Among many marriages, a truly harmonious, equal and balanced relationship is almost non-existent. There is always a subtle bondage, and even a food chain. There is always one party in a position of being enslaved, squeezed, and eaten. .
After the explosion of "Little Lies", Nicole Kidman once again became the producer and starring role, and collaborated with HBO to use Susanna Bill and David Kelly as directors to launch the miniseries "Inaction", and Nicole also sang in person The title song.
In the first fifteen minutes of the first episode, I thought this was a plot like "I'm a Mom, I Need a Platinum Package", just about marriage, children's education, and career conflicts and contradictions in the wealthy families of the Upper East Side. Unexpectedly, the progress bar reached the 18th minute, and the sudden beauty of the naked body frightened me. Well, HBO, you deserve it.
"Doing nothing" is currently updated to the third episode. From the first episode, the rhythm and narrative are very eye-catching, and the violin BGM is too interesting.
Let me talk about the point that this drama attracts me. In "Big Lies", Nicole plays a Kochi woman, but she is deeply trapped in her husband’s domestic violence and cannot escape. Moved by his prayers, gentleness, and caress, I want to leave again and again, and again and again feel that I have no choice and strength. This perverted and distorted love blinded her once a lawyer, and made her feel that no one’s marriage is perfect. For the sake of her child’s choice, she finally passed four psychological consultations. The psychologist asked her to gradually After seeing the truth clearly, accepting the reality, letting go of my guilt and vanity, and starting to save myself step by step.
In "Doing Nothing", Nicole plays Grace, a psychologist. She has saved many marriages. She can hit the bull's-eye in the conversation and point out the problems in the party’s emotional model and the underlying causes. Behavioral logic, so that her clients can better understand their own inner and emotional misunderstandings, and gradually straighten out the messy emotional life.
How complicated and difficult to build a marriage maze, in fact, all have corresponding emotional patterns.
A pair of homosexuals came to her to solve the problem that one of them always cheated. After talking with both parties, Grace pointed out that the reason why one party always cheated and is always easy to be caught by her partner is that the cheating party enjoys it. The feeling of being discovered by your partner, because this is a contest, in order to prove to the other party that you can't control me. As soon as this was said, one party walked away, and the cheating party sat down on the sofa obediently and said, "Doctor, you are really good, you are right to the point. This is how our situation is. Now I'm going out to comfort him."
Another female client complained hysterically about how badly her husband was at her last night, and she suspected her husband had bipolar disorder.
Grace pondered for a long time before slowly saying: This is your third marriage. You are usually the most judgmental person among the people I know. You will try at least 20 pairs of shoes before choosing one. You choose a hair dyer and even do a background check. If you choose me, you must have done a background check on me, but only with regard to love, once you meet a man who makes you tempted, your judgment will disappear. . I remember the last time you came to me, we were going to talk about your second marriage, but I clearly remember that day, you came in floating, and have been excited to talk to me about this man you just met, and Is your current husband. Maybe it's not that your husband must have bipolar disorder, but maybe there is something wrong with your emotional model.
The truth is often so cruel that it is difficult to accept, so people pay a high price to ask a psychologist to tell them the truth, but after hearing the truth, they are often so angry that they do not want to believe or accept it. It is easier to blame the psychologist for not being professional than to admit one's incompetence and failure, or to blame others.
The seemingly complicated and difficult marriage maze actually has a corresponding emotional pattern. It is clear that Grace is very good at finding the key.
Here must be praised for the acting skills of the goddess. In "Lies and Lies", she is a lazy and charming full-time wife in the Bay Area. She is the one who needs the guidance of a psychologist. The psychologist pointed out whether there is a family between her and her husband. When she was violent, she was still reluctant to admit it, thinking that she was not a weak person, and she also fought back, but the rough sex afterwards made it difficult for her to accept. In the face of the truth, Celeste, played by Nicole, is nervous, resisting, and painful, unwilling to admit that she is a victim. But in the end, with the tolerance of the counselor, she reviewed their marriage history and realized that this was domestic violence. Then burst into tears and almost collapsed. I cried and said that I wanted to leave Perry more than once, but when I really thought of separating, my heart was a piercing pain. I didn't think Nicole's acting was so good before, but it was this performance that conquered me.
In "Doing Nothing", she is transformed into a New Yorker. She is a psychiatrist, the one who observes and gives advice to others. The psychiatrist played by Nicole still feels very good. Probably because Nicole Kidman's father is a psychiatrist and a university professor. Her father has provided psychological counseling for many people. Therefore, the American dramas that Nicole has participated in in recent years all have a psychological background and elements.
What is the New Yorker? Just as the mother of an elite lawyer in the play said: This is New York, but it is a crime to not be too busy to die in New York.
