preface:
If the "Husband Got Depression" directed by Kiyoshi Sasabé of Japan impresses the audience with the warm atmosphere of the whole film, the "Melancholia" directed by Lars von Trier is not so pleasing in comparison. In 127 minutes, it was depressing, dark, and even ignorant. In fact, most of the viewers who will watch this kind of movie are because of their needs, maybe they or the people around them have fallen into a state of depression, and want to quickly and intuitively understand depression. Many discussion groups like to use "Husband Has Depression" as an explanation to let everyone understand depression. In this film, the apparent changes of her husband before, during and during treatment are vividly depicted, and it has a hopeful The ending was comforting to the audience. "Melancholia" is on the contrary, it portrays the state of mind of people who are in depression (not necessarily just those who are depressed, each of us may fall into depression at some point and cannot extricate ourselves). Many people watch their lover in a different world from themselves in an instant, and they are anxious but cannot understand the drastic changes and pain of the other party. If you can understand this movie, you can probably empathize with each other to a certain extent. , to sum it up - there is nowhere to run.
One: The Outbreak of Chapter 1: A short-lived mood is nothing compared to a mood
The film actually contains three chapters: the destruction of the earth at the beginning, the wedding of my sister Justin, and the death fear of my sister Blair's family. If you can watch this movie over and over again, you will suddenly realize that the title should be placed after the ending. If you can watch this movie back, you will find that the title should have been placed at the end. This kind of hindsight is like people often have to wait until the depression has developed to a very serious level before they can detect, recognize or face this matter. It is lucky to be able to play it back and look at it seriously, but it also requires opportunities and costs. of.
Sister Justin's wedding was a farce. With repeated troubles, setbacks, and conflicts, Justin cut off the relationship with his family, his boss, and even the groom with his own actions that were incomprehensible to ordinary people. How speechless and absurd, that's right! Depressed people's thoughts and behaviors are so incomprehensible and unacceptable to ordinary people. In the play, Justin's sister and husband have comforted and wished her "happy" many times. She tried it, forced a smile, but tried it and found that there was no way to do it. This is to explain, in psychology, emotions are divided into: mood, passion and stress. "Passion" is an intense, short-lived emotional state, often a state emotion that arises from the current situation. "Mood" is a persistent emotion, with diffuse and long-term characteristics. For example, temporary mood (actually refers to "passion") is only a short but enthusiastic performance in a stage play. People's lasting, diffuse and profound mood is the keynote that determines whether the play is happy or sad as a whole. The power of the state of mind is so great, like endless stormy waves, it can wipe out the splendid mood in an instant. You are very painful, confused, angry, and helpless, but there is nothing you can do. At the beginning of the wedding, Justin was genuinely happy, but this temporary state of happiness was annihilated like a crashed earth when the depression hit. Be strong" can be shaken.
Second, the comparison of the two chapters before and after: objective life VS subjective life
When watching the first chapter, despite all the dramatic conflicts in the storyline, it still presents a very real scene that a wedding should be: the warm yellow lights and food at the wedding, the blessings of the guests and the singing and dancing. , the mundane topics of designing advertising slogans and promotions, etc. But by the second chapter, the tones became somber, and the topic of discussion became "Will the Earth be wiped out by a planetary impact?" So uncomfortable. Most importantly, there was a giant castle in front of which was bustling with many guests. Except for his sister, the Blair family of three, Justin, and one or two housekeepers who hardly ever left the country, there was no one else, not even the parents of the two sisters. It seems that they are isolated in a separate space. Even knowing that this might be a setting the movie wants to accentuate the subject, this setting is unpleasant. This kind of unhappiness may stem from ordinary people's anxiety about the lack of intimacy. After all, being isolated in an isolated castle, cutting off relationships is not something ordinary people can imagine, understand, and endure. But the depressed person happens to be like this. No matter how many people he passes through in his life, they live in peace and even lively exchanges, but it is difficult for depressed people to communicate with others and establish long-term and in-depth relationships. They yearn for intimacy and fear, and finally fear that their state will not be understood, that they will be hurt twice, or that their loved ones will be affected. As in the second chapter, Justin is left with only his sister's family, because Justin doesn't need it at all, has no interest, ability, or energy to establish and maintain too many relationships. The brother-in-law and his parents did not understand Justin, and even sneered at him. The director (the director was a depressed patient, and this play is to show the feeling of depression) arranged for the brother-in-law to commit suicide in the middle of the game, and the parents stopped appearing, which also means that in Justin's subjective world , has been very desperate and indifferent to the relationship with her brother-in-law and parents.
It is worth mentioning that, at the wedding in the first act, Justin’s parents had a big quarrel with their daughter’s feelings without regard for the occasion when they were giving toasts. These two details also suggest that Justin's depression is traceable. The bad family atmosphere and unresponsive family relationship, the depression that was suppressed and hard to face, pushed Justin into the abyss step by step.
