Hiba marriage

Angie 2021-12-13 08:01:13

Judy Dench played surprisingly well, and in the face of such an old drama, Cate Blanchett was able to show his role as if he was watching "The Blood Is Coming" and appreciate both The good actors have wonderful matches and are very enjoyable.
Putting aside the content for now, I am deeply impressed by Shiba's life alone.
Shiba married a man who was more than 20 years older than herself. Her son was mentally retarded, her daughter was not educated, and her husband was gentle and mediocre. She was exhausted as a housewife. Relatives looked down upon her and thought she was a vase.
In fact, it is not just Barbara. In the eyes of the audience, the family and relatives are also a place that has nothing to do with her delicate and elegant.
The family doesn’t know Shiba, she has her own corner, alone, or hosting her friends. Shiba is actually very lonely, as she said to Barbara: marriage is very happy, but-that’s it. .
Happiness, moreover, loneliness. Unmatched marriages are generally stable and each takes what they need, but they are also prone to loss.
The husband is a mediocre husband with a normal life, and the wife is a sensitive petty "Wulf". In fact, many "Wulf" are eager to find such a husband, because they can't face the reality, so they need money and complete truth. A sense of security. But a sense of security also means boring and plain. "Wulf" is not reconciled to plainness.
The sorrow of the "Wulf" is that they are so dependent in life and so weak in self-care ability, so in spirit they are "higher" than sentient beings, and in reality they are "lower" than sentient beings. Their delicacy and elegance are not worth a penny in front of relatives and friends, and no one cherishes them and has no status. Just like Shiba, life is superior, simple, cute and beautiful, but she is not recognized by others, not a good teacher, not a good housewife, she is a person excluded from the social circle, a vase.
They consider themselves very high, so they think that many problems, even if they are spoken out, cannot be understood by others. At the same time, their lives started step by step too early. Shiba also had a personality era when she was young, but it was very short. She got married very early and wanted children to experience family life very early, so she was also bored very early.
The greatest sorrow of literary and artistic young women is that they can never recognize reality, nor can they face it bravely. Such Shiba always appears too passive and too weak in front of a strong opponent. When she first faced the pursuit of a young boy, she simply believed that this was a very beautiful story, only to find that she was fooled by a fifteen-year-old boy.
Until playing with fire and self-immolation, when Shiba was finally forced to face her husband's anger, she was able to tell the truth, her loneliness, her loneliness, her dissatisfaction, and her pressure.
If she can talk to her husband publicly about the crisis of marriage at the beginning, can these be avoided? Just like after the incident, Shiba left her husband and took refuge in Barbara's house. Before she left, her husband's anger had turned into sorrow. He said those blame and self-blame, but emotional words are very moving.
Why can't you talk to your husband about your loneliness and boredom first? Is it true that every marriage is faced with, the more you get along, the less loneliness you will talk about? Shiba didn't know how to solve this problem with her husband, and her husband didn't seem to find these problems with his wife. People can't communicate with each other, even if they get close to a bed, everyone is still alone. This is Shiba's loneliness. Her marriage can be derived from a type, a hidden danger of mismatch of complementary marriages, which turns into a certain marriage mode, "hiba-style loneliness" triggered by "hiba-style marriage".
Shiba is one of the most unlucky ones. She was seduced into having a relationship with a 15-year-old student, and finally escaped to the gay teacher. Her whole life was ruined by her own stupidity. Irony, but also worthy of sympathy, was simply blindfolded, playing taboos thinking that he was clever, and the result was miserable. From Shiba’s point of view, this result made her feel angry and wronged. Everything seemed to be beautiful and romantic. But somehow, everything went wrong, and her feelings became ridiculous and contemptible. Contemptible. She became the object of humiliation and ridicule.
That's right, it deserves it, middle-aged child mother, all things in the world should be recognized, what should be done or not should also be understood, what's more, she thinks she is playing, playing cleverness, and in the end she was tricked by others. The other party irresponsibly used his own weakness as a young and student to seduce the teacher. In such an unfaithful love, in the end, the price of the teacher Xiaobai, who didn't know how to protect himself, was subjected to all punishments was too great.
Of course, this is not the ultimate goal of the film, it is just a by-product of the film's theme "Two Lonely Women".

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  • Alta 2022-03-27 09:01:08

    Cate Blanchett, beautiful to die~~

  • Fanny 2021-12-13 08:01:13

    The acting skills of the two actresses exploded.

Notes on a Scandal quotes

  • Barbara Covett: People like Sheba think they know what it is to be lonely. But of the drip, drip of the long-haul, no-end-in-sight solitude, they know nothing. What it's like to construct an entire weekend around a visit to the launderette. Or to be so chronically untouched that the accidental brush of a bus conductor's hand sends a jolt of longing straight to your groin. Of this, Sheba and her like have no clue.

  • Barbara Covett: I couldn't possibly speak for Mrs Hart, but instinct tells me you might not be her type.