The story begins with a high school girl being lured into sex by a netizen, but at the heart of the story is the impact on an adolescent girl and her family (especially her father), how they suffered, struggled and started recover.
The contradictions in the first half of the paragraph are a little vague, but in the second half of the paragraph, I suddenly understand that it is the difference between the girl and her father's cognition of the same thing that expresses the theme of trust. The girl grew up in a very warm family, her mother was kind and kind, her father was humorous, and even more open-minded than many elders. It could be seen that he himself was very proud of being able to get along with the children. In such a growing environment, the girl is very well-behaved, has no derailment behavior, and has a lively and cheerful personality, but because of her natural sense of security, she is less cautious about the world. With the advent of puberty, she began to have the awareness of paying attention to appearance, began to look forward to love, and began to feel ignorant and curious about sex, but her parents obviously neglected to give some honest care and guidance in this regard. This caused her false trust in Charlie, because Charlie paid attention to her wholeheartedly, praised her, encouraged her, made her feel that he understood her best, loved her the most, thought she was unique, and used all kinds of slightly provocative words to make her feel It's exciting and fun, and Charlie's repeated deceptions fail to arouse her defenses, so something happens that shouldn't happen.
However, after the incident, the girl still looked at all this from the perspective of love. In fact, the psychological damage she suffered was not serious. What seriously hurt her was the sudden change in her father's attitude. From the perspective of an adult, her father thought this incident was ugly. It's hateful, he couldn't accept from the bottom of his heart that this kind of thing would happen to his daughter, he couldn't accept that his daughter confided in that man and kept a secret from him, and he couldn't accept that her daughter accepted the man's invitation without telling him, and the most unacceptable thing was that she was so young. The connection between his daughter and the matter of sex, he uncontrollably thinks of the scene as ugly images and the provocative dialogue between his daughter and Charlie as ugly language. He blurted out that "we" suffered a blow. In fact, this incident did bring a huge psychological trauma to a father, and also caused the father and daughter to become more estranged because of incomprehension.
In fact, the father's thoughts are also easy to predict. Every parent in the world will imagine that their daughter will always be pure and flawless (ah, I am very resistant to the word flawless), meet a considerate and gentle man, talk about platonic love, and have no sex before marriage behavior. Sons who peek at play boys can open and close their eyes or even make jokes, while daughters should draw a clear line from all "superficial" and "bad girls" who dress revealingly and have an open concept of sex. Also wanted to mention that some cultures think women's sexuality is filthy, but that goes too far. In short, it is really difficult to accept such a thing from the perspective of parents. In the movie, the identity of "the 30-year-old habitual offender who seduces young girls" may stimulate the father the most. If it is an ordinary classmate, a boyfriend of the same age, etc., it may be slightly less. Change a little bit? At least he should be able to accept his daughter's maintenance of him and the view of this matter as love. It should be more difficult to accept in Chinese society. Chinese girls have more or less heard some education about "protecting chastity", puppy love is shameful, and underage sex is a terrible sin.
There are three points to learn from the education of the next generation:
1. Try to be tolerant of children’s ideas. The more tolerant, open-minded, and patient, the more they can gain the trust of children. Straightforward instilling values, especially showing likes and dislikes. In the film, the mother directly refers to her daughter's first purchase of sexy underwear as "superficial" behavior, and suggests returning it. Although her attitude is very gentle, her daughter will not discuss any topics of underwear and beauty with her again. I also remember the first time when I shyly and excitedly told my mother that a male classmate liked me, my mother directly showed a look of disgust, saying that these are meaningless things, and I have not said anything to her since then. Love-related topics. For every type of topic you reduce with your child, you reduce the chance to understand and protect him in that regard.
2. While maintaining children's trust in themselves, debunk the cruel truth of the world. Many people who commented that the girl in this film is stupid may think that she has no basic understanding that "the object of online chat is untrustworthy". This should also be an important part of the parents' reflection in the film. The information of the person chatting online may be fake, the photos may be fake, and it is risky to meet netizens. They did not follow these warnings, which made the girl's trust in Charlie almost blind. My parents have done a good job of this. Since I was a child, they have used various methods to tell me that strangers cannot be trusted, that uncle's candy cannot be trusted, beggars cannot be trusted, and even acquaintances and relatives cannot be trusted without reservation. Learn to tell the difference. , which made me very vigilant since childhood. But it’s also a bit overkill. When I was in elementary school, I always suspected that my parents were disguised as bad people, that the real parents were tied up by them, etc., and I made up 10,000 horror stories to scare myself.
3. Both themselves and their children must establish a healthy and correct sexual concept. Find a suitable way to spread sexual knowledge to children as early as possible and prevent them from being misled by other channels. Use real and reasonable harm to persuade children to refuse to have sex too early, instead of using some "flawed" personality and moral insults to warn children and add invisible psychological burdens to them. If an accident or impulsiveness has already occurred, and you cannot wear tinted glasses to see the child first, you must calm down and help the child recover as soon as possible, and minimize the physical and psychological damage.
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