Recently, I saw the emergence of mutual aid groups in "Fleabag" and this film, but when I saw the social worker in the film who led the shopaholic group members to carry out self-redemption later fell into the symptoms of shopping addiction, I was a little touched, that is Is being a social worker, the leader of a group, really better than the rest of the group, that is, the people in need of service? To really help them, what qualities do social workers need?
This movie was chosen as a social worker's perspective, of course, because the protagonist is a person who has a problem in some way, and it is obvious that she is still an "outlier" in her own life. The truth is that she is just a shopaholic, like drug addicts, alcoholics, and when they get to the stage of addiction, their symptoms also need treatment. In the film, the female protagonist's group is broadly divided according to professional concepts, probably with more mutual assistance, which is the third category of the group - support group. This type of group mainly communicates through everyone sitting together and discussing specific issues. And get advice and encouragement from others to solve common problems faced by group members.
Why do these people join this group? Is it voluntary? It is the formation stage of the group. How are the members recruited? Although the three group sharing sessions were shown in very little time in the film, in the first sharing session when the heroine joined, everyone said more truthfully, because they could not solve this problem by their own strength in their own lives. The problem itself has become very abnormal, and they have not realized it themselves, but the people around them realize that this is a problem that urgently needs others to intervene, so they give them advice. Similarly, the protagonist we saw, along with the care of others and his own subconscious needs, the protagonist joined the camp of change, but she did not voluntarily. So at the beginning of the group, although everyone's participation was very high and they didn't hide it deliberately, it eventually turned into a comedy because of the heroine's true sharing from the heart.
This scene is enough to make people reflect, what is the goal of a mutual aid group, can it really go in the expected direction from the beginning? This ideal state has not appeared in my limited practical experience, but the sense of frustration is real, so when I see this kind of encounter with others in a mature social work professional environment, I first go into My mind turned out to be letting go of myself and letting go of the unwillingness of the service object to not change. The sooner I give up the attempt to change others, the better. The second question is this mutual aid group. In theory, social workers are groups that will fade out at certain stages. Is there really no need to guide them? Obviously not, there must be a strong guidance, otherwise it will either fall into a bigger carnival of the same kind or a more deadly group depression. The strange thing is that at this moment I think of the movie "Dear", so in practical work, social workers must take more responsibility, Seemingly invisible but must be turned around at a special moment.
The performance of the heroine is enough to lead a group away, not only because in the early stage of the change, compared to the pain of change, it is more attractive to continue to indulge, but also because the heroine has a set of ways to make herself in this matter. Supported by a convincing life theory, her strong beliefs have also resonated with everyone: the joy of shopping, the excitement brought by items, the supplement to life satisfaction, etc. seem to be advantages, and we as audiences cannot deny it. This kind of fun, I almost sympathize with them, but stop, this is not the purpose of the group...
The female protagonist who participated in the first sharing session immediately threw herself into the next shopping spree, and even met the guide/social worker who led them to overcome their shopping addiction. The awkward encounter and the fight between the two was shocking. These scenes portrayed in order to highlight the dramatic effect of the film are omitted. Also in real life, the negative impact of the heroine's crazy shopping is gradually emerging. She has to hide and chase after cashing out credit cards and debts; she is timid in the face of true love, and is embarrassed and even apprehensive on various occasions. Anxiety, until she was completely defeated by the public exposure of this series of lies on TV, and finally even her best friend left her. In addition to being dramatic, this kind of scene is actually quite real. The Chinese saying is that "the heart will not die until the Yellow River". Because she didn't get to this level before, isn't it harder to give up the pleasure of shopping than to give up a relationship that may have been good at first plus a good social relationship plus a possible good reputation? ? For severely addicted people, what they have experienced is real, and those things that are not necessarily their own because of their other characteristics seem a bit illusory and difficult, so it may not be so easy to ask the heroine to break the boat and change. Ordinary people are also like this. For some things that they know clearly cannot be done and are innocuous, they always have the illusion of taking care of them because there is still another way to retreat, and there is another possibility.
It seems that the change of the heroine has nothing to do with the mutual aid group she joined. If it weren't for the cruel reality, she would still be running wildly on this road. Social workers are useless at all. But is it really so? Although it is only a clue, we can still see that the heroine, who is bound by reality and has nowhere to escape, has a desire to change from her heart, so she took the initiative to seek help and entered the group again. This time, the leader of the group is no longer the social worker who didn't even solve his own problems, but a woman who looked more iron-handed and cruel. Her strong attitude and madness-like action led the group The "lost" lambs are firmly in control of their group goals, and the touring moves they take also allow people to gain new life in the process of gradual change.
Therefore, a person's change is not only because others think that you should change, you have to realize it and have a desire; secondly, you need to realize that you still have to walk a difficult road, and you need help and support from others. Friends can help you do the former, but the one who really helps you is the professional person behind, who is familiar with the set of rules and understands all your cowardice and full means. It seems that a social worker leading a mutual aid group needs full professional theoretical support. He has to fully grasp the general psychology behind these problems, and also needs accumulated experience. One set", or you'll be led astray before they solve their problems.
The social work element of this film may just be a far-fetched idea of a social worker, but aside from the old-fashioned rant about Prince Cinderella, this film can be criticized in many ways, but it seems too suitable to analyze as a client, causing The social worker’s thinking should also be more profound, but the impression I got is: strengthening the self-determination of the case is a prerequisite for change, and secondly, if a person has too little experience, he should not try to save sentient beings. Instructing the country, and finally being patient and steadfast, taking as many actions as possible, and using the external environment to pierce some unrealistic thoughts of the case owner, so that they can return to the real starting point.
The social worker watched a movie, and after a year, found that the group that appeared in this film should be a therapy group and had nothing to do with mutual support...
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