Why give birth to me? The most difficult proposition in the world - parents and children

Granville 2022-04-11 09:01:07

At first, I went to see "Mysterious Superstar" with the idea of ​​watching an inspirational movie, but I didn't really look forward to it, because a few words of introduction are enough to summarize the plot of the whole movie - a child trapped by his family dream trip.

First of all, let’s talk about the background of this movie: the whole movie of a utopian children’s world
, it can be said that the only “villain” is the father, teachers, classmates, mothers, younger brothers and stars, everyone has goodwill towards the heroine and Happy to help her, the heroine Yin Xia's only setback comes from her father. Except for her violent father, Yin Xia did not encounter any difficulties in her dream-chasing journey. She has a talent for singing, and effortlessly won everyone except her father. Approved.
But I personally think Yin Qianya's dream journey is not the key point. In the movie, Yin Qianya's family relationship is simply the epitome of thousands of families - the relationship between parents and children, unhealthy (domestic violence) marriage, dreams and the obstruction of parents

1, father With his daughter
's father, because of domestic violence, he was condemned and despised by almost all moviegoers, but this was about marriage. In terms of dealing with children, although Yin Xia's father was not necessarily very good to his daughter, he was also very kind. It's not too bad, at least she can learn to travel and even play the guitar at home (although her father strongly disagrees), at least in the whole movie, no matter how angry the father is, he doesn't beat the two children (of course it's not right to beat the mother). For Yin Qianya, the badness of a father lies in bullying a weak mother, being moody, patriarchal, and taking self-cultivation as an investment: he is willing to pay twice as much for his daughter's tuition, just to make her literate, so she can marry a Nice people.
Has the family ever had a short happy time? This is a problem. The movie did not show it. Every appearance of my father is on the opposite side of the protagonist. It can be said that this is a relatively stereotyped character. Every appearance of his only shows the "evil" aspect. The only The "good" aspect is that he is very caring and filial to the protagonist's aunt.
From the perspective of Yin Qianya and her mother, her father is a "devil".

2. Mother, brother and daughter
Compared with the father who is on the opposite side, the mother and brother are on Yin Xia's side, but Yin Xia's performance is not "perfect", and she also inherits her father's moodiness. When her mother helps her, she is very happy, but when When her mother stopped her, she was very angry. She made a plan to help her mother divorce, but did not tell her mother. The direction of the latter, perhaps this is the performance of her still young and immature.
Every time the mother and daughter talk in the middle of the night, Yin Xia’s voice is very loud. To be honest, when I was sitting in the movie theater, I was worried that I would wake up my sleeping father and let him find out in advance (of course, this is the movie world, and the artistic effect can be Understood, the right to be a small Tucao ╯▽╰). When her mother told Yin Qianya that it was best not to let her father find the computer, so as not to arouse her father's suspicion, Yin Qianya didn't care. When her father came home, she immediately found the computer that Yin Qianya was holding in her arms. It was her mother's lie that saved her. Yin Qianya, but Yin Qianya is only complacent that her father accepted this computer.
It can be said that the above all fully reflect Yin Qianya's immaturity and willfulness, and it also shows that in this family, the mother really opened her arms and worked hard to win a relatively free sky for her daughter.
For her younger brother, because of her father's preference, she once suggested that her mother and her should leave her father alone and leave her younger brother to her father. When her mother said that by letting her younger brother be by his father's side, his younger brother would become like his father when he grew up, but Yin Xia was unmoved. Instead, do you want to exile the mother and daughter's life forever under the father's control for the sake of the younger brother?
This sounds okay at first glance, but isn't it a kind of selfishness-to make it easier for him to escape (a father may be the least willing to give up his son), exiling his younger brother's life to his father.

【Yin Qianya】:

Of course, this does not mean that Yin Xia is not good, it can only be said that Yin Xia is still very immature and naive. She is trapped at home and school. Singing is the furthest thing she can think of. Her life is so warm and gorgeous. This is the only thing she can do for her "life". Her views on marriage are also very profound. She is dissatisfied and angry with her mother's situation, and encourages her to leave her father and live independently. She believes that people have goals before they start making plans. Made a plan for my mother's divorce, carried it out bravely, and really helped my mother.

I said so much, not to belittle Yin Qianya, on the contrary, this is a very real character. She is just a child who is studying, she is just an Indian girl who has never left her hometown, she does not have her own mobile phone, her childhood is shrouded in the shadow of her father, although she is brave, she is also capricious, and there are times when she is not thoughtful, Her worldview is not perfect, but she is very filial. She loves her mother who is standing behind her. Although her dream is important, she is willing to give up for her mother, and she is willing to recognize the "destiny" her mother calls. This is something that many children cannot do.
It can be said that Yin Xia is not the perfect protagonist in the ideal sense, but she is very real - there are advantages and disadvantages.

