude of many adults towards love. Her presence merely provided an object for Tom's love, and this woman was someone else. Tom was only in love with a feeling, a voyeuristic pleasure and hallucination, not Magda herself.
As she herself said, making love is not for love. In the real adult world, sex is sometimes due to a physical need, sometimes due to a lack of warmth, sometimes a habit, and sometimes simply because of an atmosphere. Magda created a peaceful life in such a life, and naturally she would not have thought that a young hairy boy would break into her life. This boy not only interfered with her privacy, but even more arrogantly claimed to be in love with her. This can only be funny to her. In her eyes, Tom is just a child who has not grown up. He will know what love is. But out of curiosity, she wanted to know what the boy's so-called love was like, so she agreed to his invitation. But soon, she put on the air of a mature woman, instilling in Tom the cold view of love in the adult world. This point of view is her denial of the world, and it is also a kind of helplessness. Like all women, because she can't get it, she simply gives up and allows herself to get some comfort in her carnal life.
But like these women, Magda had a serious lack of love in her heart. Because she has lived in an environment without love for a long time, there is a hope and luck buried in her heart, looking forward to a miracle, and she will really meet love. Therefore, when she felt Tom's childlike sincerity, especially when she heard that Tom cut her wrists for her, she was moved, and the anticipation in her heart was reawakened, thinking that a miracle really happened to her. She and Tom switched roles, started a new life of voyeurism, observed every move of Tom's residence, and began to actively search. It was Tom's wrist-cut that convinced her that there might still be a little love left in this world.
Unfortunately, the miracle didn't really happen. The love she thought she met was indeed out of Tom's childlike innocence, and because of her "destroyed" destruction, that innocent feeling was broken by her touch like cellophane. In the end, when she faced Tom's expressionless face with a charming expression, the last little hope for love in her heart was also extinguished. Before her love could be conceived, she was suffocated in the cradle, as fragile as a dying life.
Magda's behavior went to two extremes, and began to indiscriminately deny and destroy Tom's feelings; after the tragedy, she abandoned all her defenses and prepared to throw herself into the arms of an immature boy. She pinned her long-buried expectations on a person who was almost a minor, which itself was tantamount to a gamble, so the final defeat could only be said to be self-inflicted.
Three, Unbearable Love
tells the story of a love tragedy. Two people who are equally eager for love, one blindly pursues, the other cowardly escapes, so that this vague love flows between the two, from one telescope to another, but cannot penetrate into each other's hearts.
This is the conflict between the adult world and the innocence world. The mature indifference fights against pure love desperately to prove its strength, but when it succeeds, it misses that sincerity. As everyone knows, the most real is also the most easily broken, and the least able to bear the dark, cold, cruel reality...
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