Tell him maybe he just doesn't understand

Madeline 2022-04-19 09:03:04

+1 for those who came for the GIF.

I've always liked watching these kinds of movies. I remember that when I was a child, I actually liked to watch "I Want to Fall in Love" (known as the Chinese version of "Sex and the City"), and I especially liked the analysis of the hearts of the male and female protagonists. At that time, I didn’t understand that what was said on TV could not be taken seriously, but I had a sudden realization: it turns out that men and women think this way, it turns out that this is how they think about relationships, it turns out that these are what they want. "Alien Dimension" said: The human brain is broader than the universe, and I think it is more appropriate to replace it with the human heart. We can never understand what other people's minds are thinking, because we don't even understand what's going on in our own minds. But there are some people, who obviously want these questions about people's hearts to be difficult and unnecessary, but still want others to guess their thoughts, even the closest lover will not give even the slightest hint.

"It's a shame she never asked me 'what work do you do' 'can I go with you?'" "He never said to me 'Marta, come with me and show you what I've accomplished !'" After living together for 35 years, even if he would come back to her every time he cheated, even if they always maintained more passion than young people, even if she knew about his cheating, she was unwilling to pursue it, even if they were so They seem to be so close to each other, but in the end, they don't even know what they want most, even though what they want is so consistent. Looking at Rudolph, who was kicked out of the house for cheating, and Marta, who was upstairs with his daughter, they were in the same home, and at the same moment, when they were talking about the other party's ignorance of themselves, To actually speak such consistent words, this is of course a dramatic treatment, but the kind of contradiction conveyed in it makes people laugh and laugh. As a story, the plot setting here has to be said to be a bit unreasonable. The two people met and fell in love on the roller coaster designed by Rudolph. The most beautiful moment of Rudolph's love was when he and Marta got on the roller coaster designed by him. This kind of beginning, plus the thoughts in their hearts, It shouldn't be possible to go to the ending mentioned in the movie. However, I think this time should not be too demanding logically, just like fables cannot be true. But this kind of "tacit understanding" is not good at all.

The whole film revolves around the topic of cheating. The honest man Andrew actually had an affair, and because of the affair, he regained the passion and motivation of life, and thus regained the happiness in his marriage. "Hopeful men" seems to be advocating that having an affair brings great benefits to marriage. At best, it is looking for how to improve the quality of life, seeking hope, and seeking passion from another angle. But what I value more is the question I mentioned before, how two people discover each other. Two people get along day and night, but they don't know what the other party really wants, or they cover up their real needs with their usual madness and happiness, or they become indifferent to the other party at all. It may be too much to say this. After all, Rudolph and Marta in the movie are really in love and really happy, but they can actually go further. Alice and Andrew are slightly worse, but they are not completely indifferent to each other. Both of these couples have undoubtedly given up on the possibility of making life better, and although it may have been possible with a small effort, neither of them has acted. They may all be pinning their hopes on the other for a little hint. After being caught, Rudolph immediately took action to buy Marta's long-awaited Valentino bag after receiving "a little hint" from her daughter. This may be a metaphor for suggestion and practice. Poor Marta didn't have time to wait for this change, but fortunately Alice waited for Andrew's change. So if you love him, you have to tell him that it's not that he doesn't love you, it's not that he doesn't care about you, and it's not that he doesn't want to. In fact, he may just not understand you. Tell him now, don't wait too long.

The blind masseuse who Marta had an affair with may not necessarily understand her better than her husband, but he said: "She actually only needs me to look at her like this", which makes me think this is the easiest communication between people Way. When breastfeeding the baby, the mother must look at the baby, so that the love in the eyes will be conveyed to the baby through such a "broadband"; before two people kiss, they must also stare at each other, and then slowly approach; gratitude, admiration , appreciation, forgiveness can be conveyed through eyes, and of course "what are you looking at" is the same. And Andrew had heard the story of his father-in-law, and when he went home and just looked at Alice carefully, Alice's heartbeat, joy, and shyness were really vivid and accurate interpretations. Sometimes the most affectionate action is staring, and the most affectionate caress is with the eyes. Quietly, slowly, for a long time, let the time pass, let the years go by, just look at you quietly like this.

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