3. Mother and Domestic Violent Father
It can be said that in the whole movie, Yin Qianya's mother is the most complicated image. As a mother, she has always stood in the position of protecting her children, doing her best for Yin Qianya's dream. As a mother, she is very strong. While enduring her husband's violence, she does her best to protect and support her children.
As a wife, she is humble and cowardly, because the financial power is in the hands of her husband, and she is willing to bear his domestic violence, even taking it as her "life".
This is the true portrayal of thousands of housewives. Because of money, they are always short in their marriages, and they are always at fault. Because of their faults, their waists are not straight. When it comes to domestic violence, many women are even submissive and beaten. As a kind of "equivalent exchange" for the husband's money supply-because you support me, it's okay to be beaten by you, just treat me as being beaten to make money. There are also women who have an Ah Q spirit - it doesn't matter, he's just drunk/he's just out of control for a while.
In the face of domestic violence, all women can do is zero tolerance.
This is easy to do in China, and modern women with hands and feet can support themselves if they make up their minds—even if they work as cleaners or waiters.
And in India, in a country where men and women cannot be truly equal until now, this is a very, very difficult thing. Interested netizens can search for the national conditions of India, and they will understand why the mother is so resistant and afraid of divorce every time in the movie.

[Subject]:
Regarding the theme of this film, I personally feel that the core element is not Yin Qianya's musical dream, but "women".
Aamir Khan's "Three Silly Bullywood", "Wrestling, Dad" and this "Mystery Superstar", the status and "role" of Indian women have left a very deep impression on me.
Most of them are not respected and become tools in the hands of their fathers. When they are old, they can marry out and eat less at home.
Whether it's Yin Xia's dream journey or her mother's resistance to divorce, it's actually a manifestation of the awakening of women's power - everyone has the right to dream, why can't women?

4. In the family and children
movie, the aunt cares about the mother secretly giving birth to Yin Xia because - "I often think, why did my mother give birth to me?"
Why did the mother give birth to Yin Xia, the movie does not explain, but we probably It can be guessed.
And why did the father give birth to Yin Xia?
In fact, the father didn't want a girl. It was the mother who gave birth to Yin Qianya secretly. Therefore, Yin Qianya was born unpopular with her father. In order to marry her daughter to a capable family who might be able to help him, the father hoped that her daughter could read well. Books have culture.

In addition to domestic violence, using children as tools, and abandoning movies, when our parents stopped us, beat and scolded us, we might have secretly cried and complained when we were young—why did my parents give birth to me?
Why can't they understand me? Why can't my parents support my dreams? Why don't they care about my thoughts and my inner world? Why are they always so busy? Why are they so strict with me
...

The relationship between parents and children is a relationship that is more difficult to separate than love.
Because there are morals and obligations mixed in it, we are not obliged to give heart and soul to those we like, but we have the obligation and responsibility to pay for children and parents for free. We are good to the people we like because we like it, and to children, even if we don’t like them, we should be good to them in the world and in the big values, because we give birth to her and we are responsible for a period of life. But this is actually an unsolved topic, just like "who is greater in giving birth or raising kindness?" Raising a child is a process that requires emotional investment. Although someone has a child, he is not good to the child, just like The father in the movie is very materialistic and ruthless and selfish-a father who regards raising children as an investment, is it necessary to be filial to him?
In the second half of the movie, the father is almost cut off by the mother and daughter, but the mother and daughter have lived almost entirely on the father for more than ten years, and a lot of the money the mother takes to travel with the children is from the father who stole it. , and the father can be said to be not bad to the younger brother, which further exacerbates the complexity of the family relationship.
This situation is not only in India, but also in China. The father is not good to his children and his wife, but he provides financial security. Does the child still have the obligation to support it?
The movie is not over yet, maybe when Yin Qianya really becomes famous, she will give her father the corresponding alimony.

In general, the plot of the movie can only be considered "acceptable" to the Chinese. It is the meaning it wants to convey that elevates the movie a lot, making it meaningful and broad.
But for India, this can be described as a "women's revolution", which encourages women to bravely say "no!" to unequal marriages, and encourages girls to bravely pursue their dreams and fight for their freedom in life.
Overall, this is a movie worth watching, and one worth thinking about.
Its significance to the Chinese may be just touching, but for India, it may be an uproar.

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Extended Reading
  • Lorine 2022-04-09 09:01:08

    3.5. Off-topic note: After two days, I think back on the intensity of my crying when I watched this film, and I still feel that it can be described as thrilling. Not to mention the theater, I don’t watch more than twice a year. This has formed a huge dislocation from my objective impression of the film itself, which has led to profound doubts about the firmness of the rationality and aesthetics of my own construction. Being physically defeated by what you feel is low is really something to be concerned about.

  • Theresa 2022-04-08 09:01:13

    3.5; Mother's love is the constant torch that illuminates the dark corners of life, and is the real bright star. "There is no better mother in this world!" It may be the voice of many people. The road to self-reliance and self-improvement for women still has a long way to go, but it is very difficult. It is fortunate to be able to witness them throwing off their bonds on the screen. This courage is not so easy to place in any reality; the script is a little dramatic, and the way of ending problems also tends to be too idealistic, and the ending is just preachy.

Secret Superstar quotes

  • Najma: Did the chicken come first or the egg?

    Insia: It depends on the situation... If you want to eat chicken, the egg comes first - it hatches into a chicken, which you cook. But, if you want to eat an omelette, the chicken comes first - it lays the egg, which you make into an omelette.