Love is never forced, and responsibility is not divided between you and me

Alexandra 2022-03-26 09:01:04

Many people say that this film is about marriage, about male and female rights. My starting point is simpler, I just want to start from the mother's point of view. In the whole film, what attracted me the most was not Billy's touching speech, but the very beginning of everything in the film, the departure of Billy's mother. When I just watched this film, some people thought that she was crying for no reason, why she cried, why she just left, and even would rather abandon her original love, her current marriage, and her responsibilities as a mother. There are not many scenes for the mother in the film, and the emotional substitution is not so strong, but the explanation is still very clear. There is only one reason for her to choose to leave, and she does not want to be who she is now. Will some people dismiss it and think that ideals and careers are more important to have the innate responsibility of maternal love? A person’s life is only this one life, what is the glory of the rest of his life without ideals and careers? What if there is no glory, is it important to have responsibilities, is it important to have the next generation, if these things can be weighed on a scale, they must be If a priority is given, then the responsibility is naturally heavier. But at this time, I will ask, so why must women in the family bear this burden? Don't women have even the slightest right to choose? Since ancient times, there has been a saying that men farm and women weave. Men are outside, and women are inside. It’s just that with the changing times of the times, it keeps changing. Is it really appropriate today? In career, women can even do better than men, just like in the film Billy's mother eventually became a famous fashion designer, and the annual salary is much higher than that of Kramer, which can fully support the burden of a family , does that mean that Kramer is quitting his job to take care of the kids at home? If not then why? There are many such women around me. They have ambitions and ideals, but when their careers are not on the right track, they have to face another headache that is marriage. The pressure of women when marriage comes is difficult for men to understand. When they gradually enter the marriage, the love gradually disappears and then condenses into crystallization. The pressure of women will follow again one after another, but this time the pressure is enough to affect their life. of. They are the most distressed when they wake up suddenly after busying themselves with their children, because when they recover from their busyness, they find that what they were about to catch has gone away from them again. Their feelings of loss and helplessness cannot be revealed to their closest people, because it will bring irrelevant pressure to them, and there will be no understanding without communication. This is why Kramer feels about his wife's rental. Very surprised reason. I once chatted with one of my teachers and talked about her distress. Just like Mrs. Kramer's troubles in the movie, she has ideals, dreams, goals, and even knows that as long as she works harder, she will be in a completely different situation now, but no, because there are still children. She failed to run away as bravely as the Mrs. Kramer in the play, but in my opinion, she is even greater, because my teacher thinks that she has concerns, and when she has concerns, she takes the initiative to resist the responsibility , took the initiative to help her husband make this multiple-choice question. When their careers and ideals are getting farther and farther away, they will complain and panic, because they, like struggling men, have really owned these things, and they can pin all their hopes on the next generation, but After all, that's not me! My mother is like this too. She is stronger than everyone around her. She desperately chases everyone around her. Because she knew that she could not achieve her original goal with all her energy. Am I sorry for her, of course not, but I can feel the helplessness in my eyes that it is regret. I know that the decision made by Mrs. Kramer in the movie is another option for the mother, but she will only envy but not be jealous, because the family is complete, this is happiness, it is just a price to her Say it a bit heavy. Mrs. Kramer's choice is not right or wrong, it's just a simple choice, because love is never forced, and responsibility is not divided between you and me. My mother is also like this. She is stronger than everyone around her, desperately chasing everyone around her, but what she has left in the past few years is really hard to make up. She will be anxious because she knows that she has exhausted All the energy is also difficult to achieve the original goal. Am I sorry for her, of course not, but I can feel the helplessness in my eyes that it is regret. I know that the decision made by Mrs. Kramer in the movie is another option for the mother, but she will only envy but not be jealous, because the family is complete, this is happiness, it is just a price to her Say it a bit heavy. Mrs. Kramer's choice is not right or wrong, it's just a simple choice, because love is never forced, and responsibility is not divided between you and me. My mother is also like this. She is stronger than everyone around her, desperately chasing everyone around her, but what she has left in the past few years is really hard to make up. She will be anxious because she knows that she has exhausted All the energy is also difficult to achieve the original goal. Am I sorry for her, of course not, but I can feel the helplessness in my eyes that it is regret. I know that the decision made by Mrs. Kramer in the movie is another option for the mother, but she will only envy but not be jealous, because the family is complete, this is happiness, it is just a price to her Say it a bit heavy. Mrs. Kramer's choice is not right or wrong, it's just a simple choice, because love is never forced, and responsibility is not divided between you and me. My mother is also like this. She is stronger than everyone around her, desperately chasing everyone around her, but what she has left in the past few years is really hard to make up. She will be anxious because she knows that she has exhausted All the energy is also difficult to achieve the original goal. Am I sorry for her, of course not, but I can feel the helplessness in my eyes that it is regret. I know that the decision made by Mrs. Kramer in the movie is another option for the mother, but she will only envy but not be jealous, because the family is complete, this is happiness, it is just a price to her Say it a bit heavy. Mrs. Kramer's choice is not right or wrong, it's just a simple choice, because love is never forced, and responsibility is not divided between you and me. My mother is also like this. She is stronger than everyone around her, desperately chasing everyone around her, but what she has left in the past few years is really hard to make up. She will be anxious because she knows that she has exhausted All the energy is also difficult to achieve the original goal. Am I sorry for her, of course not, but I can feel the helplessness in my eyes that it is regret. I know that the decision made by Mrs. Kramer in the movie is another option for the mother, but she will only envy but not be jealous, because the family is complete, this is happiness, it is just a price to her Say it a bit heavy. Mrs. Kramer's choice is not right or wrong, it's just a simple choice, because love is never forced, and responsibility is not divided between you and me.

