After watching the Sophie case in the American TV series "Ask the Heart" on and off, I personally feel that this is a very successful case that shows a lot of professional perspectives in consulting. I think this is also the reason why our teacher chose this case to ask us to watch it! This is the first time I know this show, a very valuable work, because from the visitor's point of view, in a sense, free consultation can be accepted; from the consultant's point of view, the show provides A large number of classic cases can be used for analysis. The so-called layman is watching the fun, but the expert is watching the doorway! Although I am not an expert yet, based on my professional knowledge, I still have a lot of opinions to express.
Let me start by talking about my feelings from a visitor to this series, Sophie, a girl with a strong appearance who has an unusual experience. At the age of 16, she was in the prime of adolescence, recognized for her ability as a gymnast and a candidate for the Olympic Games. Sophie's father, a supermodel photographer, had sex with different supermodels when his daughter was young, and was discovered by her daughter, but the daughter did not tell her mother, but acted as a cover-up, so Sophie always thought that Her parents' divorce was her fault. The father's love for the supermodel body also greatly influenced Sophie's harsh management of her body. Sophie's mother is very vulnerable, which is the reason why Sophie can't stand her mother. She and her mother are in conflict. In the studio, in front of the consultant Paul, she constantly sneers and mocks her mother. Then, Sophie had a close relationship with her coach Cy, which caused most of the gymnastics team members to be jealous and ostracized her. When her parents divorced during her childhood, she found a so-called sense of security in Cy's house, but unfortunately, she had a sexual relationship with Cy. , which destroys Cy's family's trust in her, and Sophie feels deeply guilty for destroying someone else's family. Sophie, who is struggling to self-regulate, tries to kill herself by crashing her bike into a van. All in all, Sophie is an extremely insecure teenage girl who thinks she is dominated by adults and has no autonomy, so she will transfer her desire for control to gymnastics, and she will show less balance beam during the consultation process. It also shows the counselor that he likes the feeling of domination. Sophie is also an extremely sensitive girl. During the consultation process alone, psychological anxiety can easily be caused, not to mention all kinds of things in life.
On the other hand, I would like to talk about my feelings from the perspective of consultant Paul. First of all, it can be seen from Paul's words and deeds that he is an experienced consultant and has a strong insight. When Sophie said that the books above the bookshelf are pitiful, he will capture the details and ask why so Said, will pay attention to the clues left by Sophie. His words are natural but very powerful and effective. For example, he used his words to calm down the agitated Sophie many times, and his sincere words warmed the vulnerable visitors many times. In the face of Sophie's questions, he answered very naturally and frankly, and he could also be calm in the face of questions about his daughter. And in the face of the problems faced by the client, he has a high ability of empathy and understanding. He will think according to Sophie's words, he will also fluctuate according to the mood of the client, and even spit out swear words. Then give Sophie care and support to his father in general, for example, he strongly supports Sophie to pursue his gymnastics dream.
Finally, let's look at the establishment of the consulting relationship. The establishment of this capital-visit relationship is from nothing to weak to strong and finally to complete trust. It can be clearly seen from the first few episodes of the play that Sophie's attitude towards consultation is refusal. She will constantly provoke Paul and obstruct the consultation process, such as ignoring the consultant's questions or words many times, emphasizing her own point of view; Even if Paul says what's on her mind, she'll cover it up or deny it. And Sophie will continue to find loopholes and get out of control many times. Among them, Sophie also had a temptation to Paul, like the clothes were wet, and asked Paul to help change clothes, but Paul's response successfully dealt with her temptation and gained trust. In the back, Sophie can be said to have opened her heart to Paul, will listen to what he has to say, will take Paul's advice, even compared to her mother, Paul is more prestige in front of Sophie. Afterwards, it can be seen from Sophie's actions (sleeping on the sofa in Paul's studio and talking to him) that she is less vigilant. Of course, behind the weak to strong counseling relationship is the counselor's ability, effort, experience and skills. He constantly guides Sophie to get her out of her remorse and guilt and to rediscover herself. He confronted Sophie's discordant and inconsequential statements, and through constant questions, explanations, and clarifications, he gradually got to know the girl and what she had experienced. So he began to give her what she wanted but lacked, to give her fatherly care and guidance from her elders. Although in a sense, he broke ethics and partly went beyond his professional scope, but I think this was for the sake of Necessary to build a trusting and good consulting relationship with Sophie. Counselors are human beings, just like their clients, and I believe that being a perfect counselor is difficult, at least for me.
There is no doubt that Sophie's case was very successful, until the end, the girl opened her heart to others, sat on the grass and had a pleasant chat with her father, thanks to the counselor. However, Paul is not really the "perfect" counselor in our textbooks. For example, he neglected the sleeping pills in the cabinet, which further ignited the suicidal desire of the client. There is also a lot of guidance for clients. We say that guidance should not exist, but facing a young girl Sophie who is about the same age as his daughter, he really can’t bear to give up guidance. As a result of meaning, one leg is out of the line of professional principles. I think from the bottom of my heart that being a counselor is too hard, and being a good counselor is even harder.
These are just personal observations and feelings, if you want to hate, you can take a detour~ Hahaha! But if you want to discuss with me, you are warmly welcome. ??
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