What a crime we thought was just that a low-level young mother sat on the bench opposite the school and spent a while after sending her son to school. And this is considered by the elite mother of the Upper East Side of New York. It is a crime that she neither took the book nor was too busy, but just sitting there.
In the family of the Upper East Side of New York, everyone is busy and orderly. They handle all kinds of affairs with multiple threads, but they still maintain their dignity and dignity. Everyone is under a lot of pressure.
Are we all living in bubbles with filters, and some real things are automatically ignored by us
In the rich family of the Upper East Side, naturally the husband and wife work very decently. Grace should be the kind of lucky girl who has lived a little princess life since she was a child. She is a well-known psychologist, and her husband Jonathan is a child oncologist. , The son goes to a prestigious private school that needs to consider and screen his parents’ income, family background, occupation and education experience.
One is a psychiatrist and the other is a child oncologist. This means that their jobs are extremely stressful and have a great test of physical, mental and emotional stability.
Jonathan faces the children suffering from cancer and their parents every day. For them, the doctor is a savior like a god. And every doctor wants to do his best to treat his patients, but the end result is often powerless. You can imagine what kind of mood Jonathan will attend the funeral of each of his patients and the funeral of his own patients.
In the eyes of the outside world, Jonathan is a very caring doctor. He is compassionate and humorous. He is not the kind of doctor who coldly tells the parents of your child that your child will die. He has also appeared in famous magazines. Professional, dedicated and caring, this is also Grace's impression of her husband.
Therefore, when her husband returned home and his mood fluctuated slightly, Grace was very considerate and caring for her husband.
But in the eyes of colleagues, Jonathan is a different look. He likes and really enjoys being treated as a god by the parents of the little patient. He enjoys the fascination, admiration and attention of these people for him, which to some extent contributes to an extremely unhealthy narcissism and swelling, so, When the young, beautiful and fragile mother of a seven-year-old boy appeared before him, he cheated. Whether it was professional norms, morals, or marriage, he broke his taboo and made mistakes.
As a psychologist, Grace possesses the professional qualities to be able to listen to and observe her clients, and no matter what kind of person they are, she must accept and empathize with them. Such a long career has made her seem very understanding. No matter how uncomfortable the other party is, she can find a suitable reason to understand the other party's behavior and relax the other party.
Therefore, when a stray intruder Elena arrives, even though other mothers are alienated and incomprehensible, Grace still releases the greatest understanding and kindness, even when Elena is in the bathroom of the gym. When the deliberately naked body appeared in front of her, she still maintained restraint and politeness.
I am not saying that there is something wrong with Grace, but that a person's mental energy is limited. Sometimes being too empathetic and considerate of the other party will bring a lot of trouble and pain to oneself.
For example, Grace's understanding of her husband is: he is at odds with his native family. He was traumatized by raising a dog when he was a child. The daily work pressure is extremely high. The death of the patient is also an experience of trauma and near collapse. A halo full of compassion and love, while ignoring many truths that should have caused vigilance.
But Jonathan has a more precise understanding of his wife’s weakness. He knows what to say will make her happy, and what to say can make her feel sorry for himself immediately, even after he is caught as a murder suspect, he can still be firmly held. Catch if the son has a murderer father, how unfavorable this will affect the child, and let Mingming already know that he cheated, and there is still an illegitimate daughter outside the wife willingly to take out the money to ask him the best Lawyers, collect all kinds of evidence to defend.
In addition, the husband was able to take advantage of the gap between Grace and his father to successfully lend a huge sum of money to the old man, which not only kept his wife away, but also made the old man grateful and thanked his son-in-law for giving him a chance to help his daughter. This is really pretending to be a pig and eating a tiger.
Even a former friend, his father, and Jonathan’s former colleague are reminding Grace not to believe him, stay away from him, and protect herself and her children. Grace still insists on believing that her husband is the woman who is pestering him, maybe The woman had obsessive-compulsive disorder, she was crazy in love with the god who could save her children, so she did a lot of crazy things.
Psychology believes that after encountering a partner’s betrayal, there will be several stages: sadness, anger, denial, fear, adaptation, loneliness, and friendship.
After the initial sadness and anger, because the emotion of betrayal is too painful, and the human psychological mechanism is very ingenious, it only allows us to feel the pain that we can bear, so that we will not collapse, the unbearable pain It was put in the "bag of denial", and we won't be released until we are strong enough to withstand this pain.
You see, even a psychiatrist is still a mortal, but as Grace, she should have insight into her emotions and psychology. I believe that in future episodes, she will come out slowly and recognize The story of the truth. (Of course, if the screenwriter arranged for her to have a split personality and a second personality to kill, then another plot is going.)
"Doing nothing" is worth watching. If you insist on picking up the goddess, the only drawback is that the goddess may have a little more shots, and the side face is invincible, very beautiful, but it is a bit stiff, and even affects her a little. 'S micro-emoji.
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