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  • Evert 2022-03-22 09:01:35

    When we feel distressed for the father who has given so much to the son, we should think that the mother has also given a lot in the past five years. As the father finally said in the court, can the father only work and can't take care of the children? And can the mother only be the husband and the child? Through the role reversal in the traditional sense, the film tells us that fathers have the same value as taking care of children in the family, and mothers have the value of being a woman in addition to taking care of children. @2017-04-09 21:03:07

  • Kristy 2022-03-27 09:01:05

    The point of concern in the court is very subtle, [persistence] and [stability], and the ability of a marriage to maintain different positions on both sides. Why do couples have to leave to understand each other better? If it is related to the background of the film (feminist movement), then the film has risen a level. A woman who has left home finds peace of mind and a better version of herself, but at the same time, she is still unable to leave her children.

Kramer vs. Kramer quotes

  • Ted Kramer: What's the matter?

    Billy Kramer: Your hand's all sweaty! When's Mommy coming back?

    Ted Kramer: Soon. I told you before. Very soon.

    Billy Kramer: Is she gonna pick me up after school?

    Ted Kramer: Probably. And if she doesn't I will.

    Billy Kramer: What if you forget?

    Ted Kramer: I won't forget!

    Billy Kramer: What if you get run over by a truck and get killed? Then what happens?

    Ted Kramer: Then Mommy will pick you up.

  • [Phyllis comes out of the bedroom, naked, sees Billy and screams]

    Billy Kramer: Hi.

    Phyllis Bernard: Hi.

    Billy Kramer: What's your name?

    Phyllis Bernard: I'm Phyllis Bernard.

    Billy Kramer: Who?

    Phyllis Bernard: I'm a friend... uh, business associate of your father's... dad.

    Ted Kramer: [in the bedroom] Oh, Jesus.

    Billy Kramer: Do you like fried chicken?

    Phyllis Bernard: Fried chicken? Very much.

    Billy Kramer: So do I.

    Phyllis Bernard: Uhm... well, it's really... It's been nice seeing you and...

    Billy Kramer: Bye.

    Phyllis Bernard: Bye.

    [comes back to the bedroom]

    Phyllis Bernard: Kramer, I just met your son.