don’t object to analyzing the film from the director’s personal life experience and his previous work style, but I always feel that the film cannot be just a person The duplication of life experience will not be a simple repetition of the style of previous works, otherwise the film will not be called art, because "copy" and "repetition" are the taboos of art. The question I keep asking myself after watching this film is, if I were that mother, what would I do? Whether I agree with this mother's approach or disagree, I can't express my opinion, I just want to emphasize my feelings, this is a tragic song of love.
"Mummy" does maintain a triangular balance relationship, but it is not a "love triangle", even though we seem to vaguely see that the protagonist Steve has an "Oedipus complex", but Steve and his There is no "love" relationship between mother Diane and their neighbor Kyla. In fact, Kayla entered their mother-child world based on "empathy", because, judging from the photos placed at Kayla's house, she should have a son about the same age as Steve. Although the film does not tell where her son has gone, it seems to be inferred from the fact that she only got aphasia two years ago. She lost her son, and her husband’s facial expressions, their multiple moves, and her husband’s love for her daughter. It is also the result of this unfortunate incident. In addition, Kayla has been wearing two necklaces. When Steve frivolously pulled down a heart-shaped necklace on her neck, Kayla showed unusual anger, which seems to prove the above point, she is maintaining a kind of dignity and the "love" of her son for her. It was precisely by "transferring" the feelings for her son to Steve that Kayla was willing to approach Steve, a sick teenager. The patience of a mother he showed even surpassed Steve's biological mother. Diane. And only when she faced Steve, her aphasia eased, and she could get the happiness that she could not get in her own family.
The reason why the film is said to be a tragic song of love is that almost all the plot conflicts revolve around the theme of "love", and they all end in a certain form of tragedy. First of all, the tragic setting of the ending of the film is reasonable. This is not because the director is on the realistic side, but because such a setting is logical. Although the three protagonists of the film maintain a triangular balance, this balance is extremely fragile. Even if Diane doesn't send her son away, the balance cannot be maintained, because Kayla must leave. Her husband cannot tolerate this kind of "empathy" from his wife. The previous move was to make his wife forget. When this goal cannot be achieved, moving again is inevitable. Therefore, whether Kayla goes first or second, the tragic ending will be the same. Secondly, the three main conflicts between Steve and his mother were the result of not being understood or correctly responded to "love". The first time Steve persuaded others to give him a gift on the grounds of "love". When he forwarded it to his mother, his mother thought it was stolen. This incomprehension directly stimulated Steve to reach a state of madness. For the second time, he prevented his mother from betraying his soul in exchange for a lawyer to defend his arson incident. As a result, Steve was scolded by his mother because the lawyer was gone. This caused him not to return overnight and then doubted his mother’s love for him. I want to cut my wrists and commit suicide. For the third time, after Steve received treatment, he used a normal voice to express his apology and attachment to his mother, but he entered his mother’s voice mail box, which once again stimulated Steve’s death, and finally ran towards it. The door to freedom. Thirdly, as a mother, Diane’s failure to express her love correctly and her son’s failure to appreciate her son’s love for her are very important reasons for the tragedy.
Regarding the mutual behavior between Diane and her son Steve, we can all explain it on the grounds of love. Even if Diane sends her son to a mental hospital, it can also be interpreted as she wants to save hope and prevent her son from harming himself again. In addition to the cruel reality (she was unable to deal with civil claims), Diane did not understand her son. In the three main conflicts, she could respond to her son’s “love” in another way, but she chose a direct stimulation method. In the conflict, Steve seemed to be right, and she did not reflect on her behavior. In the end, sending the child away was a bit like trying to escape, but found a reason for "love". Saying that she was too careful about her son’s “love” should not be considered wronged. Although the main reason that caused Steve to want to die can be explained as he began to doubt his mother’s love for him, in fact, the real reason was his kissing his mother. I was simply pushed away by my mother. Some people may think that this is the so-called "Oedipus complex" or unethical love. In fact, this can be considered to be caused by Steve's serious lack of security. Steve was just hyperactive before. But petty theft, offensive, and sabotage started only after his father passed away three years ago. The lack of father's love or even the father's not strong enough will affect the child's sense of security. In the case of his only mother's love, he He takes his mother very seriously, so when the mother might suffer, he will protect her like a man; when the mother does not understand him, he will be very uncomfortable. He pays great attention to the sense of security, and he thinks what he wants is also What the mother wants and the kissing behavior shown is just that he wants to strengthen the mother’s feeling, or to make the mother feel that he and her are in the same group. However, the mother pushes him away, he naturally thinks that the mother does not need him. This need adds to his insecurities. This is the real reason why he feels that his mother does not love him.
Not long after the film began, the old lady from the help and education center said to Diane, "Don’t think about your son and yourself. To be so strong is the worst thing you can do. Just loving someone does not mean that you can save him. Unfortunately, love is useless in this matter. "This seems to be the theme of the film. But I think that in this kind of thing, not so much "love" can save Steve, it is better to say that this is the result of incorrect love, real, patient, Intentional love always works. (Author: Slate Planting Flowers, please keep the article complete 2015-04-26)
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