Only the living bear death, and in the hour of mourning, the living come closer.
This show is the kind of tone I like: a remote and quiet town, a preoccupied protagonist and a perpetually gray sky, and it looks like a murder is about to happen. However, although "Dongcheng Dream" is also carried out by a case, and the female host is also very quick, the truth of the case is not the focus, and the family and parent-child relationship are the core of the show. Compared with other similar dramas such as "True Detective" and "Frozen", this drama is less cold and nihilistic, and more warm and humorous. Surrounding the protagonist are not only the case and colleagues, but also the most important family members. And this drama, developed from a female perspective, shows the greatest despair of a mother who has experienced the pain of losing her child.
How do we deal with the separation of a loved one? There are more than one bereaved in the TV series. After Betty's grandmother was in a car accident, Betty's husband asked Mel how he should spend this time. Mel said that she still hasn't spent it, but she will gradually get used to living in this kind of life. unbearable. For small human beings, death and parting are unstoppable, and there is nothing we can do except accept it. When parting does happen, there may be no action to relieve the pain. But it is in moments of vulnerability like these that we are closer to those around us. Humans are bound together by vulnerability and imperfection, just as ancient humans huddled together for warmth because of the cold. So when a loved one leaves, facing it with others in mourning is the best emotional support.
As Mel's psychiatrist pointed out, part of the reason why Mel was so obsessed with the case may be that Mel was using mourning for the victim to escape her true inner needs, and that she needed to fully mourn her deceased son. But she has been unable to do this for two years, and her daughter has wronged Mel - the family has stopped even discussing her brother. Her character has always been strong and calm, whether out of self-blame for not being patient with her son's treatment, or for her unwillingness to affect her mother and daughter, Mel chose to digest the pain by herself, habitually While numbing his emotions, he also ignores the feelings of his family, but how can a person who once really existed be erased? Instead of mourning with her family, Mel pushed her family further away in avoidance and silence. But "you can't get peace by escaping from life", and the bad emotions that are avoided are like pus on a wound, which will not heal with time, but will make the wound inflamed and rot deeper and deeper.
And as the case was solved, Mel finally had the courage to open the ladder in the attic. Before that, the three generations of mother and daughter finally talked about it at the dinner table. Mel's mother said to Mel with tears: "This is not you. fault". It reminds me of a psychologist who said about the extent to which our family of origin affects us: "We always think that everything about you is doomed by the past, but it's not. People are determined by the future." The best way is Go through so you can keep going.
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