A little miscellaneous feeling about the heart-to-heart consultation (accidentally running accounts, be careful of spoilers!)

Oswaldo 2022-03-30 09:01:11

An American drama that brings a lot of touches. I heard the teacher recommend this drama many times in the training of psychological counselors, and finally I watched it. I haven't watched an American drama for a long time.

Each episode of Heart-to-Heart Consultation is a relatively complete consultation segment, which very realistically simulates what happened in the consultation room. There is continuity to each client's story, and their counseling progress and changes, for better or worse, can be seen from week to week. No matter how each client's last consultation was, at least throughout the process, it was clear that their relationship with the counselor had changed from a state of distrust or conflict or conflict to a state of acceptance, openness, and trust. of. The establishment of a consulting relationship is the first problem for consultants. Paul is very professional and excellent. He pushes the consultation process without any delay. He always listens more and then asks questions. Instead of making judgments, he asks a lot of how's your feeling. Similar question. Kind of "forces" the client to look more at himself rather than judge himself. What's going on with you? And what's your feelings? How do you look at that? ...with repeated questions, the client always goes from "I don't know" to thinking and then trying to describe the feelings, despite the large Some of the feelings are not so nice... We say we don't know, maybe it's because it makes us more uncomfortable, and people's subconscious wants to avoid uncomfortable feelings, so it's so easy to say I don't know! Slowly, I also realized why I rarely ask myself how I feel? It seems that as an adult, personal feelings are always devalued and useless, and the voices around are always telling yourself to improve yourself more, to become stronger, to adapt to the environment; instead of asking yourself first, hey, what do you think how? Is it ok? May I? Ignoring personal feelings leaves cracks in our hearts. Maybe I wasn’t ok at that time, maybe I wasn’t ready at all, but I still managed to overcome emotions with reason. I ignored the opportunity to face myself again and again, and let those cracks It gets deeper and deeper and eventually develops into what is called a "trauma". Hey, we should have loved ourselves more.

The consultation cases selected in the heart-to-heart consultation are also very interesting and very targeted. The story of the first client, Laura, explores the tough questions of counseling ethics, "Can the counselor and client develop an adoring/sexual relationship," how to deal with heterosexual client relationships, and how to deal with transference and countertransference. This process is really confusing. Counseling is inherently in love with each other, not to mention the attraction between adult men and women. When the client opens himself up, the attachment to the counselor will naturally deepen. However, is the profound emotion brought about by this relationship, really love? Or empathy or projection? This is not a simple or clear question. It can only be said that in terms of counseling ethics, this absolutely cannot happen. If the relationship has affected the counseling itself, referral or termination is best. But the writers were interesting and ended up using Gina to express a more individualistic attitude of "go for her, to find out", to choose to be with someone who makes you feel or live more like yourself.

The story of the client Alex triggered the counselor's doubts about himself and re-understanding of psychological counseling. We can’t help but ask, does everything that happens in the consultation room make sense to the client? Do the relationships we strive to build help our visitors? Is consulting good or bad? Aren't some people supposed to face up to their hearts and live firmly? What did the consultant do and what did it do? Is the consultant responsible for everything? …again Gina told Paul that the psychologist cannot give value judgments, choose or bear the outcome for the client, the therapist just helps the client to face himself more, to sort out personal feelings and thoughts and then the client himself Make your own choices and take responsibility for them, no matter how it ends.

What struck me was Sophie's story. From a sensitive girl with suicidal and depressive tendencies to finally being able to face up to her relationship with her parents, her relationship with a coach, and being able to truly express her feelings, like an adult, she finally made a choice for herself, left home and a counselor, and became independent Embark on the path of gymnastics. This girl has changed the most. It seems that children are always easier to heal than adults, and their possibilities are endless. As long as they are given more company and support, more respect and equality, it seems that a lot of inner strength can be generated, which can stimulate their reflection and help them realize that they should not fight against themselves, face trauma, and face themselves. , facing the future of life.

The last couple is a couple session. Interestingly, the reason why Jake & Amy entered the consultation from the beginning is completely different from the result of ending the consultation. Couples counseling allows them to meet each other for the first time and get to know each other. In the past, everything could be solved with sex, but after entering a consulting relationship, there were more conversations or quarrels, starting from whether to have a second child to finally facing divorce, co-parenting children, anyway, the screenwriter did not finish writing their stories, there is no ending, just It leads to a deeper question between couples, whether to choose to be together or to separate depends on the client and their relationship.

Finally, I have to mention that the relationship between Paul and Gina is both a teacher and a friend, and a personal experiencer for many years is also a supervisor, which more realistically reproduces the process of a counselor looking for a counselor for psychological counseling. Consultants are also human, and they also encounter psychological or life problems. They also need to have other consultants to accompany and listen to them. Counselors also need constant personal experience to better understand themselves and to face their clients with a better psychological state. Recently, I am also having a personal experience. Because it has only started for a month, I have not yet felt much. I can only say that this is really important. What is more important than knowing yourself as the ancient Greek sage said? ?

The first season of Heart-to-Heart Consultation was like opening a window to my psychological counseling practice, allowing me to glimpse the various stories that happened in the counseling room, the life of Bare Taste. Now I have more desire to learn, not only to know myself, but also to become a consultant to help others. Although I didn't find the inner motivation to do it myself, I just wanted to learn it first, and then look at it as I walked, looking for what psychological counseling meant to me. If I will continue to do it and do it, then psychological counseling must have a deeper relationship and significance to me, and exploring this will make my choice more clear. Maybe I am looking for calling. But what's the calling. Girl, you should figure out and you will!

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  • Jorge 2022-04-24 07:01:25

    A must see before bed. Dim but gentle and beautiful.

  • Creola 2022-04-01 09:01:18

    After watching the first episode: Little girls are obsessed with uncles, and big women like simplicity. After the age of obsessed with uncle pretending to be mature, it is not enough to appreciate the old-fashioned innocence. At this stage of being a little embarrassed and gradually losing awareness of the sophistication of human relationships, the middle-aged man who sees the sophistication and smoothness suddenly feels greasy, slow and cunning, and the young man of the same age or even a little older feels a little ignorant and shallow. Deep down in my heart, I long to be understood, but I know very well that no one understands except myself. One thing is confirmed at all ages. People are willing to be friends, family members, and lovers with the person who can make you be yourself, and you don't have to pretend to be the most comfortable person. Ego-type personalities establish long-term relationships with each other and are not likely to hurt each other because they are not careful and think too much about each other. Thoughtful personalities can compensate each other. Self-type friends and self-type people who stay together for a long time can really hurt the delicate personality very badly and completely unknown. Once expectations are broken, it is difficult to maintain even superficial order. A bit off topic, to conclude that the female patient in this episode did not fall in love with the uncle psychiatrist, but the self she imagined when she was with her for half an hour.