Apart from the difference in educational methods, I think the biggest problem with mothers and daughters in the film is that the mother does not regard her daughter as an independent person, but only regards her daughter as an accessory of herself. Mothers think that their daughters must be like themselves, otherwise they will feel that their daughters are useless and unfilial. And only when the daughter obeys her mother's will, the mother will show love to her daughter. In this way, this conditional love annihilates the daughters' own individuality; in this way, even after the daughters grow up, they do not grow up in their hearts, but they still look at their mother's face every time, longing for the pitiful Love.
In fact, this kind of requirement for "Xiao", this kind of conditional love, is the stumbling block that hinders the healthy growth of children. I believe that only children who grow up in unconditional love will have confidence in the world and will love themselves and others. On the other hand, in China's thousands of years of history, especially the Confucian philosophy, the infinite obedience to parents makes us grow up with a burden - we have longed for the love of our parents since childhood, but this kind of love is conditional. The condition is: you must obey your parents' request. Where is this love, this is clearly a bondage.
But I think in fact most parents are kind, but their kindness, lack of wisdom and guidance, has become a kind of harm. This injury remains on the body even after growing up, and it cannot be healed. There is only one thing that heals it: unconditional love. I love you not because of what you did or didn't do, but because you are my child. But many parents don't understand this at all: they force their children to learn things they don't want to learn, do things they don't like to do, and they say it's for your own good. In fact, if you really think of me as an independent person, you shouldn't let your children do things that they don't like to do.
Mu Xin said: Knowledge and love are directly proportional. Of course, this statement. Only loving children in the right way is truly beneficial love.
Unconditional love makes people grow. Love is actually a self-education.
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