The problem isn't the infidelity, it's the way the marriage is organized

Tamara 2022-04-20 09:01:43

Marriage is actually somewhat similar to completing a team project. What it needs most is the consensus of partners, and the second is compromise when there is no consensus. Both are based on frank and timely communication.

The author may be trying to say that (by a character at a party of 3 women) infidelity will bring disaster, but it is actually a problem with the principle and purpose of marriage: Mutual exclusive (especially the body) is a big problem, it It is the taste of religion, but not the nature of people. It is very high-minded and far-reaching. It is suitable for people with wisdom and perseverance (at least middle-aged people), but it is not suitable for men and women who eat and drink. Marriage is life, not religion. The bad is bad. The religious saints strive to implement their high-end ideas to the low-end people. This is like asking everyone to speak classical Chinese, everyone to learn advanced mathematics, and everyone to learn poetry. In the eyes of promoters, it is not only simple , and seeing the promotion in full swing, I feel very happy; but the learners are miserable and contradictory.

Specifically in this film, it's not who cheated or hooked up who was wrong, but they didn't think about how to organize their marriage at first? How to live collaboratively? Did you fully agree with these consensuses before joining? Is it documented? What to do when consensus does not exist? Wait, they start writing code after they get a project, they don't communicate in the middle, or they hide problems, and finally the project is delayed and failed. So what is the antidote? It is to make marriage more open. The greatest common denominator of marriage should not be to bind two people, but to allow participants to live more freely and without worries. God should leave people’s residences, especially their bedrooms. Of course, all of this requires a clear consensus, preferably a contract in plain text. Marriage should also be more dynamic. It should be like ordering food. Eat porridge for breakfast and stir-fry carrots with meat at noon. It is best to have a marriage order market, and you can try a different marriage every time you go. It is human nature to be bored with repetitive things, and so is marriage. Only by providing many choices, many flavors, and many switching opportunities, can the fatigue caused by repetition be reduced.

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Extended Reading
  • Alvina 2022-03-27 09:01:07

    I began to think that Ed tried his best to get the crystal ball back to destroy the evidence. When Con opened the message inside, he was completely moved. The ending is well designed.

  • Ashlynn 2022-03-28 09:01:03

    This director has been pondering the subject matter of being controlled by lust and having extramarital affairs all his life, and he has quickly changed his mind. The script is actually not perfect: first, the plot is thin; second, the hint of the husband turning himself in at the end is not convincing. In fact, the screenwriter can use the former colleague who was fired by him to testify about the relationship between the wife and the victim, so that the existence of this person is more valuable , the plot is also more twists and turns, how good. But it's not bad that a script of this level can be made like this.

Unfaithful quotes

  • Tracy: Having an affair is nothing like taking a pottery class.

    Sally: Could be.

    Tracy: No. It would start out like that, and then, um, something would happen. Someone, uh, finds out, or someone falls in love, and it ends disastrously. It always ends disastrously.

  • Bill Stone: Wait. Wait a minute. You're telling me about family? Well, you don't know the first goddamn thing about it. Why don't you take a look at your own fucking family, Ed? Take a goddamn look at that.