"August Osage County"
The heroine in the show, who has cancer and is addicted to drugs, is just like her life: feeling hopeless and refusing to face pain by avoiding it. This pattern started from her childhood. The violence and indifference of her native family prevented her from experiencing the warmth and support of intimacy; for her inner longing, her mother would use a way of teasing and humiliating Suppression and response; maybe at that time, she gave up the comfort and care she wanted, because she knew she couldn't get it, and her apparent indifference and withdrawal were her good protective coat. During the conversation, she learned that she had a tragic childhood. Her mother's lover would attack her with a bull horn, and only her younger sister would protect her. When she fell in love and fantasized about her own beauty, she was deceived and humiliated by her mother. , and was made fun of for days (Boots story), so she breeds negative organizational experiences of "I don't deserve it, I'm bad, I don't deserve to be loved..." and so on. When she recalled her emotional and angry expressions, "her skull was smashed out of a hole", "if I called my mother a liar, she would definitely turn my head off", sometimes submerged in emotion, sometimes hysterical Yelling, laughing; it can be seen that these traumas are unresolved, and from the attachment model, she is more of a confused/unresolved type. And these traumas are constantly repeated in her intimate relationship and family: as sloppy and mean as her mother, she is indifferent, ridiculed, attacked her husband and daughters; unable to respect other people's inner thoughts and desires; And control, and retreated into a child for a while; after learning of her husband's death, she muttered to herself "Beverly is back" in the carnival music. Faced with reality, she had no ability to solve it, and she was in a state of confusion and detachment. .
The male protagonist doesn't have much footage, most of them learn about him in the talk of his family, he is a teacher, poet, alcoholic, very poor in childhood, a little cowardly in front of his wife, pessimistic about life, in his words " My last refuge is to hide in a book", he is a kind and talented poet, but he is not appreciated and recognized in his intimate relationship. His hidden attack on his wife - cheating, expresses his concern for intimacy Despair and anger, but spent decades in guilt, and finally ended his life with suicide.
The three daughters in the play have their own unique personalities, but they all have insecure attachment patterns. 1. Barbara is most like her mother. Sometimes she was silent under her mother's power, sometimes she reversed to control her, threw away her mother's medicine, and ordered her to eat breakfast; her communication with her husband was full of accusations and ridicule; she was confused, full of emotions, unable to understand and see There are more daughters, just like conflicts and disputes with their mothers, they don’t know how to get along; 2. Ai Wei is more like a father, she is more forbearance, always taking care of her parents, facing her mother’s accusations, being picky, She prefers to remain silent, even if her uterus is removed, she will not tell her relatives. In her words, "Is she mocked by her mother for a lifetime?" She does not believe that relatives can help and care for each other. When her mother told the truth lightly, she was completely desperate and sad, and when she left home in tears, like her father, "I will never come back." . . . . . . 3. Karen prefers avoidance/indifference attachment style. She is disappointed and distressed by reality, but idealizes attachment-related experiences and pays no attention to selection, so she will describe "mother, she will be a good mother" , "Parents have something worth learning, and that is their long-term marriage", "I think you are very close", even in the face of her boyfriend's scum, she still chooses to rationalize and idealize in order to make these The churning of a bad experience is minimized.
I watched the movie twice, and the first time I watched it, I felt depressed, confused, and irritable, and I was shocked by the trauma that everyone in the play suffered from the family; the second time I watched it, I could analyze and understand it from a professional psychological perspective. ; The deepest feeling is the detachment when everyone is hurt. It seems so helpless, but it is also protected and survived in such a painful situation. This reminds me of my own childhood, the same confusion and detachment when faced with trauma. In the face of reality, we can't prevent many things from happening, but we can choose how to face it. I am grateful for my learning and growth, so that I can not stop Let the family trauma continue. . . . . .
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