In the "Xinhua Dictionary", "family" is interpreted as: a social unit based on marriage and blood relationship, including parents, children and other relatives living together. Key words include marriage, blood, but not emotion. A person who has never felt emotions in the family may be the most qualified to tell what kind of experience it was.
"Skate Boy" is one of Obama's ten favorite movies of 2018 published on social networking sites. It is also nominated for the 91st Oscar for Best Documentary. Director Liu Bing focused the camera on himself and the friends around him, telling what is family and what is growth from their real experiences.
Skateboarding-feeling of uncontrollable
At the very beginning of the documentary, there was a long shot of skateboarding: leaping, flying, leaping... it was a kind of extreme charm of freedom and uncontrollableness. Who would want to feel more unfettered, the answer is people who have been trapped for a long time.
The three protagonists in the film all mentioned the word "escape". What they want to escape is "family", and the motivation to escape is "domestic violence".
Keire, a black child, his father is a typical violent father, coupled with skin color reasons, was mocked as a "nigger" and was violent by his peers.
Zack used to be a big boy who looked sunny. When he was young, his father's hope for him was to do what he liked, and then suddenly changed one day. His mother abandoned him and his father violently faced each other.
Liu Bing, the director and filmmaker of this documentary, mostly held the camera at others. His half-brother once described: He made a terrible cry in Liu Bing’s room, and when Liu Bing grew up, he would still tremble when thinking of his father’s domestic violence in the past. Continue to pinch his neck and almost suffocated.
What role does the mother play in the father’s domestic violence? When Liu Bing and K's mother talked with his father about the violence of his father (stepfather), the two mothers did not consciously appear silent for a while. This silence was short but suffocating. They are extremely annoyed and deplored by the child's experience. They are all victims of violence, but they all have a similar view: He has bad times, but most of the time he treats me well.
There was once a study that women who have suffered domestic violence are still willing to defend their husbands. This is called "Stockholm syndrome", which is to satisfy the victim who once believed that the perpetrator had control over his life and death and the victim's information, and In the process, small favors and small favors are given, and the violent offender's confession, tears, and confession of mistakes after the violence will be magnified by the victim. They may understand that there is a difference between 0 and countless domestic violence, but they always feel that a fluke will happen to them.
What do those who commit violence think? The only real abuser interviewed in the film was Zack, and he finally embarked on his father's path. In the documentary, Zack at least hoped to be a good husband at the beginning, but in the day-to-day quarrels, it finally developed into violence.
Zack said, I don't know how to beat a woman, but she makes endless trouble, and doing it has become a helpless means to stop her. Helpless, show your authority... In short, there is always a "reason".
Skateboarding-enjoy the feeling of control
Stepping on a skateboard with four wheels and one board. Through your own feet, you can control the direction of advancement, the height of flying, and the angle of rotation. This sense of control that cannot be obtained in real life is also fascinating.
The ability to grow is very sad. What is interesting is how would you choose in the same setting? Keire, Zack and Liu Bing respectively represent three growth trajectories.
Keire never stopped preparing for the "escape" of the family. He failed to graduate from high school, worked and saved money, was stolen by his brothers at home, and saved money, and finally he could walk out of the house.
From the beginning of life, Keire has been a person with a very low sense of positive presence. He was ignored, domestically abused, and was violently violently by his peers because of skin color issues... But it did not prevent this young man from laughing, although sometimes he laughed a little helplessly. helpless. What do people who grow up in such a growing environment need?
When Liu Bing interviewed him, he said that in the process of shooting you, I felt that I saw myself. Keire's face showed an indescribable movement. Perhaps it is thanks, thanking oneself can also be understood; perhaps it is cherishing, cherishing oneself to be able to be seen.
From the moment Keire's father died, his relationship with his father had begun to change. As a person with a warm heart, he explained his father's behavior. Also began to understand his father. Keire finally went to his father's cemetery and cried bitterly in front of his father's cemetery. At that moment, he reconciled with his father and reconciled with himself.
On the day he went out, he snuggled up next to his mother, and her mother said: Can I leave in another month? It's too cold now.
Like all mothers in the world, their prayers were subtle and deep, but Keire had been waiting for this moment for more than ten years, and there was no reason to retreat. It is inevitable to go, and it is also inevitable to leave the original environment and start life again.
Zack chose a completely different path. At least in the first half of the film, Zack is the most "serious life" person in the film. The 15-year-old Zack is a sunny boy with a handsome face and a bright smile. He stood up when Keire was beaten; when he was not ready to become a father , Take care of the child with all my heart, and the scene of holding the child skating is beautiful and moving.
But Zack failed to pass his own level. The two immature people walked together and suddenly had children. In the day-to-day dispute, Zack went to extremes and committed domestic violence against his wife Nina, which seemed to be back again. The family cycle built by one's own parents.
Fleeing, fleeing outward, is a way and requires courage; hiding inward is also a way, perhaps easier. Zack said about his choice that some people can turn negative energy into positive energy. I am not that kind of person. It feels terrible to know that I am my enemy. Every decision you make will eventually lead to your current bad life. , There is nowhere to escape.
Liu Bing took a different path from Zack and Keire. Zack and Keire did not graduate from high school. Liu Bing went to university, majoring in criticism and theory. Then he took up the camera and entered the film and television industry. In 2012, he decided to start filming this film. The movie, when he was 23 years old, was released in 2018.
This documentary is a cure for Liu Bing. He saw himself in others, and began to examine his past. Had it not been for this documentary, it would be difficult for him and his mother to have the opportunity to talk about this issue frankly and openly.
When the lighting was set, Liu Bing sat behind the camera and faced his mother, both of them looked awkward. My mother talked about why she wanted to marry Liu Bing's stepfather-afraid of being alone, maybe it had nothing to do with who this person was. Also talked about my apologies and regrets.
" If you are afraid of this movie and want to do anything that can cure you, you can "
Behind the spotlight, Liu Bing frowned, with the same painful expression on his face as his mother. For the purpose of this film, Liu Bing said, I need to move forward, not live in the past.
Liu Bing once asked Keire what do you think of making this film for you. Keire said that he felt like having a free psychological consultation. When watching this film, Liu Bing was worried about whether Zack would "beat himself" "But Zack said with tears in his eyes, it was beautiful, and I thought I would be described badly.
Time will always move forward. How to grow is your own choice. When life is unsatisfactory, go beyond life itself to examine and record, you may be able to find a different meaning.
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