Diane leaned on the new car and said to the excited Steve: My love for you will not decrease, I will only love you more and more. Seeing this, I shed a tear. My mother never said a word to me with the meaning of loving me, and I think this may be one of the reasons why I have always misunderstood her.
Dolan has two films about mothers: "Mummy" and "I Killed My Mom." When I watched "Killing Mom", I was a freshman in high school. I had just had a fight with my mother, and was locked in a room alone, silently applauding every accusation Dolan made against his mother. I watched "Mummy" a year later, with a crappy translation, but I just thought the picture was very good-looking. At this point Dolan began to understand her mother, and I still misunderstood.
The bright colors, exaggerated language and actions, and the fierce quarrels and conflicts between mother and son stem from the two people's strong love for each other. Do we still love each other? Yes, that's what we do best. But we don't know how to give each other the love they need or how to accept the love they give, so we misunderstand and make love extremely difficult. Steven thought that the love his mother wanted was protection, delicious food, and gifts, so he jumped into the car and threatened to scold Diane's driver, went to the supermarket to buy food, bought gifts for Diane, and also wanted Study hard to be her pride. He didn't understand why Diane had to go to the greasy lawyer, he believed there was nothing the two of them couldn't solve together. This love from a 14-year-old manic boy could not be accurately accepted by Diane, but the gift he bought was misunderstood by his mother as a stolen one. How can I explain that my mother does not believe it, and what should I do? How can you trust me? How can I get you to listen to me? So the beast in his heart could no longer control it and began to use violence.
I am all too familiar with this kind of helplessness that is misunderstood by my mother but cannot be explained. When simple conversations are no longer effective, quarrels and screams are replaced, and tears of grievance keep pouring out. Why can't you listen to me? Why do you always misunderstand me? Am I so unbearable in your heart? Then, full of anger, confusion, and hatred, he hid in the room.
Steve doesn't want Diane to flirt with a lawyer for a broken case, so shy he sings a love song for Diane. But Diane just grumbled at him, pointing at him and ruining everything. So Steve ran away. Later, he said to Diane, you may not love me one day, but I will always love you, you are the most important person to me. After talking, they kissed, it was the pure and passionate love of a fourteen-year-old boy, but Diane pushed him away. Mom doesn't love me anymore, he thought, so he took the knife and cut it down. As he fell, he asked Diane, do we still love each other? Of course, that's what we do best. Hearing this answer, he laughed, perhaps now he believed that his mother still loved him. Steve was in disbelief when the medical staff approached him, until he saw Karen's pained look in the rearview mirror. Mom lied, maybe she really doesn't love me anymore.
If the movie only has Steve's perspective, then the movie is just a more refined "I Killed My Mom", and it is the reflection of the mother's perspective that makes "Mummy". I remember Karen saying to Steve that there are no mothers who don't love their children, they're just scared. I think Diane was just scared, when Steve brought back a bunch of "gifts" she was scared of her son being a burglar; when Steve went crazy she couldn't calm him down; when the court summons came, she was scared Steve goes to jail; when Steve kills himself because of her own mistake, she fears she will hurt him again... So the helpless mother decides to give up child custody. Diane looked at her son, who had not yet grown up, and fantasized about the happy and beautiful future he might have. She wondered if it was time for her to let go.
But the young and energetic Steve couldn't understand Diane's love and sacrifice, and Diane couldn't feel that his son was extremely dependent on her Oedipus complex, so the misunderstanding deepened...
It was the same with my mother in the past. I longed for my mother's approval and encouragement and relied too much on her, but she always ran away or attacked her verbally, which made me miserable. Later, on a long-distance phone call, my mother confided in me for the first time. She told me about her loneliness and her worries. Only then did I realize that she had the same fear and entanglement as I did in her heart. It wasn't that she didn't love me, she wasn't a deserter, she was just scared and at a loss. At that point, I thought, I had to start understanding her.
We all love, we just don't know how to love, so we collide in love, get hurt, maybe one day grow up in love, or get tired and give up.
I think, maybe Steve who couldn't get through the phone really gave up, maybe the message was not his real thoughts, so breaking away from the bondage and rushing forward was the way he chose to degenerate after he was convinced that he lost his mother's love.
Love, misunderstood love, will tear us apart
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