I prefer to look at the film from the perspective of fragmented relationships.
Leaving aside the male-female category, let's take a look at this man and this woman in this movie.
At the beginning of the appearance, there are detailed explanations: the man is at the construction site at the beginning, the woman is a white-collar worker in an office building; the car of the two was bought by the woman's mother, and the conflict between them and the man is undisguised... We don't know what the woman does What struggles started this "unblessed" marriage, but apparently the process of giving birth at home can be said to give the answer to the hidden unease ahead.
This 30-minute natural birth process has been talked about by everyone. Many people say that it allows men to experience the pain of women's childbirth - it seems that every woman will become a mother by default. Obviously, this is not the case. Although I am a woman, I have never given birth to a child, and this process also gave me a strong sense of substitution. The traces of their love can be seen in every bit of this process. In all fairness, if I were this man, maybe I would not be better than him.
This marriage, which seemed to be the envy of most people, began to crumble step by step as our daughter stopped breathing.
Not long ago, I was naive to think that the loss of a child for young couples is not an unsolvable situation, and that at least one can be reborn. So I don't particularly understand "Long Time" and "Broken Home", but the broken relationship between husband and wife in "Women's Fragments" brings to the surface the most core problem: the lost child is like a glass of peace in the relationship between husband and wife. A small stone on the face, the loss after peeling off, the doubt and denial of the self, the accusation and blame of the other party... Two people surround the stone, cracking the lines one after another, and then collapsing at a certain moment. Fragments...
The mother is more inclined to regard the newly born child as a part of her body, which has existed for 10 months - this sense of sovereignty does seem to be supported by facts, and there are two scenes in the film that I can't help but notice : The embarrassing milk stains that penetrate the clothes, the diapers that come off under the partitions... I believe that every woman who sees this will feel a kind of sadness, it's too easy to bring in.
The father is more inclined to regard the newly born child as a gift from God, and it suddenly falls from the sky: the moment the man holds the child in the movie, his eyes light up! I believe this is also the reaction of many fathers in reality. At that moment, I felt that I had grown up.
This physical and psychological difference is destined to be different for this man and this woman to fill the gap in the face of the death of the child: for the mother, it is the absence of a part of their own body; for the father, it is a gift from God withdrawn suddenly.
Even though we are experiencing the same fact, our grief can be so different. What if the other person experienced a fact that you did not experience? It seems that we have to admit that we can "empathize" with each other's grief, but we can't really "understand" each other's grief. So I couldn't help but ask myself what I could do if some kind of misfortune happened to my loved one.
Don't try to drive it away because it will only make him try to avoid you or let it get into his subconscious. Respect it, give it some space in your world, and maybe the three of you will be together for a long time. When he chooses to face it alone, quietly don't disturb them, but don't push him to it yourself. Show him that you will always be there for him when he needs you. Finally, and most importantly, never try to educate him if he doesn't need it.
If you can, set aside a short period of time as a virtual exercise in relationship breakdown. Bless all the relationships in the world with happiness.
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