In "Forty-fifth Anniversary", Kate's marriage is clearly a "positive victory" marriage to her - at least a marriage in which the pros and cons have reached a delicate balance. But all of this is shattered by a letter received by husband Jeff. The letter says the body of Jeff's ex-girlfriend who died unexpectedly in the Alps has been found.
Kate, like every woman who has a false belief in her own mind, said she could fully understand Jeff's emotions as a result. But the development of the form seems to have exceeded her expectations. Jeff would sneak up to the attic behind her in the middle of the night to look at old photos; he began to borrow books about glaciers and the greenhouse effect; when he told the past, he made no secret of his jealousy when his ex-girlfriend flirted with the tour guide. ; He even went to a travel agency to inquire about Switzerland...
Two people seem to have a third invisible person in their lives. The dead ex-girlfriend, she lay quietly in the glacier, perhaps the same face. She will never grow old or wither, just like the years.
I kept thinking that Jeff would have something to do with his ex-girlfriend's death and that the plot would go in a suspenseful direction - but nothing happened. This movie is as bland as life itself, there is no treacherous plot, only real coldness. It's just an old man chattering and indulging in all the things of the year, while his wife is silently heartbroken next to him. This heartbreak culminated when Kate asked Jeff if he would marry her ex-girlfriend if she hadn't died. Jeff replied, "Of course." He was so sure he didn't even add any extra explanation. As if Kate was just a second choice.
In fact, what Jeff really misses may not be his ex-girlfriend, but the young and unknown years. Life was full of so many possibilities back then. Every bit he misses his ex-girlfriend is a regret for every possibility he has lost. But I think what Jeff hasn't been able to figure out is -- going back to the debate metaphor -- which side he's on. You can't provide a bunch of solid arguments for the opposing side, and then the final conclusion is "Of course I stand by my point of view." In layman's terms, Jeff's performance in those days was completely a pig teammate.
Some people say after watching the movie, watch it, you just can't tell the truth to your wife. It is obvious that the person who said this is too lazy or lacks the skills to tell the truth. Kate would have been far less hurt if Jeff had added "but I'm still grateful that I met you after all this happened" after admitting that he would have married her then-ex-girlfriend if she hadn't died. But he chose not to speak. Obviously, he could let Kate go to Switzerland with him and participate in the memory of her absence, but he chose to secretly consult a travel agency behind her back. When the pig teammates were always adding points to the opponent, he did not understand the dilemma of his partner struggling alone in this "debate".
Are we really on the same team? Please show the spirit of your teammates, please? Do you really want to stay in this marriage? Please don't keep pushing the other half out, okay? Jeff may not understand that their 45 years have made Kate deny everything these days? He didn't understand that there was only one winner in all debates, and that if women felt that their feelings were betrayed, they would choose to overthrow them all.
Sometimes we just need some evidence and reasons to convince ourselves to stay in a relationship.
Jeff's final speech at the wedding anniversary party made me think he still cherishes the marriage - after a series of devastating devastations.
But all this may be too late. The final song sings Kate's heart at the moment. For her 45 years, it seemed that only smoke had blinded her eyes.
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