A middle-aged female writer living in the United States ended a marriage that lasted for eight years, and personally destroyed the seemingly glamorous and safe life of outsiders. She exiled her body and mind from Italy, India to Bali, all the way to find her true heart. . Although the changing scenery along the way was turned into a dark tone by the director, the big mouth is also beautiful, the slack arms and deep crow's feet make the film less eye-catching than expected, although the film lasts for more than two hours, almost all Liz's inner drama, although the dubbing of the film is Martian between Spanish and French, there are still a few scenes and lines that touched me.
If you think about it, it may not have much to do with the movie itself.
【The most important relationship a woman has, is with herself.】While
watching the movie, a friend kept popping up in my mind, and her love life fell into the same dead end as the heroine.
When she met him, she loved him very much, she put away all the pride and weakness of girls for him, blindfolded her heart, and I learned from her that a person can love a person so much planting level. Later, it seems that all love stories cannot escape such a later.
Later, five years later, she said she found out that there was no love between them. All love has turned into family in the end, no matter how vigorous it used to be, it was flat as water in the end. All these words I had to struggle again and again when I said them, I put them all out to persuade her, but she didn't feel a word, so I was silent, He couldn't say a single word to comfort her to live with him.
In fact, I realized a long time ago that there is a very serious problem in her - the lack of self. But before that, I thought it was a blessing to love someone like her. But she didn't take into account the day when she would also wake up with self-consciousness. When that day came, she found that he was not the only one in her world. She began to have her own ideas. When he gave her more and more money, she needed When she was just a hug with a current flowing through, when she was disappointed with her current life, the inner drama was amplified, and the relationship between them became tense.
Like the heroine Liz, she is a woman with extremely slender and sensual thoughts. Love is oxygen and sky, so they can't tolerate the deterioration of love, even a little bit.
It is a very dangerous thing to pin all your emotions or hopes on one person, because people are impermanent animals. Many times we always think about how to get along with life. After simplifying the complexity, the most important thing is how to get along with ourselves. Especially girls, because girls are emotional and are more easily influenced by the outside world than boys.
[let it be]
Someone once said to me: How wonderful that you can still write such words.
I was still in college at that time, very literary. Simple and peaceful days pass by in the books in the reading room, in the folk songs of northern Europe or Australia and the pure tones of Japan and the mainland. My thoughts were taken by Chen Danyan’s travel notes and translated by Lin Da, to far away places, across the Sahara Desert, the Apennine Peninsula, and to Paris with a book. At that time, the world stretched infinitely in my heart, thinking that there are many kinds of life. possible. Focusing on a certain plot or background venue of a niche literary film, I unconsciously use the word "beautiful" to describe what I hear and see.
How ignorant I was in the past.
Now, when writing things, I try to reduce the frequency of using adjectives as much as possible, although I still stop for the light and emotional words on bus station advertisements in my life; , except for the daily commuting route and cramped office area, the time and space that belong to oneself is pitifully small; forcing myself to hide the soft side of my heart, not wanting to drag others down, so I force myself to become professional with the mentality of giving up; He is also reluctant to accept abstract things and feelings, so every aspect is meticulous, and he has to figure it out by himself, and it is useless for others to talk about it.
Marketing representatives who run the market have to endure bad road conditions and exhaust every day, employees in the office are exposed to the radiation of various office electronic products from computers and faxes every day, and grass-roots employees repeatedly make additions and subtractions between wages and daily expenses at the end of each month. Law, management leaders treat overtime as a late-night snack to stabilize and expand the frontiers that have been opened up... Real life is so bloody, not as full of possibilities as I think, on the contrary it is just a binary question of right and wrong , you either stop or continue.
What is written in books, sung in songs, and acted in movies is all about love. In the era of stripping, the whole nation calls for love, but how many people are truly happy in real life? How many people are busy practicing love from the shoulders of A to the arms of B, but forget what it feels like to be heartbroken? How many people are afraid of reality, blur the definition of love, and list lines of PS under it?
When people are alive, they will have ideas, hopes, and needs for life. When these are not satisfied, our hearts will lose balance. A witch doctor in Eat Pray Love said: To lose balance sometimes for love is part of living a balanced life. After going around for a long time, the heroine Liz happened to meet the one who was very compatible with her in all aspects, so as to solve the confusion that had been entangled in her heart. It turns out that life is not more conventional than movies. It seems that love is omnipotent and can solve all problems, but after being together? As the days go on, imbalances will still arise.
Your doubts, you can only spend time and energy to find the answer, my confusion, after several times of contemplation to no avail, I decided to deliver the time, waiting for it to give me the answer.
Let it be, time is the answer.
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