"Under the Kerosene Lamp" is a cool recommendation. It's a movie about psychological manipulation. The specific content will not be spoiled. In short, the plot is exciting, the rhythm is tight, and the picture composition is great.
Such a film always arouses many thoughts.
The kerosene lamp manipulation method, the psychological manipulation in pua, or the wrong parenting methods for their children seen in film reviews, it is not difficult to feel that people's psychology needs to be affirmed. Different from the overall environment, the kerosene lamp method is more direct than the push-pull method in pua. The former is a deliberate suppression and negation, coupled with strong psychological cues; the latter is a combination of negation and affirmation, accompanied by distant rewards as goals. But it's all a pattern.
When watching the movie, I wondered, what kind of audience is this method effective?
I have heard a lot of stories. In a relationship, the woman encounters a scumbag. After being cheated and cheated for money, her attitude towards relationships will always deviate from the normal path. . is an incurable condition. The shadow of the past will accompany a lifetime, in such a case, maybe amnesia will play a role? Most of the victims of pua are narrow-minded and barren, so they do not realize what is the so-called "real good for you" in the current social environment, and they cannot determine what kind of behavior will harm the self. .
Not just this part of the group, I think the audience for psychological manipulation is all human beings.
Under the intimate relationship, it is inevitable to be influenced by the other party and have an impact on the other party.
People are social groups, no matter what kind of environment they are in, they need to be affirmed by others. Some people need verbal affirmation from others, while others just need some sort of book-like argument to be able to take it as affirmation. But there is no exception, the need for approval - is this because the essence of human growth is to imitate? So in fact, all viewpoints cannot be a completely new viewpoint?
Shuang mentioned when discussing with me that the kerosene lamp method and proper regulation are different. I think it's essentially the same thing, the difference is whether it's appropriate and what it's meant to be. The stable maintenance of intimacy is also a kind of game, and the balance will be stable. If one is strong and the other is weak, for whatever purpose, the weaker will eventually be shaped, not changed.
If you want to have a certain degree of resistance to psychological manipulation, even if you think about it, even if you are a person with a wide enough horizon, you cannot have a strong resistance. Especially under the easily influenced personality, it is easier to agree with the opinions of others. The best way may be to have a character that is firm and even conceited and can't listen to any advice, or is too swaying, so that even if you are maliciously guided, you will be influenced by an irrelevant word from a passerby and deviate from the path expected by the controller.
The biggest feeling after watching the movie is not how disgusting the kerosene lamps are, but how fragile human beings are. If you don't get the affirmation of others, you will be frustrated so far, and even be denied to the point where you can't make any decisions.
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