She, they are lonely and helpless in their roles. When Anna said desperately that we were responsible, her husband could not understand. The sale of sex is carried out by prostitutes on a basic voluntary basis, so why do we say that we are responsible for this? From a female perspective, the identification of one's own role has become the need to meet the needs of a certain object. When you are a wife, you must have corresponding characteristics, such as being dignified, dignified, and taking care of the family, and a husband told his wife more than once in the film that you should take good care of the children, but the husband himself has no real To discipline the two children, but to recognize the responsibility as the responsibility of the mother. But it is his wife who makes the heroine desperate, and her motherhood cannot satisfy her husband. By visiting prostitutes, she knows that many husbands still want their sexual partners to be slutty, or dignified, and completely opposite to their wives. No matter what she did, she couldn't satisfy her husband's complete needs. This is not the worst. What's worse is that there is not only one woman who thinks like this, there are many of them, and many of them. They can't really find themselves, but just become fillers for countless needs, so women of different ages will have the pain of disappointment in themselves. Going back to what the hostess said that we are responsible (for this kind of incident), the hostess was actually prejudiced at the beginning of the interview, (especially reflected in the conversation with the Polish prostitute. For example, ask her if her shoes are expensive. At the time, her expressions and words, she was not reluctant to drink with Polish prostitutes, etc., she had a kind of arrogance of middle-class intellectuals. So when she learned about her "failure" as an innocent and decent wife from the prostitutes, she was very frustrated. .) But when she really went deep into their experience, she was very sad, sad at their compelling, and even more sad at all women's unawareness of themselves as a filler for their needs. As a "she", she did not give the "them" a correct guide, but as a member of the same kind to harbor prejudice. At the same time, she did not teach her sons how to be correct and respect women.
(Personal) From the male point of view (guessing), the husband does not understand what the wife said about responsibility, because in the husband's view, these needs of men are relatively normal. I hope that my partner can have the dignity and decentness of his wife, and I hope she is dirty and indecent in sex. This is also sad. The pressure of men in society cannot be ignored. They believe that their pressure needs to be released, but at the same time they need to maintain a decent life. Every man's attitude towards women is largely influenced by the men around him. For example, when he was young, a boy would say: Women are not just clothes. Words like this are both ignorant and sad in an era when the status of women is rising and the awareness of personal equality is growing day by day. Because while belittling the value of women, the value of men themselves will be over-expected. For men, no, it should be a difficult task for everyone. This is also what some men would cry in the arms of a prostitute. The gender-differentiated treatment of people makes people of different genders have to work hard and be disappointed in the expectations of others. (But as a woman myself, I can’t make a conclusive conclusion on my true thoughts about men. I look forward to your discussion and opinions)
Therefore, every person in the film is lonely, Anna's loneliness, husbands' loneliness, and even the elder son's loneliness that he can't satisfy the society's expectations of young people and so on. Everyone has a very estranged relationship. Because we all live in the expectations of others.
Only by treating yourself as a complete person can you get out of this vicious circle. Whether you are them or them, please learn to respect and follow your heart.
Reasons for scoring:
One star gives the idea of the film, one star gives the actors' acting skills, and one star gives the photography composition.
The downside is that the plot is too loose and the plot clues are not obvious when interspersed and transformed, which easily confuses the timeline of the story.
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