Why is this society no one likes to be forced? I often think about this question for a long time.
People selectively avoid bereavement topics, such as death, sickness, parting. They also form a part of life, and sometimes even quite important. But when people talk about or mention these things, they will instinctively respond, but some people show superficial disgust and digress, while others keep silent.
Once there is one person in a group who always expresses a mourning point of view, it will be alienated or even attacked. Even in an intimate relationship, once one party always expresses a passive, indifferent, and negative attitude, the other party will be impatient when the other party's repeated cares have little effect, right?
Everyone wants to meet a person who is as warm as the sun, he/she can always look at life positively and be optimistic in the face of any problems and difficulties, but I always doubt that there is really 100% optimism in the world Is it an activist? As long as it is a human being, there will inevitably be periods of low ebb and times full of negative emotions, but it’s just that the persecutors choose to express it with indifference, complaining, and indifference.
When watching "Olive Kitteridge", I found that the heroine Olive and her husband are two completely opposite people. In the face of her always optimistic husband, Olive is like a wall of indifference, her attitude is always hostile. When she was middle-aged, she always had a cold face and stubbornly implemented her own set of principles. The only time I was touched was when I was guarding a detained student at the school. Because of my stubbornness, the student almost died. At that time, it should have been the first time for her to be suspicious and shaken. She was always strict and secretly wiped away her tears. Fortunately, the student was finally out of danger, otherwise her plan to commit suicide by swallowing a gun would most likely be advanced because of this.
Throughout her life, she has been battling hereditary depression. Olive has lived a lonely life. She is eccentric, out of place, and sees the end of her life, so she always attracts people by directly expressing her true attitude. feel sick.
But does she really not love life?
She will take care of the flowers and plants in front of the yard regardless of the mud, she will manage the housework carefully, and she will cry bitterly because of being rejected by her son. She doesn't smile much in life, but it's always true. She reflects herself with a sense of transparency that has been seen through. She doesn't cater to or follow blindly. In order to please her, her husband wanted to give her the flowers she had worked so hard to grow, but she angrily stopped her. Her husband was full of incomprehension, thinking that his hot face was on his cold ass. But it's not that she doesn't like flowers, she likes flowers that are not broken and grow lushly in front of the yard. These flowers were originally planned by her and her husband when they got married, but her husband forgot and did not really take care of the flowers after they were planted. She silently guarded these flowers, and cut the weeds around the flowers by kneeling and prostrate.
At the end of the story, the stubborn Olive, who had prepared all his suicide tools, had already pointed the shotgun at his mouth. Suddenly thinking of the voices of a group of children around, she put down the gun in a panic and covered it with a cloth. After the children left, she knelt on the ground and wept bitterly. The gunshot at the beginning did not sound, and Olive chose to continue to struggle with life.
The line in the movie that directly hits the heart goes like this-
It baffles me, this world. I don't want to leave it yet.
The world has thwarted me, and I am reluctant to leave.
It reminds me of a group of friends in Friends pulling Rachel to cut the bank card, when Monica said, "welcome to the real world! it sucks, but you're gonna love it."
The bereaved just see too much, they know that there is more pain than happiness in this world, and they resist in their own way. But the truth is that the world prefers to listen to beautiful lies than to listen to the truth. This sad fact is the source of their pain.
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