Like many people, "Friends" is also my original intention for American dramas. In fact, strictly speaking, this statement is not appropriate. Before "Friends", I have watched several American dramas. I call it the original heart just because of its place in my heart. Over the years, it has gradually become the background sound of my solitary life. From piracy on the web, to Netflix, to HBOmax, just playing it makes my anxious world safe.
In all fairness the characters in Friends have a lot of character flaws. The spoiled Rachel, the obsessive Monica, the half-hearted Joey, the humorous Chandler, the penny-pinching Ross (It's hard to tell because I am sweating, but I use exactly what the gel bottle says.) Pheobe, who has a clear mind, is the most normal and lovely person I think. And their character flaws are not reconciled by other distinct strengths, such as Sheldon, and their social flaws are made up for by their superior IQ. Thinking about it this way, if "Friends" is a current episode, it will be silent. We are all used to all kinds of novel stimulations, the characters need to be different, and the visual effects need to be shocking. We, of all living beings, have to look at stories that are 108,000 miles away from our own lives.
But many years ago, they and their ordinary lives came into my heart. Yes, they are like you and I with all kinds of flaws, but they love each other firmly and put each other first. Ross gave up TV interviews in order to take care of the injured Rachel, Chandler asked a colleague to borrow Santa's clothes in order to satisfy Ben's wish, Joey helped Phoebe fulfill his wish to kiss a Portuguese before the age of 30, and Monica put her favorite The child's name was given to Rachel.
We always talk about being confident. Confidence is knowing your own strengths and values and then believing in yourself. However, there are very few people who can fully understand themselves through self-examination. Most of us look at ourselves through the mirrors of the people around us. When people around us love us, we feel worthy. So you see, even though Chandler failed to chase women over and over again, Monica was like Ree! Ree! Ree! Ross was whiney, obssesive, insecure, gutless, and never seize the day. There was an episode where everyone complained about each other's flaws. But they are still confident, because no one leaves because of these flaws.
In fact, what we pursue all our lives, whether it is friendship, love, or even family, isn't that a firm choice? Others are all good, but in my heart they just can't compare to you. (One of my favorite love stories is Pan Yueming and Liu Tao's version of The Legend of the White Snake. The white lady told Xu Xian that you deserve a better person. Xu Xian said that a better person will naturally be matched by a better person.) I I often feel that if such a sense of security can be obtained from friendship, love is nothing but a dispensable thing.
My friends are very few now. I think I can even be called cool and thin in the eyes of most people. Most of the people I know are just acquaintances for a while, and after graduation, they drift away when they move. Those who don't drift away don't think of me when they travel and eat together, but I'm the best choice when they need someone to take care of their cats. Someone advised me to take the initiative to contact me and send WeChat if I have nothing to do. I am really hopeless in this regard, even if it is a New Year's holiday, I can't think of a greeting. But also part of the reason is that I don't want to show a dependency. I had very close roommates when I was in college. I always wanted to be a little closer to them, to join their activities, to sit with them in the same class. But what seemed normal to me was dismissed as suffocating. And one of the guys who blamed me had just recently been down for her unanswered friendship.
I can't understand why making friends has become such a complex subject as I grow up. If you are close, you will say suffocation, if you are far away, you will be cold. The contact is frequent and there is no space. After a long time without contact, the feelings fade again. During high school and undergraduate preparatory years, I made four true friends without using these deliberate operations. So now whenever I hear about maintaining friendships like this, I stubbornly think: Why can't it be the same as before?
Some people say that friendship in high school is just a product of being forced to live in a closed environment for a long time without having to choose, and the friends you choose after you become an adult are the real like-minded people. maybe. But even in a class, there are more than 60 students. If you want to choose, I am not the only option. Now socially awkward, I was just as unattractive back then. At that time, there was no Jiuqu ileum who knew how to maintain the surface peace. There have also been quarrels, cold wars, and even crossed the hurdle of "one of my best friends is with the boy I like", and the friendship has maintained today. Angry, sad, but at the end of day, I know I love him but I love them more. I know they love me too.
More than ten years have passed since I chose to go abroad when I was in high school, so I spend less and less time with them. When I was in college, I could talk about the soul once a year during the holidays. Later, I worked and read again, and the frequency of seeing each other became less and less. I haven't seen one's husband so far, and the other's husband has only been in a hurry at the wedding and didn't have time to speak. I am the best girl in this group of girls. I have seen all her ex-boyfriends, but I have never seen this one who is about to become a true fruit. I know very little about their lives now. If it were someone else, such a relationship would not even be familiar. But I still call them friends, best friends. Because no matter what happens to them, I will still choose them as firmly as they have never given up on me over the years.
Go a long way. With me, the 6 New Yorkers of the 90s came into my heart as they wrapped each other in love until the restless heart warmed. Thank you for choosing each other firmly. Thank you for choosing me firmly.
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