3. The ending of the collision of two stars: there is nowhere to escape in any time, space and consciousness
The ending is that Justin, Blair and their son are sitting hand in hand in the "secret cave" built by the branches, watching the planets come, accompanied by a loud crash, and the movie is abruptly ended. The first time I watched it, it was shocking and unexpected. I didn't expect that such an ending was really arranged. No heroes appeared, no luck happened, and everything died directly. Many viewers wonder why they tell a story about the impact of the earth. "Marriage" and "collision" are also very different, right? Is this a sci-fi movie?
It is precisely because we humans live on the earth that the earth is a living environment, so when it faces a threat, it can immediately awaken the most fundamental fear of death in people's hearts. We find ourselves, and there is really nowhere to escape! The last scene of the "melancholy" planet is approaching, as if the depression, lack of interest, depression, and hopelessness have swallowed up a person's self-imposed indestructible reason and mind. When our careers fail, our relationships break down, and we are suddenly hit, our brains sink into depression after denial, acceptance, and compromise. Just imagine that after your breakup, your friend said to you, go to travel to relax, is it really useful? Maybe yes, maybe no, it really depends on where you are. If you are in the depression stage, as Zhang Xiaoxian said, those beautiful places will become sad, and the beautiful scenery will be missed. What's more painful is that we will also tell ourselves that "you should be happy when you come out to play, see what you are doing, and make your companions unhappy", but the problem is my brain, my body hormones make me really happy Get up, so the depressed person falls into deep guilt and self-guilt. Traveling to relax? We just switched places for depression! This is the first "nowhere to run", no matter where I am, I can't get my spirits up, and the things I used to be interested in make me feel indifferent. The second "nowhere to run" is the cognitive root behind these unbearable feelings - those automatic extreme negative thoughts, "everything's over", "I'm hurting others", "I don't deserve to be" Love", "I'm worthless", "Death is a relief", the common thoughts of these depressed people keep drilling into their minds. When I was alone, I struggled with these thoughts, refuted, and finally got overwhelmed, so many depressed people were not in a good state of mind. Justin in the opening film also watched his vitality, energy, and temperature flow from his fingers. These thoughts are too automatic to be captured, detected, and clarified in a fleeting moment, so what can we do? The third "nowhere to run" is at the level of consciousness. It's too painful to wake up, so go to sleep. But the vast majority of depressed people have insomnia or sleep problems. What's more disturbing is that even if you are lucky enough to fall asleep, these negative thoughts will erode you in the form of dreams and wake you up from your dreams. Weeping in despair and collapse. It will also turn into physical pain, leaving you exhausted and restless. From the point of view of the psychoanalytic school, depressive neurosis originates from traumatic experiences in early childhood, so these past symptoms are hidden in the subconscious, and the cure is so deep that it sometimes pops up and bites people. Whether awake or asleep,
Fourth, the answer is hidden on the eve of destruction: no matter how difficult it is, you have to struggle to try to adjust
Originally, this article only wanted to describe the feelings of depressed people, and the movie itself tried its best to portray that mood and atmosphere. But it was too powerless and sad to stop abruptly. From this film, it also provides some practices on how we can cope with depression and help people with depression. For example, Justin's self-rescue was mentioned earlier. When she was in extreme pain, she once escaped from the environment that made her sad, and she also asked her parents to stay with her. And my sister, Blair, who, despite being angry with Justin, took care of her by and large, let Justin go to exercise on horseback, decorate her sister's room with flowers, and take the trouble to make her sister's favorite baked burritos. The answer given in the movie is actually: companionship. Especially at the last moment of near extinction, although I am about to be swallowed by the depressive planet, I am still holding hands with those who love me and those I love. At this moment, it is unclear who has more energy. Blair, who is full of death anxiety and is indeed dying? Is it Justin who is a little calm but can hardly hide his despair and sadness? Or is it the youngest nephew who trusts the cave and is very determined? But as a whole, they have achieved the effect of three and one phase being greater than three. Even if there is nowhere to escape, we still accompany and love each other. This is the only consolation in this film.
From occasional depression to depression, depression brings pain and distress to people themselves, their families, and loved ones. Regarding the adjustment of depressive state and the treatment of depression, the current mainstream is to adopt a comprehensive model of "medical-psychological-social". At the time of writing this article, I am not only a character who has experienced a longer and more profound depression, but also a companion character due to my psychological work. Although the pathogenesis of depression is complex and depression can recur, more and more professional workers in various fields are trying to overcome it. Next, I will record the effective experience and emotional changes in practice, and then systematically organize and share it with everyone according to a clear framework. I hope that while you have hope and confidence, you will have more endurance and determination! mutual encouragement!
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