At my age, there are just so many types of people around me, single and unmarried, unmarried in love, happy married, unhappy married, and married and ready to divorce, but divorce has not yet appeared. Many people in the film review have compared "Doctor Foster" with "Gone Girl", so I quickly went to "Gone Girl" again.
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Although the plots all involve the issue of infidelity within marriage, I personally think that the two films are actually not comparable. "Doctor Foster" is closer to reality, and "Gone Girl" certainly has a lot of suspenseful colors, but it is really difficult to meet such a wife in real life, and of course it is definitely very painful. The last sentence of the heroine is impressive, to the effect that lies are part of marriage. I think this is probably the best interpretation of the worst part of marriage. However, the heroine of "Doctor Foster" is an idealistic woman who may live in real life. She has a strong and fair character. She explains to the audience "I would rather be broken than broken" to the audience every minute. Eat mine and spit it out", "Put away your clumsy lies and get out of my mother's world" values. (clapping hands and applauding face....) Her idealism finally defeated reality, and while holding a double-edged sword to punish the other party, she also gave herself a chance to be reborn. It's just that this method and result are not affordable to ordinary people. In reality, there will not be many Doctor Fosters, but many gone girls who use lies to whitewash Taiping.
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Aside from the plot itself, what should our attitude be when discussing the actual situation of marital derailment in real life? This is always a matter of opinion and there is no standard answer. From the standpoint of free will, my attitude is: cheating is human nature, and loyalty is a choice. Marriage, unlike love, has a spirit of contract. You will definitely find that those scumbags who are criticized by netizens on the Internet are definitely men who cheat in marriage. In contrast, cheating in love is not so heinous. Yes, it is against human nature to love only one person in a lifetime. No matter male or female, the inferiority will always be in your soul and mine. Falling in love with someone other than a wife (husband) is not a sinful thing, but what is it that we crusade and hate? Presumably greed and deceit! And the anger that comes with being unable to bear the results it deserves!
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, how complicated and how simple. "Gluttony", "greed", "laziness", "jealousy", "pride", "lust", "anger", these are the seven deadly sins of human nature referred to by the Catholic doctrine. When I watched "Doctor Foster", I often thought that if the heroine was not so smart, maybe everything could go on as usual, because although the hero has a young and beautiful mistress outside, his love for the heroine seems to be It hasn't diminished, and the love for his son is the same as before, and he didn't shirk his due responsibilities. Although the final character tells us that he is very low and is a loser who spends women's money, it is undeniable that he fell in love with the mistress at the same time. , still loves his wife. Every time I think about this question, I often ask myself. Whether you are a man or a woman, what should you do if you encounter such a situation? ! Is it greedy possessing two people, or rationally holding the bottom line of morality and respecting the contract of marriage and slashing the mistress, or divorce to start a new life with mistress, there are too many ways to deal with it, and the result is nothing more than these three . The latter two should be recognized by our secular values, while the former is precisely the choice of the most people. Why is this happening? I often ask myself, many people are speechless and unable to answer when they are questioned by the other half after cheating. !
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What is the bottom line of marriage? Should you tell your friend's lover cheating? What's the best way to deal with knowing the truth? What if we were the one who cheated? Marriage and love are always one of the topics that cannot be avoided in this world. Haruki Murakami said a sentence, which probably means: people’s minds are limited in their whole life. If I meet someone who makes my heart move while I have a partner, I will run away immediately and don’t do anything to myself. opportunity. The world is diverse, and so are the values. No one needs to stand on the moral high ground to criticize anything in the image of the Virgin, but multiple values do not mean that there is no bottom line. And I think the bottom line for marriage is, don't cause harm, and think about the consequences before you do anything.
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